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29 F Santa Cruz, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 23–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Aug 28
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think of My Self as more Autumny or Springy than Summary (har
har). I grew up in a hot, humid place, I went to college in a
freezing white wintery place, I lived for two years in a
rainy, cloudy place, and now I have the exciting ability to tell
you that whatever weather you're complaining about, well, you ain't

I like adventures. I like locks and keys and maps and doors that
lead to new places. I like traveling and seeing what's around the
next corner. I am fond of desks with lots of doveholes, houses that
don't make sense architecturally, rabbits, cats (though I'm
allergic), caves, mountains, forests, beaches, puns, treeclimbing,
books, reading, staying up very late at night, talking to people,
being alone, sitting on rooftops, smelling new good smells,
smelling old smells that remind me of things, creating new
languages, tower libraries, and second-story bedrooms. And I like
learning new things about biology, which is good, since that's what
I'm going into career-wise.

I really enjoy fast-moving discussion about things that
people are passionate about. Which sounds pretty vague. But if
you're passionate about it, whatever it is, it's probably going to be

I identify as a queer woman. It annoys me that OkCupid has only 2 gender options, but semantics in general also annoy me a little.

In the interest of self-disclosure and honesty (which I rate pretty
damn highly), I should say that Aprilarcus and I are married. I'm interested in meeting people with whom to hang out or possibly more. I suppose this is where I am supposed to slap a label on myself, but I don't really like any of the ones that exist. Poly-open-non-monogamous? Take your pick.

At any rate, new friends in any capacity are always encouraged.
Single or double scoop. And I'm entirely serious about that "in any
capacity" part.

I'm kind of forward, but I'm also open-minded, non-judgmental, and
generally very cheerful and happy and bouncy. I just lack subtlety.
Or so I'm told.

And finally, I'd like to put here that while threesomes are
sometimes an option, my primary goal here is not to look for
threesome (or moresome) partners. I do, however, require that you
be interested in meeting Aprilarcus and at the
very least be pleasant to her, if not fond of her. And if you have
a partner, I want to meet them, too.

Fair warning: I am currently checking OkC pretty infrequently. If you don't get a response from me for a while, it is likely because I haven't seen it.

I am inquisitive, adventurous, and straightforward
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Grad school in biology. Hiking, random adventures, drinking beers with friends. Running around town exploring. Doing crossword puzzles. Going on bike rides. Reading books. Reading papers. Did I mention grad school?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, making stupid puns (see: first line of my profile), understanding people, reading, being playful, climbing trees, running out on a whim, being happy, giving advice, not giving unsolicited advice.

Noticing small details in my surroundings and getting really excited about them and pointing them out to whomever is with me at the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'd say probably my hair. It has its own personality. One girlfriend once said that it seems to accurately reflect whatever my mood is at that moment.

People almost invariably think I'm taller than my 5'4". Apparently I've got presence?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
These are stupid, but here are some I thought of off the top of my head.


Uncle Tungsten: Memoirs of a Chemical Boyhood, by Oliver Sachs
The Bone People, by Keri Hulme (all I want to do is make people read this book)
Watership Down, by Richard Adams
And All Between, by Zilpha Keatley Snyder
Lighthousekeeping, by Jeanette Winterson
Heat, by Joyce Carol Oates

And many more.


All the blah-blah indie hits, you know. I like thoughtful movies that don't necessarily follow all the tropes. I've been enjoying Mad Men a lot for its understatement, and I loved Avatar: The Last Airbender for the way it set out story tropes and then played with them and broke them down.


All the blah-blah indie hits, you know. I take particular joy in The Weakerthans, Julie Doiron, The Dresden Dolls, Chris Koza, Death Cab for Cutie, the Decemberists, Azure Ray, etc etc etc.


Goat cheese, butternut squash, pumpkin, broccoli, icecream, almonds, almond-flavored drinks and desserts, mushrooms of all types, kale, scones, plums, perfectly ripe Fuji apples, lots of other fruits.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. friends 2. books 3. trees 4. confidence 5. outside 6. knowledge
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What makes people tick, the world at large, what I'm going to do in the next few days, gender, hypotheticals, nerd divisions, how pretty everything is, what makes hot people hot, where the line between friendly and desperate is, because I find it fascinatingly slim (with data taken mostly from my own responses to people's approaches), whatever new thing has caught my eye
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maybe making ridiculous art plants from materials gathered out and about, or maybe going to Pirate mini-Golf, or maybe getting drinks with friends, or possibly going on a backpacking trip, or maybe hanging out at home and watching shit on the internet. I think Saturdays and Sundays are more interesting and varied.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I sing. A lot.

No, a LOT.

To myself, not very loud, but enough that my coworkers have brought it up as an endearing trait. "Oh, has someone turned the radio on in the lab? Wait, no, that's TreetopBrigade singing/humming to herself again." Fortunately I have a pretty good voice, so no one has complained just yet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you want to go hiking. Or biking. Or climbing. Or coffee-shop-ing. Or you like talking for hours about whatever comes up, rapidly changing threads and tacks and coming back to them later or... maybe not! Persiflage is a skill I value highly.

If you are looking for friends, because I am!

If you ID as some kinda queer (and I don't think this has to refer only to sexuality--I have definitely met queer straight people). If you're a straight-n-narrow vanilla guy, chances are pretty slim that I will respond to you. Not impossible, but extremely unlikely. Unless you're solely interested in friendship, in which case you should state that that is your objective.

Do not tell me what sex acts you'd like to engage in with me in your message. I'm all about communicating clearly with a sex partner to make sure we're both getting what we want out of sex and that consent has been established, but not until there is actual confirmed interest.

If your message is more than one sentence long. Tell me why you're messaging me! Tell me about you! "Hi how are you" is not something I will spend any time answering.