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I'm usually really reserved around strangers, though the level of quietness varies quite a bit depending on the person and my caffeine intake that day. I do sometimes have random bursts of gregariousness when the mood strikes, but they're pretty unpredictable. I try not to take myself too seriously and I try to accept people for who they are and appreciate them, but I'm also difficult to manipulate and have pretty strong boundaries. I truly believe that everyone has something to teach me. I try not to regret anything, and instead integrate the cringe worthy experiences into my life as lessons learned. That's what I aspire to do anyway... I have a somewhat dry and often crass sense of humor. I laugh easily and often and I think that the most flattering thing someone can do for someone else is to try to make them laugh. It just feels so good. I'm playful and I love practical jokes and pranks, roughhousing, tickle fights, good natured teasing, and random physical competitions (arm wrestling, thumb wars, paper airplane contests) and watching my friends engage in these is about as close as I come to watching sports. I love animals and children and adults with child like senses of wonder, enthusiasm and curiosity. I totally count walking to work as exercising. And springtime gets me high on life man. I tend to be intrigued by people who are quiet at first and need some drawing out and have senses of humor that kind of sneak up on you like a pleasant surprise. This can be tricky since I'm also way quiet at first. In my day to day life this is probably only an ideal situation when a more outgoing mutual friend is there to bridge the gap. I have a soft spot for nerdy, eccentric, unique types especially those who find themselves questioning things all the time. I find cynical, sarcastic and playfully bitter people very amusing. Thoughtfulness and intelligence minus pretension are very attractive to me. Random Factoids: I think Conan O'Brien probably has one of the highest I.Q.'s on the planet. I generally only enjoy going to pubs and bars when it's an off night and there aren't huge crowds/lots of noise. I lived in Oregon for 4 years. I lived in Southern California for 3 years & found it soul crushing. I've also lived in New Hampshire and New York, but only briefly. My brother is a musical prodigy and I have a tin ear. I am a night owl to the max! I have to try really hard to not make assumptions about people based on their zodiac signs, yet still consider myself to be a fairly rational person.

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• Kotodateru

I'm working in my dream job and living in my favorite place on earth surrounded by people I love, admire and respect. It rocks pretty hard.

Taking care of myself, others, children and animals. Getting boring, tedious, red-tapey shit done. Organizing the fuck out of shit. Seriously, set me loose on your closet. Being tenacious and fierce when I need to be (which isn't often, but it's nice to have in reserve sometimes). Connecting people with the pre-pubescent boy side of their sense of humor.

That I'm very quiet at first, but not necessarily shy...

I'll pretty much give anything a chance, but I especially like:

Coming of age stories (A Tree Grows In Brooklyn, Angela's Ashes, Tuck Everlasting), Asian American memoirs (I have no idea why, perhaps I have a tendency to fetishize the other; The Woman Warrior, Nisei Daughter, Catfish and Mandala) and End-Of-The-World fiction (The Road, The Stand, Alas Babylon)

According to Netflix my favorite movie genres are Foreign, Comedy, Drama, Independent, Horror, Thrillers, Sci-Fi & Fantasy

Hmm my favorite music at the moment (and for the last couple of years) is alternative/indie/radical Hip Hop (The Coup, Dead Prez, Jurassic 5) but I listen to a lot of other stuff as well. Here's a random sampling from party shuffle on my iTunes (Pearl Jam, The Mars Volta, David Bowie, Public Enemy, Queen, Wilco, The Beatles, Gravediggaz, Dead Kennedys, Squirrel Nut Zippers, My Morning Jacket, Talking Heads, Stellastar, Stevie Wonder, The Clash, The Cars)

I'm one of the least picky eaters I know, but I try to eat organic, local, and fresh (rather than processed) when I can. I'm not a Nazi about it or anything though and will totally still eat the neon orange mac & cheez and shit like that if someone serves it to me. One of the few things I miss about SoCal is Baja Style Fish Tacos. Foods I loathe include Cheezits, Doritos (which should totally have an "oes" at the end, yet doesn't...), Tater Tots, and Hard Pretzels. I'm a beer, chocolate and coffee snob, but all wine tastes pretty bad to me (though I have noticed that the dryer the wine, the less offensive it tastes to me) so I'll drink box wine if that's what's being served. I have this thing about trying to make myself enjoy things that I dislike. A recent success is olives. It only took me 28 years, and now I actually like eating sliced black olives. Whole black olives and green olives in any format are still gross.

Bathing at least every other day (I know how first-world this is, and I am duly ashamed) Edit: I was informed recently that this makes it sound as though I bathe infrequently. I was thinking it made me sound kinda high maintenance but most of my friends are hippies so who knows.

Laughter (my own and that of others)

Going barefoot whenever possible

Dairy (I tried)

Vermont (I tried, admittedly not very hard)

Affection

Right now, about how good my life is and how lucky I feel. Also sometimes worrying about when the other shoe will drop.

Well, I work second shift M-F, so usually I'm working, but on a typical Saturday night I'm... Drinking, loving, laughing, talking, listening, watching, making, drugging, traveling, cooking, cleaning, wandering.

I'm in an open relationship. I am free to fuck, date and love as many other people as I like. I'm not anti-monogamy, but I'm not interested in seeing people who would want to change that part of my life. I like being free. I'm NOT Wicca, and I'm not into Ren-Fairs or RPGs. I don't even listen to Tool. It's cool if you're into/do any of the above, I just wanted to get the polyamory stereotypes out of the way...

Despite my answer to the "Drugs:" section, I do not smoke pot, again though, it's completely fine if you do. Actually I often prefer the company of those who do...

For the purposes of dating: You like chubby girls, but are not necessarily a 'chubby chaser' (in the fetishy, "ooh can I pinch your arm fat?" way...). I can't be charged with statutory rape if we hook up. It is biologically impossible for you to have been my mom/dad (i.e. when I was born, you were not old enough to babysit me) If you smoke tobacco, you are willing to never smoke it around me.
For the purposes of friendship/activity partners: Um, you live near me? Dating people who don't is pretty much sucking up all of my gas money!
Especially encouraged in either category: You're a night owl, there seem to be so few of us, we must unite!
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