So you can stop reading now if you wish ....BUT
HERE IS A READING CHALLENGE ABOUT ONLINE DATING: The internet is screwing us up. We look at profiles and become judgmental about a total stranger just by browsing. We want to sum a person just by what they write here. Back in the late 80's and 90's when we were either in high school or college we will get to know a person without intervention of the Internet. If we thought someone was cute or handsome then we will get to know them and make sparks fly with time. Now we want everything so fast that we get online to window shop for dates. We scan & run profiles then pick a person to message, if they respond and it works out since you're being judge as well, then you arrange to meet in person. You want to try it out and have no time to waste so your expectation is that within 10 min to 1 hour you want those sparks to fly on that very first meeting. That's Crazy!!! Men on here are so hung up on an ideal woman (porn star looks, good cook, heart of gold, financially independent but submissive, willing to unleash her freak in bed, treat you like a king) that if the person doesn’t pass/meet your list of imaginary requirements from looks to the void you are trying to fill is over on the first date. Yes we women are guilty as well but is usually men that back off first. Sadly you go back to searching going on date after date looking for that "ideal one" that is just a figment of your imagination or that replacement for a love you once had. Either way you're funked (I said funked). This statement may or may not be true for you but there is an 80-20 chance I'm right! That's why I'm skeptical about this online dating thing.
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HERE IS WHERE I DROP YOU A BOMB!! You know that girl you met a few days ago that locked lips on the first date or the one that after 2-3 dates did the hubba hubba hooking up with you? Have you talked to her lately? What happened? Well, I am NOT her and let me tell you something else; if you have an "ideal or imaginary" list of requirement that I need to meet I should tell you that you are wasting date money that you can use towards a gym membership or a nice shirt for the holidays. Sorry to come down so hard but I'm just saving us time. You're probably thinking this girl must be dominant & a pain in the neck. Well you're entitled to your opinion but what I say here is the cover to a book so go ahead and judge!! So my dear, you can surf my page, try to figure me out, look, read and leave and get as far from the truth and I won't be offended. I'm not trying to meet/date tons of people. There is only one person out there for me and I will make perfect sense to him. He may or may not be here on okc but if he is then I'm just a lucky girl! 💋