Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Note: I'm in an open/poly relationship with a super awesome person,
and not *actively* looking for more partners (especially not
hookups). But, if you're a super awesome person, and we'll mutually
improve each other's lives, I'd love to go on a date! I just want
to make it clear that I'm not "playing the field", and I'm not
particularly interested in random OKC hookups (if I wanted a grindr
account, I'd have one by now).
People and relationships come first for me. I can pretty much
survive anything when I have a strong community around me, but a
paper cut will totally ruin my day if I haven't seen another human
being for a week.
I'm neither fatalistic nor naive: I don't think that saying, "The
world is a pretty screwed up place" is inherently depressing or
cynical, but I do think that saying "...and there's nothing we can
do about it, it's human nature, so fuck it, who cares?" is very
depressing and cynical.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Hopefully, reducing people's suffering. That's the goal, anyway.
Intellectually and philosophically, I'm a big-picture,
society-smashing radical, but on a day-to-day level, I find that I
care quite a bit more about making sure one person can get through
their week than I do about changing the world. Ultimately, I think
those two pieces (individual empathy and institutional justice)
feed off each other.
Careerwise, I'm working a corporate job that pays well but isn't
all that meaningful. Its biggest perk is that it gives me a lot of
free time with nothing to do in front of a computer, so I get to
work on artsy/activisty projects, or just relax and surf the web,
depending on how I'm feeling.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Speaking confidently about things that are important to me
- Listening to people's experiences with an open mind
- Making puns
- Rambling (verbally and ambulatorily)
- Playing strategy board games
- Saving the world before bedtime (I wish. Alas, I am not a
Powerpuff Girl, and things often can't be fixed that quickly.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair. People pick me out of crowds pretty easily.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Recently read "Getting Bi," an anthology of personal
narratives about bisexuality published by Boston's own Bisexual
Resource Center. Also recently read The Revolution Starts At Home,
and I'm working on Towards Collective Liberation by Chris Crass. To
be honest, I read a lot more activisty blogs than books these days,
simply because I have a job that keeps me in front of a computer
for long hours.
Music: Sweet Honey in the Rock, Bonnie Raitt, Leonard Cohen, the
occasional classic rock hit, though I'm always looking for new
favorite artists that go beyond the typical cutesy misogynistic
love song or whiny breakup ballad.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Communication (and good people in my life who value it)
2) Some quiet, private space to decompress on occasion
3) Role models (not necessarily "heroes," though; I try to avoid
putting people on pedestals).
4) Public transit
5) Some kind of ongoing project
6) Access to new and exciting information... via the internet, a
library, or whatever other means.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- The housing co-op I'm living in. How to make it a place that
meets the needs of all its members, as well as the larger community
- How to create genuinely equal relationships in an unequal society
(or at least how to come closer to that goal. This two-part article
is my favorite writing on the subject:
- How to remain authentic/accountable in my activism
- How to break down communication barriers, and make things like
consent, emotional hangups, fears, hopes and dreams all things we
can have genuine conversations about without embarrassment
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depends on the week. I could be working, hanging out with friends
and roommates, doing something activist-y, or playing board games
at MIT. In the future, maybe I'll be spending my Friday nights
going on dates? Maybe going on dates... with you?
See what I did there? That was totally smooth and not at all
hackneyed, right? Awesome, I totally rock at this.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I gave a speech at my own college graduation. I basically spent
seven minutes telling everyone to stop panicking, because we're all
going to handle this "real world" thing just fine. It's three years
later, and so far so good!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- If you're excited about the idea of making communication and
consent a central part of your relationships. To me, this means
actually talking about what we're interested in, rather than the
more commonly practiced routine of guessing what people want and
hoping nobody gets hurt (which tends to result in people getting
- If your politics lean generally leftwards and/or
- If the books/movies/etc. portion of your profile is not
the only section of your profile with meaningful content. I'm
always happy to talk about media, but I mostly use TV/movies/video
games/internet to stave off boredom when I'm on my own at 2AM
working a night shift, and it's not the main thing I want to bond
over. In other words, I don't need more people to watch Doctor Who
with, I need more people in my life who are enjoyable enough to be
around that I forget that television exists altogether.
- If you're curious about something in my profile or an answer to a
match question. Even if you just want to ask about that one thing
and never go on a date; I'm cool with that, I like talking to new
- On the other side of the coin: If your profile says you
categorically won't date folks who are trans/POC/fat/HIV+/etc.,
then you're not going to date me either. Your grossness doesn't
have to be pointed directly at me for me to distrust you. I will
check your match questions. Also true if you fetishize any of the
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