Would you mind if your significant other fantasizes about other people while having sex with you?

• Yes.
• No.
• Maybe, it depends on who they are thinking about.

I think it would depend on how OFTEN they were fantasizing about others. Once in awhile is fine; I mean, I think we all have moments where we fantasize about many different things.

But if they were fantasizing about someone else EVERY time (particular if that someone else were a real person in their life that might be an attainable person for them to date)... well, I would assume that they were unhappy with me, and I would rather that they be happy.

Is text messaging an acceptable way to ask someone out on a date?

• Yes, it's a great way.
• Yes, but it's pretty lame.
• No.

It depends...

For a first date, I think one should ask in person. After that, whatever works best!

If you had the opportunity to drink from the fountain of youth and revert to a younger age, would you?

• Yes.
• No.

Hmmmm well would I still have all the experience and knowledge I have now, just in a younger body??? I would totally do that!

But revert to a younger self, including that younger self's experience and knowledge... no, not so much!

Do you think it is a good idea for a single person to try to create or adopt a child and raise it on his or her own?

• Yes.
• No.

I think this really depends on the situation of the single person. If the person has a steady income, can provide for the child and is a stable individual, then they should go for it.

Also, are we including in "single" those who are not or CAN not marry? If we are including people who may be in long-term, committed relationships but are not married, then absolutely, 100% they should be free to undertake the responsibility of children if they so desire.

In terms of birth order, which are you?

• The oldest child.
• The youngest child.
• Somewhere in the middle.
• All of the above.

How the FUCK can one be all of the above?!?!?! I mean, one could be an only child, which would make them the oldest and youngest of the family... but there wouldn't exactly be a middle then, would there? If they meant only child, why not just SAY only child?!?!?!

So in looking at a friend's profile on a networking site, I ran across pictures of my ex-husband's wedding. He married the girl he left me for (who happens to be my friend since about junior high). Honestly, I accepted their relationship long ago, but running across the pictures of their wedding was a bit disconcerting. It's like it jumped out from around a corner.

I did have a few moments of freaking out. And I worried, am I not really over him? Do I want him back? I mean, why should this bother me so much? I shouldn't care whether he gets married, right?

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that I am so much happier now than I ever was during my marriage. And I didn't ever think I was UNhappy in my marriage. I guess that having an opportunity to live on my own and truly discover myself has helped me become happier.

Also, I DEFINITELY don't want him back. I don't want to go back to who I was... and going back to him (even if we both wanted it) would put me back into a dynamic that would change me.

I think the reason it affected me so strongly Friday was because it was so sudden. I thought that if a wedding was planned, I would hear about it through the grapevine. We still have mutual friends, and his aunt is still a friend of mine. I thought she might give me a heads up if something like this was going on. Well, turns out they didn't really plan it for very long. It was more an elopement that just a handful of people knew about. But still the shock was pretty tough.

I guess a good thing that's coming out of all of this is my decision to take back my maiden name. I hadn't done it before because my married name was on both my B.A. and J.D. diplomas and my law license and everyone in my practice knew me with my married name. I didn't want to go through the hassle of changing my name. But seeing her tagged in all the pictures with his last name made me realize I don't want to have that name anymore. So starting tomorrow... hassle here I come!

I think my parents and my paternal grandparents are pretty happy I'm changing my name back. I feel like it will give me a further sense of closure about this whole chapter of my life.

Do you talk about your sex life with either of your parents?

• Yes
• No

Well, we don't discuss it at length or anything. But occasionally the random comment has come up...

Perhaps the source of this complaint isn't quite as horrible as the Hindenburg crashing and my headline is a bit hyperbolic, but I don't care.

Okay, here goes:

"They're" is a contraction of "they are" (e.g. They're going to be really annoyed by this post). When you mean "they are" please DO NOT use "there" or "their". "There" refers to a place (e.g. Put that over there). "Their" is the possessive of they (e.g. They lost their minds reading all this moronic crap). Is this really that hard, people?!?!

Also, "your" is the possessive of you (e.g. Please use proper grammar in your writings). "You're" is the contraction of "you are" (e.g. You're going to drive me nuts with this terrible spelling). Again, is it REALLY that hard?!?!

And for those of you who are spelling-impaired, you're on the FREAKING Internet and there are amazing tools available to you - for instance, the Google toolbar. Simply download the Google toolbar and you'll be able to run a spell check in ANY web form (including your journal posts)! Amazing, isn't it?!?!

All joking aside, if you really are concerned about having bad misspellings in your profile or elsewhere, just download the toolbar (toolbar.google.com). Unfortunately, it won't catch those annoying commonly-confused words.

Okay, /rant. LOL

I wish there were a way to turn off finding out about "mutual burns" (one star personality or looks matches on QuickMatch) without turning off the four- or five-star matches.

Honestly, I don't give a shit if someone I thought was a one-star for personality or looks thinks the same about me. And I don't need the notification.

Your Score: Fun Loving Soul

You scored 15 Extroversion, -5 Sensitivity, and 18 Openness!

You are an open and social person. When you are left alone you tend to get bored and restless, and too much time without social contact makes you fade away. A good night surrounded by friends and laughter soon perks you back up.

You are trusting and truthful, and you aren't good at hiding your emotions from friends or strangers alike. People need to take you as you are - and often they do. You are confident but not overconfident, sensitive but not touchy. You aren't afraid to give your opinion, or to let someone know when they have offended you, but you don't constantly fly off the handle. You simply want to make your thoughts and feelings known, and you are just as open to hearing others' points of view. Sometimes your friends feel slighted by you, because they aren't as open about their feelings as you are, and so you don't always notice when they are feeling hurt or down.

Your daemon's form would represent your social and emotionally honest nature, as well as your balanced sense of self. He or she would constantly be throwing him or herself into the moment - enjoying the feel of the afternoon wind, the throbbing beat of music in the club, or helping you argue your point.

Suggested forms: Meerkat, Labrador Retriever, Sea Lion, Lemur

Link: The Golden Compass Daemon Test written by wolfcaroling on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the The Dating Persona Test
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