Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
After about 50 or 60 waste-of-time-no-in-person-chemistry dates
from this site, I am going to take a different tactic:
I think that online dating is bullshit. Let me explain myself and
then, if you are still interested in either meeting me or fucking
me, please by all means contact me:
I have tried genuinely, over and over again, to find a REAL
connection with a woman via this site and there is always something
to sabotage that effort. Maybe 90% of the time, there is simply no
kind of physical attraction in person, even though we both might
look exactly like our photos and we both really dig each other's
The issue with online dating as I see it is that it sets up an
artificial scenario destined to fail from the start because it
reverses the logical order of the universe.
In "the real world," FIRST you see someone in person and determine
whether you are attracted to him or her based on their physical
appearance, the clothes they are wearing, the sound of their voice,
the way they move their body, the way they carry themselves and
interact with other people, the way they smell -- all of these
things are intangible and have nothing to do with what anyone can
write in an online dating profile.
In the real world, all of this happens in an instant, AND THEN we
make a decision whether to speak to this magical new person, based
on some kind of very real, immediate interest or lack thereof.
After we speak to this new person and are lucky enough to get their
number and go out on a date or several, THEN we get to know the
person further and figure out whether it might be "a match" based
on deeper concerns.
Online dating reverses this process and though it might work for
some people, it hasn't worked for me so far. THIS is where I am
coming from, and this is why I think this process is
Over the past 12 years or so, I have been out on over 110 online
dates with different NYC women from various websites and yet all
but one of my 15 or so girlfriends I have had since I started
dating 25 years ago have come from in-person meetings and in-person
I would love for someone to prove me wrong, but I am not very
If you are still interested in me, by all means, read my elaborate,
very well-contructed OkC profile below and contact me. If I am
attracted to your photos and what you have to say, I WILL
definitely write you back.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life is in flux. My life has been in flux for several years and
will continue to be in flux for several more.
Concisely, I graduated with honors a million years ago from Duke
University and won an award for my thesis there. I moved to NYC in
1998 to pursue my dream of becoming a professional singer
songwriter. Along the way, I also studied recording engineering and
production. I was published 10 times in a major pro audio magazine
as a writer/interviewer. I networked a lot and took a lot of
classes and seminars for years, and then from 2007-2014, I was a
member of the artist management team of a very famous older
recording artist who was voted one of Rolling Stone Magazine's 100
most important female rockstars of all time.
I managed her office; was her dedicated in-house worldwide travel
agent for a 16-piece touring ensemble for almost 5 years; did most
of her high-level business correspondence and some of her
contracts; and I executive produced her 2012 Christmas album.
This job came to an end 1 year ago, and after some months of
soul-searching and 3 back to back deaths in my family, I am right
now starting my own music business consulting company as well as
selling everything I own that I have not used in the past year in
order to declutter my life and make space for my new
I am scattered. I procrastinate a lot. I am interested in a lot of
things. I can speak 6 languages to varying levels of proficiency
and my current main interest/hobby is learning to read Chinese. I
hope to take my Chinese and other languages to professional levels
in the coming years, and I would like to go to grad school for
language and linguistics.
YOU MUST BE COOL WITH ALL OF THIS AND NOT THINK THAT I AM DOING
SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY LIFE.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music business stuff.
Studying and speaking various languages.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have very small eyes, big teeth and a lot of chest hair.
I suppose I have a nice smile, thanks to 7 years of braces when I
was a kid.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot of books on linguistics as well as on the history of
jazz and pop music and the recording industry.
My favorite novel is Jack London's Martin Eden. I am currently
rereading Joyce's Ulysses -- this time while taking an audio course
taught by a professor of English at Dartmouth so I can hopefully
appreciate the novel this second time around.
I think that Alan Moore's writing in book 4 of Watchmen is the most
beautiful use of the English language I have ever encountered.
Every time I reread it, it literally makes me cry. TS Eliot's
"Prufrock" might be tied with Moore in my heart of hearts.
I am very passionate about vintage kung fu movies, and have a huge
DVD collection as well as many books on the genre. My favorite is
The 36th Chamber of Shaolin from Shaw Brothers. It is one of the
most inspiring films I have ever seen.
I am a sucker for romantic comedies (mostly because my own love
life is so utterly pathetic). I have a soft spot in my heart for
Disney / Pixar animated films as well as Harry Potter movies --
especially if they are overdubbed into another language. Frozen in
Cantonese is amazing.
I watched every directorial effort by Alfred Hitchcock (including
all of his television episodes and TV films) during a 2 month
hiatus from work in 2014. I am slowly doing the same with Roger
Corman movies right now.
Not surprisingly given my love of all things Chinese, one of my
favorite types of cuisine is Cantonese food, which I often eat with
my friends, classmates and students. I also like Thai food, and am
constantly in search of a burger deluxe that will change my view of
the world. My favorite food by far, though, is seafood, in
particular shellfish -- shrimp, calamari, octopus, crabs, clams,
etc. Love, love, love it.
I am an adventurous eater and recently started sprinkling cricket
flour on my baked potatoes and salads at home to make life more
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cats Squeaky and Munchkin, and the memory of my other cat
Stinkie, who just passed away at age 16.
Languages and travel.
Deeply green vegetables and seafood.
Faith in myself and my life direction.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How far I have come, and how far I want to go.
I have never really felt "normal." I have always felt slightly out
of place, slightly out of step -- that I somehow don't really "fit
in" -- except for maybe when I spent time in Scotland during
college and then again in Hong Kong last year and the year
I want to meet a woman who also feels that something is "off" with
her life -- that she doesn't really fit into a cookie cutter mold
cast by corporate America or by the expectations of her friends and
family. Maybe together we can help each other's lives make a bit
more sense than before.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am a very independent guy, but it would be nice to share my
Friday nights with a cute lady who would also want to share her
Friday nights with me.
I don't drink much, but will be cool with you drinking socially as
long as you are equally cool with me most likely not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Chickflicks sometimes make me cry...
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