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Koufonissi

43 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:49am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from med school
Job
Medicine
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm back from my long trip!

Okayokay, here goes: I like to think of myself as good-hearted, curious, a dreamer, a romantic, practical, perfectionistic (which is why this profile is so freakin' long).

When I was little I would play one instrument for a little while and then got bored and less fulfilled and would change to another. I used to like to show off what I could play but then in college really found depth in music and love to play from my soul when I can. I'm not big on following directions - I'd much rather make it up along the way and explore. It's really fun to figure out songs by ear - to listen to something so closely and get to know it. I think a lot of art encourages that - photography, drawing... Mindfulness is key.

I like eating picnics in high places - a tree branch, or a mountain. I feel at home in a redwood forest and in Italy and love the Amazon jungle...I also like being mischievous and playful - many different fun ways of being... Friends of mine and I used to go to a restaurant speaking in various accents - or would act out scenes in public to make things interesting. Okay, I'll leave it there.

I am curious, thoughtful, and secretly wild.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to live it as fully as possible. I don't define myself by my profession and like I said above, I'm not one to do just one thing. But professionally, I work as a psychiatrist in a non-profit that helps folks who have no home, no job, and/or mental illness. I love working with folks that experience the edges of human nature - and also love thinking about psychology and trying to learn wisdom about people and life.

I am a man who values helping people in a respectful and holistic way. I love to talk plainly and openly about deep things. It's also fun to know general medicine and about the workings of the body in-depth - where all the muscles are attached and that sort of thing. I'm always wanting to grow and learn - and so delve into various interests.

Surely like many others, I'd like to write a novel, and it feels like the time is coming soon for that. Speaking of that, I just took an intensive architecture program that was awesome - and kicked my ass too - like being back in med school. But I learned a ton and would like to incorporate something about design and engineering and architecture more into my life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good with my hands - making and fixing things (I used to make Christmas presents for folks - lamps, fountains - was really fun - should do it again), massage ... delivering babies (a profound experience years ago). I'm getting better at photography and music. I like editing (except sometimes editing my own work - long ago I had a visual learning disability and it still pops up from time to time). Oh-making breakfast: omelettes, crepes.. It's an art. Breakfast in bed?

On another note, a good listener (one would hope, being a psychiatrist), I don't want to be THE listener or caretaker in a relationship. I'm big on balance - I'm interested in listening and also have lots to express - and value silence as well.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
hmm - first things - friendly, engaged, asking follow-up questions.... On a deeper level, it sometimes takes a bit for my personality to really come out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: IMPRO: Improvisation and the Theater, the Alexandria Quartet, A little book on the Human Shadow, Sounding the Territory, a Gate at the Stairs by Lorrie Moore - beautiful writing. Reading Physics of the Future. Love that stuff: science geeky tech... I love great novels where the writing is rich, the themes are poignant, the ideas challenging. Speaking of that, I just read The Bone People - first two thirds were great. I have some qualms with the last fourth. But the characters were deep and real, and the writing fresh (though the book was written in the 80s). Other recents: Cutting for Stone, the Sparrow...

Movies: Raising Arizona (and most Cohen Bros films), Hero (wow - like watching a modern dance performance), La Cite des Enfants Perdus (bizarre in just the right way), The Triplets of Belleville, and other foreign films (that might be what I watch the most); I like action movies like Bourne Identity, classics like Lawrence of Arabia, and I have fond memories of movies from long ago like the Princess Bride, independent films - You Can Count on Me was very well done and not overstated. I just remembered Time Code - very cool movie in which the screen is split into quadrants, each showing part of the drama happening in real time. The Secret in Their Eyes - masterful!

Music: Silvio Rodriguez, Pedro Luis Ferrer, bluegrass (would love to get some more good bluegrass - any suggestions?), Gonzalo Rubalcaba

Food: Chia kombucha - who would have thought - but it kicks ass! Mangoes, Greek salads, flourless chocolate cake, avocado milkshake (seriously - had it first in Ecuador on the coast - they can be awesome). Just learned that I have some sensitivity to gluten and dairy [whah whaaa] - so that's cramped my style a bit, but limitations can also inspire creativity. I've recently got into home-brewing water kefir. Fun and dangerous (I'll tell you about some mishaps).

Podcasts: TED Talks are awesome (would be fun to watch them and discuss) and I really love KQED's Forum, especially the ones Michael Krasny does - he's such an articulate, perceptive, and broadly knowledgeable interviewer. Democracy Now is my favorite news program - it kicks booty. When I was a kid and first heard the word booty in elementary school, I pictured it as being spelled boodie. We'd go around saying "MY boodie don't stank" to each other. Well, maybe you had to be there... Or maybe I'm just writing this as a foil to the erudite Krasny...

Trees/plants: Aspen, Redwood, Manzanita, Magnolia, Avocado (I've been having fun recently growing avocado plants from the pits).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
moonlight, growth, swimming in hidden pools, mangoes, challenge, laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
sustainability, life-cycle analysis, the big picture, architecture, psychology, the workings of things, politics (though I didn't think about politics or history much at all in my younger days; was just focused on the future of the world rather than its present or past)...writing a novel that also concerns the above...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working on a project, reading, dancing - salsa, contact improv - doing something random, watching a movie, hanging with friends or going with them on some adventure... Or maybe random acts of kindness - I like random surprises. Or, related, how about some prank that makes people think - like at Cafe Gratitude (where each dish has affirmations like "I am abundant"), putting a little sign in the toilet that says "I am Pissed."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once when I was little, I threw some muck from the Everglades at a tour-guide - I didn't mean to - really - just meant to act like I was going to do that - well anyway, it hit him right in the chest and I was pretty ashamed; the worst was I thought my father probably believed he encouraged me to do it because he smiled when I acted like I was going to throw it - so I was even more ashamed because of that. As a 5 year-old, there ain't much to do other than cry in them circumstances.

Psst-- here's another: not so big into sports teams. I love to play sports - don't get me wrong - but to make a huge deal about my-team's-better-than-yours-and-that-means-something...?? Okayokay - I loved watching the World Cup...

Shhh! - I think I'm some kind of special for never owning a tv, but put me in front of Sherlock or Walking Dead and I get addicted just like the next guy.
You should message me if
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If you're playful, creative, a geek/nerd, love exploration of ideas, philosophy, other cultures and places; are passionate and enjoy life... If you would be a great mother and want kids... If you like scavenger hunts...adventure... Brains, curiosity, humor, vulnerability turn me on. Narcissism turns me off. It's fun to appreciate beauty together. I also seem to be attracted to women who are positive but not Pollyannish, like to dabble in improv acting or other playful arts acting 8 . If you are available emotionally and caring, honest and full of integrity, you're a good communicator, supportive, wanting to learn about/challenge ourselves, each other; delve deep into life.