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30 Santa Rosa, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:55am
Gay, Lesbian, Sapiosexual
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
When drinking
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Has dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
So, Cupid, you little sod. Put me on the spot.

~rubs hands together~

Who the Devil am I? If you happen to know how Descartes wangled the luxury of a few decades answering the pertinent question, shoot me a message? I have a hunch that the secret lies in the ability to switch off a Furby, or similar existential triumphs... ~grins~

I believe that the most alluring part of the body is the mind. I adore curious, quick, bright conversationalists. I find nothing more enticing than a good vocabulary and a sprawling smile.

I'm soulful, mischievous, deeply poetic and dry-witted to an almost sinful degree. I have a wicked British tongue, which I temper with long, warm, full-bodied hugs. I'm into intellectual, spiritual and emotional exchanges.

A few things I believe in:
- The power of anticipation
- That love comes in many forms, including platonic. I'm open to all of them.
- The Law of Attraction
- The unscrupulous use of the word 'fuck' and all of its derivatives ~winks~

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to entice you with my OKCupid profile? Here, kitty kitty... ~curls finger invitingly~

In reality? Splitting time between the UK and California. Juggling three vocations involving: one or two things from the 1950s; writing; and helping others with their writing. Watching TED talks. Talking about relationships, psychology, philosophy. Also (Christ, as if there needs to be more), therapist-to-be.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting you at ease on the first date. Empathy. Apparently, being a touch enigmatic. Wielding a riding crop, when asked very, very nicely. Peppering stories with filthy language.

I'm really bad at:

Being on time. I hereby pledge to repay my temporal debt with cupcakes/kale/lashings, as per your persuasion.

Friends with benefits, casual hookups, etc. For me, sex is intense and expressive. It is art and intimacy. Meaningless sex bores the absolute fuck out of me, yummy pun-play and all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Currently obsessed with:
Building an Origami Apartment

Sylvia Plath, Paul Eluard, Pablo Neruda, Rabindranath Tagore, Charles Baudelaire, Carol Ann Duffy, Elizabeth Jennings

Anything with a dirty guitar lick. Let's get all coy somewhere with loud music and a sticky floor.

Also, Sheldon Cooper. And Sherlock. And Eric Northman.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A reason - Why do we do what we do?
Growth - How can we do it better?
Connection - How can we become closer?
Charm - How can we entertain each other?
Discovery - New dishes, new cities, new bookstores, reaching new understandings.
Sexual exploration - Blending mind and body, pleasure and pain, intimacy and energy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like to take a private moment to dance in restroom stalls when I'm out at a bar. If I'm gone for 10 minutes, you can guarantee I'm momentarily grinding the stall door. There's an image for you.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are emotionally, and otherwise, intelligent.

You believe in the power of kindness. And adventure.

You want that cupcake...

You're a curious kitten and want to find out if I'll reply... ~winks~