Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


30 Rochester, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:12am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Graduated from university
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm easy going, witty (supposedly), ambitious, adventurous and kind.
I love traveling and visiting foreign places seems to be becoming more addicting and intoxicating with each new trip.
So far I’ve learned to tango in Buenos Aires, surfed with Australians in Buzios (Brazil), rode elephants in Laos, and swam with dolphins in the British Virgin Islands. I’ve tried paella in Barcelona, escargot in Paris, Mezcal in Mexico, Caipirinhas in Rio de Janeiro, "brownies" in Amsterdam, schnitzel in Munich, warm pints in London, scorpions in Thailand, and chianti in Florence. I was robbed in Argentina and have gotten lost in more of these place than I would like to count and have stayed in hotels and hostels that probably wouldn't be permitted to stay open in the US. I've put it all on black at the royal casino in Monaco, rode on a Venetian gondola, saw the sunrise at Angkor Wat, and stood in the Colosseum and the Sistine Chapel. Hopefully, this is just the tip of the iceberg!

I do appreciate the kind of autonomy that comes with the bachelor lifestyle, but I think I’m ready for a more important type of freedom, the kind of independence David Foster Wallace refers to when he says: “The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day.”

I like going out with friends to live music, bars, comedy clubs, museums, baseball games, and exploring new places around town. I value physical fitness and living a healthy lifestyle.

I am an introvert that really enjoys being around people. That statement is not as contradictory as it appears...
Because of these traits (or maybe in spite of?) I have a lot of friends on the opposite end of the introvert-extrovert spectrum.

Although I do not get to see my family as often as I would like due to being 200 miles away, I'm very close with my family and value that aspect of my life highly. As George Burns said “Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city.”
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working as a workers’ comp case manager for the state. I probably spend too much of my work time subversively helping people cut through some bureaucratic red tape when I can get away with it…While this job is fulfilling in that there is always new case law to learn, I’m always looking for bigger and better things and would like to start my own business someday. Grad school is not out of the question (maybe finance?).
In other words, I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up.

I’m always planning my next trip abroad and am always looking for new things to learn/try. I occasionally do some freelance writing and would love to do more creative nonfiction writing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being there for and loyal to friends and family.

Being open minded and learning new things quickly.

Sports. I played every sport I could while growing up and still love playing/watching them. I've been doing crossfit for about three years now and love it. I played tennis in college and still play whenever I get the chance.

Writing. My dream job would be travel writing!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm one handsome ass motha f*cker...then they learn how incredibly modest I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love to read and am always looking for something new and interesting to raise my consciousness or to take me somewhere imaginatively original.
Right now my favorite writers are David Foster Wallace, Dostoevsky, Rushdie, Marquez, Joyce, Roberto Balano, Marukami, Alice Munro, Pynchon, Delillo, Jesmyn Ward, Rachel Kushner, Jhumpa Lahiri, William Gass, Jennifer Egan, Joan Didion, & Kafka. When I'm not in the mood to put in the effort (or not feeling pretentious enough) to read these writers, I'll probably be reading someone like Chuck Palahniuk or Kurt Vonnegut. I also really enjoy Malcolm Gladwell & Michael Lewis for my information acquiring reading.

Bands/artists: Japandroids, The Hold Steady, Smashing Pumpkins, Weezer, Nirvana, Frank Turner, The Pixies, The Velvet Underground, The Replacements, The Walkmen, Pearl Jam, Green Day, The National, Metallica, Gaslight Anthem, Spoon, My Bloody Valentine, Box Car Racer, The White Stripes, Queens of the Stone Age, Our Lady Peace, NIN, The Dead Kennedy's, Social Distortion, Talking Heads, The Distillers, Radiohead, Fiona Apple, Sonic Youth, Sublime, LCD Sound System, Vampire Weekend. Deftones....

TV: Game of Thrones, True Detective, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, Californication, Black Mirror, Scrubs, Big Bang Theory, Sherlock (the UK version).

Movies: Lost in Translation, City of God, Boyhood, The Big Lebowski, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Sandlot, Before Sunrise, The Departed, The Matrix, Her, Rounders, Inception, Old School, Manhattan, The Prestige, Into the Wild, Major League, Almost Famous, Good Will Hunting
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Kindle Fire tablet, that little Men in Black zapper that makes people forget stuff (great if I go on a date I don't like), the key people in my life that are always loyal and there for me, music, a sense of humor, and my passport.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Creating a start-up that I can run from a beach in Barcelona while I drink Sangria.

I'm young, I want to do things I can't when I'm older. No regrets and all that...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
While the era of Friday nights quickly turning into Sunday afternoons may be over, the occasional seeing in the dawn from the roof of a bar (or better yet, from the beach) can still be enjoyable with the right mix of people & beverages.
That, or doing the same thing I do every other night...Trying to take over the world.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you have something interesting to say/discuss, you are a genuinely good person, or you are gorgeous. Ideally, it'd be great if you exhibited a combination of the three!

More seriously: I am looking for someone who never settles for where they are and that understands that life is the sum of all experiences.
Applicants must be addicted to education. It's a lifelong endeavor and it's our reason for being. An intriguing mind will always be more to me than the most intense physical attraction.