Geekiness : I am a geek, and most of my interests run that way. Sci Fi, Fantasy and the like are my bread and butter, and I need someone of a similar leaning. All of my friends are Geeks, and any romantic relationship I would want to be a part of needs a foundation of friendship.
Comfortable Beauty: I find a woman most beautiful when she’s wearing the cloths she wears when hanging out with friends. Honestly, my idea of a ‘sexy outfit’ is a pair of jeans, a t-shirt/tank top (bonus points for one with a geeky reference), and flip flops. I realize that women sometimes feel the need to go all out with a fancy, uncomfortable dress, murder heals and an abundance of make-up, and that’s fine, so long as you’re doing it for you and not me, because I’d honestly rather you just be happy and comfortable.
Weight: A lot of guys I’ve known have a ‘no fat chicks’ policy. These guys always made me a little sick because they set some arbitrary weight like 130lbs, and won’t accept women who weigh more than that. I have no poundage weight mark other than I would really like a woman who weighs less than me. I am overweight, and I would much rather have someone lighter than me to give me a motivation to lose weight than someone heavier than me who might make me care less about losing weight.
The Ability to Kill Spiders: I have a pretty deep seeded arachnophobia. I don’t go screaming in terror of arachnids, I have control of my fear, and if there’s a spider in my room I will murder it with great prejudice (the normal ‘male’ response to fear.) Still, a woman who doesn’t mind (or likes) killing spiders is a huge turn on for me.
Straightforwardness: There is nothing more attractive to me than a woman who knows what she wants, and isn’t afraid to tell me. If I’m with a woman, my main motivation in the relationship is going to be making her happy. A woman who does away with bullshit subtlety and tells me how to make that happen is a definite plus.
Hubris: I see too much of this in the world today. People take too much pride in who they are, and as a consequence begin to see people who are different than they are as inferior. This is more of a general turn off for people in general than potential dates.
Deceit: Don’t pretend to be something you aren’t, it doesn’t matter who or what you are there is someone out there who will love you for you if you give them and yourself a chance.
Red Nail Polish/Lipstick: I don’t really have a well reasoned explanation for this one. I know red is supposed to be the sexy color in our society, but I’ve always found it unattractive as lipstick, and even more so with nail polish.