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LB4281

28 / M / gay / Single

Lynnwood, Washington

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Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 11" (1.80m).
Body Type
A little extra
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Casual sex
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other and laughing about it
Sign
Aries and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Dislikes cats
Languages
English (Fluently)

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I am contemplative, talented, and friendly.

My Self-Summary

My name is Bryan, but most call me Bear or LightBear, and that is my preference.
I'm a radical, pseudo-psychologist interested in ecological grief work and alternative food systems.
I am contemplative and engaged in a constant analysis of the world around me. With this, I can be intensely disclosing and communicative and rarely fight the urge to discuss and understand.
I'm am not interested in binary value judgments. I'm seeking compassion and non-attachment, not detachment.
I had a traumatic childhood, which has infused my adult life with a deep spirituality. I feel a strong sense of interconnectedness.
I'm unable to turn away from the big picture, and welcome insight that can reorient my perspective.

What I’m doing with my life

I'm taking a break from formal, agricultural education and working as the Lead Farm Expert for a local, urban farming company.
I'm visitting the gym at least 3 times per week to gain strength and work off some extra pounds.
I'm sort of looking for a peice of land to farm and also trying to find additional employment.

I’m really good at

Singing, guitar, hand drums, spinning poi, dancing (maybe), counseling, writing, teaching, song writing... I think anything is possible and that I can learn to excel at anything I want to, so the list is neither complete nor completable. I'll continue learning so long as I'm alive.

The first things people usually notice about me

My sense of humor, my laugh (chuckle), my warm and inviting personality. Some times people see me as intimidating because I speak with conviction even though I'm truly open to learn differently. They may see me as strong willed and talented.
My eyes are nice, and I think I'm cute.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

I love spices and home cooked meals. Fish is wonderful. I'm super appreciative of the tastes of Thailand and Vietnam.
Most of the books I've read are regarding farming, consciousness or self help. Illusions, Ishmael, The Fifth Sacred Thing, Permaculture, Gardening at the Dragon's Gate, Tao te Ching, Awaking from the Dream, The Carpathians, Conversations with God, Eco-Psychology, Shambhala: the Sacred Path of the Warrior... that is a few books that have helped form my consciousness, but certainly not all and I don't adhere to any one of the philosophies contained therein. I am also a lover of text books.
I love melodic, beautiful, powerful music. I like some emo, folk, rock, classical, contemporary, techno, break beats, trance. Lately I've been enjoying some house music minus some of the vocal sampling.

The six things I could never do without

Food, Shelter, Water, Sexuality, Community, Compassion

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Interpersonal dynamics, agricultural or other sustainable inventions (integrated systems), psychology, totality, gardening, Permaculture design.

On a typical Friday night I am

Visitting my lovely friends.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I'm willing to admit anything, but I'm not looking to shock, and what I'd be willing to admit might be taken as such.
Ask me anything.

You should message me if

You want to have a meaningful, deep connection unashamed of who we are, how we struggle or what we will learn from each other. Message me if you are a strong communicator who is able to engage in conflict and confrontation with compassion and a will to produce positive results: understanding, honesty, love.