Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


27 Oxford, UK Man


Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 20–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 1
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Open relationship
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Norwegian (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Half English, half Norwegian, and now seem to be stuck in Oxford, which is OK with me.

In a happy, 'monogamish' relationship with a woman I love deeply. Looking to explore new connections with new people in a spirit of adventure and honesty. I'm an openminded individual, attentive, caring and friendly. Can be a bit shy at first, but warm up considerably with just a little time.

Summarizing myself otherwise seems difficult. I'm happy with life and pursuing happiness and balance in all aspects of my life, and, probably for the better, turning into a bit of a hippy. For everything else, see the next section :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In the last year of a Ph.D. in Pure Mathematics (as in the kind which kills a conversation if I try to talk about it). As expected, I fluctuate weekly between thinking it's going OK to despairing at ever finishing in time. The fate of every PhD student I suppose. I tutor undergrads in maths as well, which I enjoy a lot.

In the process of beginning to work out life post-PhD. I used to think going into academia was the only thing for me, but nowadays I'm beginning to think more flexibly about it. Something mathsy though. And hopefully in Oxford!

Outside of my work, I try to maintain a small repertoire of classical guitar pieces (mostly Bach), and slowly try to add in new ones. I also like jamming to jazz music, improvising generally, and also accompanying my partners singing of Neil Young, Joni Mitchell etc.

I enjoy doing a lot of sports and exercise. Have gotten really into yoga in the last year, which I practice regularly. Besides being great exercise and opening my oh so stiff hips, there's a meditative quality to it which I find highly rewarding. Also enjoy playing badminton, which to contrast the yoga is very fast-paced and fun (I shout a lot during games, but also laugh a lot too). Otherwise do other complementary exercises.

In the last few years I've become addicted to wildlife hiking, especially in Norway, so will periodically try to go off on a big hike. In between I go for long walks in the woods around Oxford.

I also meditate fairly regularly, and occasionally attend day-retreats. As it turns out, achieving enlightenment is hard. But: it is rewarding to try :)

I love dancing, especially to any beat which is remotely swingey, and try to make sure I go out dancing with friends at semi-regular intervals.

What else....I enjoy cooking a lot (for myself and others), especially improvising, or getting masterclasses from my much more skilled housemate. My other housemate is Italian, and gives me masterclasses in judging my pastameals. She's also really hot and I'm lucky to live with her (she also checks out my profile sometimes).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being far too competitive in games of Risk (or any game really).

Not being embarrassed to ask stupid questions.

Listening and communicating. Cuddling.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I look uncannily like a reincarnated Christopher Marlowe (google him!) Actually this is more like the first thing people who know me usually notice about Christopher Marlowe, but anyway.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Some of my favourite novelists: Hermann Hesse (especially "The Glass Bead Game"), Margaret Atwood (I'll weep the day I run out of books of hers to read), Haruki Murakami, Orhan Pamuk, Isaac Asimov, Umberto Eco and Vladimir Nabokov. Also a big Lord of the Rings (now have beautiful Folio editions of all the Tolkien works, wohoo!). Oh, and Theodore Zeldin's "An Intimate History of Humanity"!

Some of my favourite film directors: Kubrick, Kieslowski, Kurosawa, Bergman, any film with a script written by Charlie Kaufman, David Lynch, Coen Brothers. Plus too many other specific films to mention.

Favourite shows: The Wire, Battlestar Galactica, The Office (UK), Spaced, Sopranos, Big Train, Extras, The Thick of It, etc.

Favourite music: loads of jazz (Coltrane, Jarrett, Mehldau, Scofield, etc.) and classical (especially Bach, Bartok and Stravinsky). Also bands like First Aid Kit, Haim, and singers like Bjork, Fiona Apple, Joanna Newsom, Joni Mitchell, Lyla Foy etc. Electronic music like Jon Hopkins, Botany, Four Tet, Matthew Dear, Caribou, Lindstrom, etc. etc. Too many to name really.

I'm very passionate about trying to experience great art in general. My general philosophy is there's too much great art in the world and not nearly enough time to experience it all, but I'm gonna try anyway. Always up for recommendations of new stuff.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Wild nature to hike in.
Family and friends.
Physical activity/sports.
A room to retreat to.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My research, yoga poses, drinking enough water and eating enough food, and reminding myself of upcoming social events (my diary exists only in my head).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depending on the time of the month, I might be out at a full moon fire with friends and strangers, playing a drum or a guitar before swimming in the river. If the moon is not full, I might be out at a house party, hanging out with my flatmates, or just resting, if the social events are scheduled for the next day instead.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've written a sizeable number of love poems.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Any of the above strikes a chord I suppose.