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Last Online
Aug 24
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hello, I am currently living in Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam. I moved here from the USA for 1 year, to teach children English, math, and science, and plan to return to the USA in April 2015. I might as well get this out of the way, I have been single for 7 years! Quite a long time, and it was choice of mine because I have been doing some serious “getting to know me” over these years, which have been very important in shaping my life as it is today. And now I feel I am genuinely ready to enter a relationship and be myself. And I feel ready to look for an intimate, long-term partner.

To provide something of my background, I grew up in Ohio, in a city. I lived in the same house, all the way through public school, with my parents who are still together. I didn't feel like venturing far after high school, so I remained in Columbus and studied Environmental Science at Ohio State University, earning my BS. Admittedly, my mind was not very career oriented when I chose the major, and so when graduation came I didn't like my career options, and decided to go straight to graduate school. By this time I was very eager to get out of Ohio and so I made the move to Oregon and Oregon State University for my Masters in environmental engineering. However, even while I was in graduate school my mind was primarily on subjects other than my degree of study. Primarily philosophy and psychology. After I finished this program I moved to Seattle and worked as an environmental scientist and engineer with a private consulting firm for a few years, but knew this was not for me long term. I took most of 2013 off as a sabbatical to try and sort out where I wanted to be headed in my life. I had felt most passionate about psychology, and specifically psychotherapy for several years, but could I really go back to graduate school?! After taking time off, working a few odd jobs, and running my own small business for 6 months (which really opened my eyes to the benefits of self-employment), I decided I needed something steady for a year while I prepared for some new great thrust in my life. So I headed to Ho Chi Minh City with some friends of mine, and that brings me up to the present.

I have decided to go for that MA in Counseling so that I can make my dream of being a psychotherapist happen! I start classes in September 2014, and I couldn’t be happier to finally making this happen (despite it being my second trip to grad school). When I return to the USA, I could really go anywhere, because my graduate program is online. And I don’t feel committed to any particular city at the moment.

Let me say something of my personality:). I am very insightful and reflective. My primary interest is in being as truly authentic as I can be, so I have devoted considerable time to getting to know myself and maintain this effort daily. I am laid back, and generally a home body. I like to stay healthy, but I am not big into exercise. I do yoga almost everyday. I eat anything. I am very gentle and open in my emotional expression. I have built a large capacity for honesty. I like to talk about feelings and ideas, but because of my history of trying to think everything through, I work more of trying to feel my way along nowadays. I have a very wide sense of humor, and am not easily offended. I also value having free time to myself, since I like to reflect a lot on my own life and current feelings.

I want to be humble that I have been out of romantic relationships and dating for a long time, so while I bring a considerable amount of authenticity and awareness of who I am, I am bound to need some catching up when it comes to functioning optimally in a romantic relationship. I have had very emotionally open friendships for years, so in this respect I am well practiced. I am not interested in something casual for very long. I am looking for a good long-term match, but I’m not willing to force or fake it. So while I want something serious, I will try to be realistic about its prospects. I won’t be back in the States for a while, but I am interested in looking ahead. And depending on whether or not I hit it off with someone before returning to the States, then it would influence where I choose to move when I return.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying hard to be as authentically me as I can be.
Continuing to improve my ability to be a good friend.
Studying to become a psychotherapist.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am a pro at being being silly about anything.
I am very good at relating to people's experience, and my genuine interest in the human experience makes me a very attentive listener.
Knowing my own thoughts and feelings about something.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I think I come off as confident and articulate and friendly.

Also I get compliments on my subtle, dry sense of humor. Something I can thank my family for.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: in high school I read a lot of fantasy fictions (LOTR and the like). In recent years most of my reading is on psychology. Been reading lots of books on psychotherapy: On Becoming a Person, Counseling and Psychotherapy, The Meaning of Anxiety, A Way of Being, Breaking From Your Parents.

Movies: I can appreciate most movies, and like to think about what they say about society, culture, and human psychology. My guilty pleasure has been fantasy fiction again (like in books), but I find them less palatable over time.

Music: I don't listen to a whole lot of music, but I like Death Cab for Cutie, The Decemberists, Arcade Fire, Explosions in the Sky, Cold Play, Imogen Heap, Radiohead, Mogwai, Mono, Rasputina, Sufjan Stevens, for some examples. Like movies, I am pretty open to music.

Video games: I've played a lot since I was in my early teens, and still usually play an hour a day. My current favorite is DOTA 2.

Food: everything. Some of my favorites are Indian food, thai, burgers, pizza, anything from the sea, just to name a few.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. a good sense of connection to my own emotions
2. honesty in my intimate relationships
3. empathy going in all directions in my close relationships
4. a strong sense of purpose in my actions in life
5. integrity to how I really feel
6. special people to be close, warm, and affectionate with
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I can more consistently remain true to my feelings in my actions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My "Friday night" is Saturday here, and I spend it with friends with dinner, conversation, and often games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I mentioned I have been single for 7 years, I think that counts;)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–32
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
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you feel like some mutual "getting to know you"