Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am me. What defines me is fluid, and changes daily, but I do
strive to be authentically me, and some of the things that are
intrinsic to my nature are my expressiveness, my passionate
opinions on topics close to me, and my ability to cuss like a
sailor. I am deeply loyal to those who earn my trust, and I carry
grudges just as deeply. This means I value honesty and strength of
I don’t follow politics or sports because honestly, I get too
worked up. My faith is my own, but I’m happy to share my beliefs
and views with others, and won’t push mine on you. I’ll expect the
same consideration. That doesn’t mean I don’t like a good
discussion! Bring it! I can speak on many topics and enjoy
I enjoy getting out and doing things, but do sometimes have to be
enticed. I have a tendency to sit and zone out in my own head when
left to my own devices, creating new worlds that I enjoy. But it
takes very little persuasion to convince me to go meet new people
or try new things. Introduce me to something you are passionate
I am currently exiting a long term (20 year) relationship, and my
ex and I are on great terms, which is necessary as we co-parent our
daughter. I am slowly dipping my toe into the dating world, so
patience is a must. If you are looking for an easy lay, I’m not the
person for you. I’m looking for someone willing to spend some time
getting to know me, who knows the value of developing a friendship,
and who respects me and themselves enough to enjoy the
I grew up Goth and Alternative in Southern California during the
80’s and 90’s, so my tastes are different from the Midwestern norm.
While I’m relaxing at home, NIN or Depeche Mode is likely to be
playing, though lately I’ve been thoroughly enjoying Florence + The
Machine, Breaking Benjamin, Seether, and a few other things. What’s
in rotation for you musically right now?
I am on a unique combination of meds that means I can’t drink. I
don’t mind if you drink, but understand that I really can’t imbibe.
Thankfully, virgin drinks are still allowed, so I’ll sip my virgin
Pina Coloda or a glass of iced tea while you enjoy a drink if you
I have very tasteful tattoos and one or two piercings. I've
recently discovered my current natural hair color. That took some
getting used to believe me. But I like it and in this time of
bleaching and dyeing, it takes courage to go against the
I am looking for a partner, a companion or simply a good
conversation. I need to relearn how to talk to men and how to move
forward past my heartache. I can't do it on my own so I really do
need your help. Especially if you are someone I can share my quarks
with, who will laugh with me and challenge me.
If I haven’t completely frightened you off, send me a message. Tell
me what part of my profile intrigued you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
At the moment, I'm focusing on the day to day of living. The
dissolution of my marriage has not been easy, but I am dealing with
things to the best of my ability.
One of my current projects is cleaning and organizing my Tower. It
was my work space while I was in school. Now I have to pick what
type of art to explore: construction or fabric. I'm leaning toward
fabric. So I have to pack some of it away and reorder the room.
It's a big job.
My marriage was not conventional, and neither is my separation, as
I still live in the same house as my legal husband and his S.O. We
are focusing on keeping things as stable as possible for our
daughter's sake, and I find that each day is easier than the last
as we work on this as friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Conversing. I like a good discussion.
Sewing, I can draft a pattern and copy some designs. I especially
enjoy renaissance festival garb.
I absolutely love to read most anything. SciFi/Fantasy is my
favorite. But recently I have enjoyed some historical non-fiction
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my curves. Even when I was skinny I was full figured. Now,
I need to tone up and drop a some weight, but I look awesome in a
bodice or corset.
I've also been complimented on my lips, which made me smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read most anything. There are some things I won't touch; if I
feel that I'm going to be emotionally raped by a book it's a no. I
recently read 'Lets Pretend This Didn't Happen', an Ian Mortimer
historical, some YA fiction, it goes on.
I like all kinds of Pop Culture. I go for entertaining and good
characters. I can forgive plot because my favorite movies have
automatic weapons, t&a, car chases, and explosions.
I grew up watching John Wayne and Magnum P.I. I love witty banter,
gorgeous cinematography, compelling score.
I like Mexican food, Americana, and such. I'm not that fond of
seafood, more a meat and potato kind of girl. But I will try new
Musically, as I stated above, I'm an old school Goth who is
enjoying Florence + The Machine, P!nk, and Linkin Park. Some other
favorites are 30 Seconds to Mars, John Denver, Blaqk Audio, I could
go on and on.
P. S. I was just informed that Rocky Horror Picture Show, Monty
Python, British comedies, Buffy, Firefly, Dr. Horrible, Legend,
Ladyhawk, Resident Evil and such, are not Popular Culture. Next she
said that Anime and subtitled cartoons are weird. And that nobody
watches old movies. With singing. I stopped listening before she
started in on my porn. Kink.com is awesome! And it's porn.
Everybody knows porn. Right?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
That which are not 'things':
P.S. I was just informed that people don't have Towers anymore.
Well poo! Where am I supposed to put my treasures? The Duengoen?
The boy child is in the Dungoen. He would break everything! Suck
it, Susie! I. Have. A. Tower.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
....how to best kill the Covenant Hoard. It's intense. Those
suckers are devious.
Honestly, life. The choices we make. The laughter between friends
and family. How to design my next project. If I should shave the
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...eating dinner with my family and watching tv. Exciting, right?
Yep. No fun here. Move along.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am open about everything: ask. Know that you will get a honest
and graphic answer.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can hold a decent conversation, you aren't looking for casual
sex, and you haven't been terrified by my profile. I'm a strong
woman looking for someone who can hold their own with me, and I'm
worth the challenge. Damn it!
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