Since I had my kids pretty late in life, I am 52 and they are 12 and 9. They are the center of my world when I have them. I am not necessarily looking for a man to recreate the nuclear family with us. Here is what my life looks like now: My kids and I do just fine on our own, very happy and stable. I have a warm relationship with their dad, who lives nearby and has them 50% of the time. He's a great dad. I am fortunate enough to be able to work part time, so that I can pick the kids up from school most days, cook nutritious meals for dinner, and hang out with games or books. Sometimes we shoot hoops in the backyard (it's just a hoop in a small area, nothing fancy). Sometimes we throw a frisbee around at the dog park. Sometimes we go out for burritos with friends. Sometimes we watch Chopped (although I keep tv to a minimum for them).
When I don't have my kids and I'm done working I love to go for walks/hikes with friends, and alone (with my dog). Quite a number of great places can be walked to from my house, which I love. I love gardening, too. I love exploring new places, eating out, going to movies, camping, renting kayaks somewhere, playing on the beach, hiking on Mt. Tam and sleeping at the West Point Inn.
In my relationships I try to have as much integrity as possible: striving to be honest and respectful, accepting and nonjudgmental, seeing and loving the whole person before me. I guess I'm looking for someone who strives similarly.
Most of my professional career has been as a teacher, with kids. For 4 years I facilitated groups (kids and adults) through a ropes course, low ropes and high ropes, out in the woods in Connecticut. (Low ropes is about team-building while solving group challenges; High ropes is about individuals facing fear, contacting inner courage and stepping forward.) I am currently teaching middle school writing. It is in many ways my dream job! I feel very fortunate in many respects of my life.
I am imagining no time spent with you AND the kids until things develop more seriously between us, down the road. But perhaps it would be different with your kids because they're older? I don't know. It would all work out. Of course at that point, we would love to welcome you to share in the family to whatever degree works for everyone. On the other hand, if you know you don't want any kids in your life, I'm not the one for you.
I am somewhere between "average" and "athletic and toned". I don't do a lot of high-energy workouts. I'm 5'6" and 130 pounds, pretty regularly proportioned. I'm certainly fit. I walk/hike 3 or 4 times a week, with various friends and alone (with my dog). We kayaked to camp at a private beach with some friends last year. Backpacking in the mountains? Great! I've taken my kids a few times. I like a little bike riding, but extended rides hurt my neck. I certainly don't mind if you go.
Please send me an email if we may be a good match.