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42 Brooklyn, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Okay), French (Okay), Hebrew (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I will make it really easy for you to screen me and get me off your radar right now if I am not what you are looking for.

I am trying to take this online dating process seriously. If you are not willing to actually read my profile and determine whether you feel I might be a good match PRIOR TO our first date, please don't reply to me.

I am looking to EITHER meet my next girlfriend, who may or may not be the woman I am going to marry, OR I am looking to meet someone cute and fuck my brains out until one or both of us meet our next significant others.

If you do not fit one of these two categories, please do not reply to me.

If you ARE looking for your next relationship, please note that I am searching for A REAL CONNECTION. The kind where we pay attention at a very deep level to each others' family and personal histories, to what we each really care about and value in life, AND we try to support each other in those endeavors on a daily basis.

If anything about my life as described in this profile makes you feel that you would never be able to have this kind of connection with me, please do not reply to me.

I am very good at having meaningful conversations with people from all walks of life, from homeless people to top business executives and entertainment celebrities. I know my place in the world, but I also know how awesome I am. I am good at making people smile and laugh. I only surround myself with people who appreciate me, and whom I also appreciate in some deeper way.

I have no other motives here and I am not looking to play games. Once I meet my next girlfriend, I will deactivate my profile on this site.
What I’m doing with my life
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My life is in flux. My life has been in flux for several years and will continue to be in flux for several more.

Concisely, I graduated with honors a million years ago from Duke University and won an award for my thesis there. I moved to NYC in 1998 to pursue my dream of becoming a professional singer songwriter. Along the way, I also studied recording engineering and production. I was published 10 times in a major pro audio magazine as a writer/interviewer. I networked a lot and took a lot of classes and seminars for years, and then from 2007-2014, I was a member of the artist management team of a very famous older recording artist who was voted one of Rolling Stone Magazine's 100 most important female rockstars of all time.

I managed her office; was her dedicated in-house worldwide travel agent for a 16-piece touring ensemble for almost 5 years; did most of her high-level business correspondence and some of her contracts; and I executive produced her 2012 Christmas album.

This job came to an end 1 year ago exactly, and after some months of soul-searching and 3 back to back deaths in my family, I am right now starting my own music business consulting company as well as selling everything I own that I have not used in the past year in order to declutter my life and make space for my new business.

I am scattered. I procrastinate a lot. I am interested in a lot of things. I can speak 6 languages to varying levels of proficiency and my current main interest/hobby is learning to read Chinese. I hope to take my Chinese and other languages to professional levels in the coming years, and I would like to go to grad school for language and linguistics.

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music business stuff.
Studying and speaking various languages.
World travel.
Deep thinking.
Intense conversations.
Sexy stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have very small eyes, big teeth and a lot of chest hair.

I suppose I have a nice smile, thanks to 7 years of braces when I was a kid.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot of books on linguistics as well as on the history of jazz and pop music and the recording industry.

My favorite novel is Jack London's Martin Eden. I am currently rereading Joyce's Ulysses -- this time while taking an audio course taught by a professor of English at Dartmouth so I can hopefully appreciate the novel this second time around.

I think that Alan Moore's writing in book 4 of Watchmen is the most beautiful use of the English language I have ever encountered. Every time I reread it, it literally makes me cry. TS Eliot's "Prufrock" might be tied with Moore in my heart of hearts.

I am very passionate about vintage kung fu movies, and have a huge DVD collection as well as many books on the genre. My favorite is The 36th Chamber of Shaolin from Shaw Brothers. It is one of the most inspiring films I have ever seen.

I am a sucker for romantic comedies (mostly because my own love life is so utterly pathetic). I have a soft spot in my heart for Disney / Pixar animated films as well as Harry Potter movies -- especially if they are overdubbed into another language. Frozen in Cantonese is amazing.

I watched every directorial effort by Alfred Hitchcock (including all of his television episodes and TV films) during a 2 month hiatus from work in 2014. I am slowly doing the same with Roger Corman movies right now.

Not surprisingly given my love of all things Chinese, one of my favorite types of cuisine is Cantonese food, which I often eat with my friends, classmates and students. I also like Thai food, and am constantly in search of a burger deluxe that will change my view of the world. My favorite food by far, though, is seafood, in particular shellfish -- shrimp, calamari, octopus, crabs, clams, etc. Love, love, love it.

I am an adventurous eater and recently started sprinkling cricket flour on my baked potatoes and salads at home to make life more interesting.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cats Squeaky and Munchkin, and the memory of my other cat Stinkie, who just passed away at age 16.
Languages and travel.
My friends.
My family.
Deeply green vegetables and seafood.
Faith in myself and my life direction.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How far I have come, and how far I want to go.

I have never really felt "normal." I have always felt slightly out of place, slightly out of step -- that I somehow don't really "fit in" -- except for maybe when I spent time in Scotland during college and then again in Hong Kong last year and the year before.

I want to meet a woman who also feels that something is "off" with her life -- that she doesn't really fit into a cookie cutter mold cast by corporate America or by the expectations of her friends and family. Maybe together we can help each other's lives make a bit more sense than before.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am a very independent guy, but it would be nice to share my Friday nights with a cute lady who would also want to share her Friday nights with me.

I don't drink much, but will be cool with you drinking socially as long as you are equally cool with me most likely not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Chickflicks sometimes make me cry...
You should message me if
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You think I am interesting and cute, and you want a fun experience and genuine friendship that might turn into a lasting romantic relationship and possibly even marriage and a family down the line.

In my big picture, I am looking to meet the woman I am going to marry and have a family with. In the shorter term, I just want to meet and date a really fun and cute lady who likes me FOR ME and does not want to change me.


I have been very fortunate (and I am VERY thankful) that my OkC inbox is now bursting with email threads with an absurd number of interesting and beautiful women. PLEASE do not ask me to take you to a super crazy expensive bar or restaurant for our first date and suggest that I buy you an $18 cocktail! To me a first date should be inexpensive and all about the conversation, connection and chemistry, if it exists.

The first date should NOT cost me $50, especially since this profile very specifically and very politely lets you know that I do not make much money right now. I just started my consulting company and I am currently building my client base. I hope you can appreciate this request.

If this offends you in any way, we are absolutely not a match, even for non-committal naughty stuff! I have had wonderful first dates involving 2 simple cups of coffee or cappuccinos, or even 2 hot dogs, 2 cans of soda and a walk in Central Park. THIS is the kind of first date I will ask you on, and THIS is the kind of first date that my next girlfriend will appreciate.

I pretty much go on a date every night of the week right now, because I am actively seeking a girlfriend. Thank you very much in advance for respecting my need to keep our first date simple and all about the conversation -- not about the overpriced atmosphere and marble furnishings of some fancy lounge with the trendiest taquilas or vodkas.