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I will make it really easy for you to screen me and get me off your
radar right now if I am not what you are looking for.
I am trying to take this online dating process seriously. If you
are not willing to actually read my profile and determine whether
you feel I might be a good match PRIOR TO our first date, please
don't reply to me.
I am looking to EITHER meet my next girlfriend, who may or may not
be the woman I am going to marry, OR I am looking to meet someone
cute and fuck my brains out until one or both of us meet our next
If you do not fit one of these two categories, please do not reply
If you ARE looking for your next relationship, please note that I
am searching for A REAL CONNECTION. The kind where we pay attention
at a very deep level to each others' family and personal histories,
to what we each really care about and value in life, AND we try to
support each other in those endeavors on a daily basis.
If anything about my life as described in this profile makes you
feel that you would never be able to have this kind of connection
with me, please do not reply to me.
I am very good at having meaningful conversations with people from
all walks of life, from homeless people to top business executives
and entertainment celebrities. I know my place in the world, but I
also know how awesome I am. I am good at making people smile and
laugh. I only surround myself with people who appreciate me, and
whom I also appreciate in some deeper way.
I have no other motives here and I am not looking to play games.
Once I meet my next girlfriend, I will deactivate my profile on
What I’m doing with my life
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My life is in flux. My life has been in flux for several years and
will continue to be in flux for several more.
Concisely, I graduated with honors a million years ago from Duke
University and won an award for my thesis there. I moved to NYC in
1998 to pursue my dream of becoming a professional singer
songwriter. Along the way, I also studied recording engineering and
production. I was published 10 times in a major pro audio magazine
as a writer/interviewer. I networked a lot and took a lot of
classes and seminars for years, and then from 2007-2014, I was a
member of the artist management team of a very famous older
recording artist who was voted one of Rolling Stone Magazine's 100
most important female rockstars of all time.
I managed her office; was her dedicated in-house worldwide travel
agent for a 16-piece touring ensemble for almost 5 years; did most
of her high-level business correspondence and some of her
contracts; and I executive produced her 2012 Christmas album.
This job came to an end 1 year ago exactly, and after some months
of soul-searching and 3 back to back deaths in my family, I am
right now starting my own music business consulting company as well
as selling everything I own that I have not used in the past year
in order to declutter my life and make space for my new
I am scattered. I procrastinate a lot. I am interested in a lot of
things. I can speak 6 languages to varying levels of proficiency
and my current main interest/hobby is learning to read Chinese. I
hope to take my Chinese and other languages to professional levels
in the coming years, and I would like to go to grad school for
language and linguistics.
YOU MUST BE COOL WITH ALL OF THIS AND NOT THINK THAT I AM DOING
SOMETHING WRONG WITH MY LIFE.
I’m really good at
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Music business stuff.
Studying and speaking various languages.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have very small eyes, big teeth and a lot of chest hair.
I suppose I have a nice smile, thanks to 7 years of braces when I
was a kid.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot of books on linguistics as well as on the history of
jazz and pop music and the recording industry.
My favorite novel is Jack London's Martin Eden. I am currently
rereading Joyce's Ulysses -- this time while taking an audio course
taught by a professor of English at Dartmouth so I can hopefully
appreciate the novel this second time around.
I think that Alan Moore's writing in book 4 of Watchmen is the most
beautiful use of the English language I have ever encountered.
Every time I reread it, it literally makes me cry. TS Eliot's
"Prufrock" might be tied with Moore in my heart of hearts.
I am very passionate about vintage kung fu movies, and have a huge
DVD collection as well as many books on the genre. My favorite is
The 36th Chamber of Shaolin from Shaw Brothers. It is one of the
most inspiring films I have ever seen.
I am a sucker for romantic comedies (mostly because my own love
life is so utterly pathetic). I have a soft spot in my heart for
Disney / Pixar animated films as well as Harry Potter movies --
especially if they are overdubbed into another language. Frozen in
Cantonese is amazing.
I watched every directorial effort by Alfred Hitchcock (including
all of his television episodes and TV films) during a 2 month
hiatus from work in 2014. I am slowly doing the same with Roger
Corman movies right now.
Not surprisingly given my love of all things Chinese, one of my
favorite types of cuisine is Cantonese food, which I often eat with
my friends, classmates and students. I also like Thai food, and am
constantly in search of a burger deluxe that will change my view of
the world. My favorite food by far, though, is seafood, in
particular shellfish -- shrimp, calamari, octopus, crabs, clams,
etc. Love, love, love it.
I am an adventurous eater and recently started sprinkling cricket
flour on my baked potatoes and salads at home to make life more
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My cats Squeaky and Munchkin, and the memory of my other cat
Stinkie, who just passed away at age 16.
Languages and travel.
Deeply green vegetables and seafood.
Faith in myself and my life direction.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How far I have come, and how far I want to go.
I have never really felt "normal." I have always felt slightly out
of place, slightly out of step -- that I somehow don't really "fit
in" -- except for maybe when I spent time in Scotland during
college and then again in Hong Kong last year and the year
I want to meet a woman who also feels that something is "off" with
her life -- that she doesn't really fit into a cookie cutter mold
cast by corporate America or by the expectations of her friends and
family. Maybe together we can help each other's lives make a bit
more sense than before.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I am a very independent guy, but it would be nice to share my
Friday nights with a cute lady who would also want to share her
Friday nights with me.
I don't drink much, but will be cool with you drinking socially as
long as you are equally cool with me most likely not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Chickflicks sometimes make me cry...
You should message me if
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You think I am interesting and cute, and you want a fun experience
and genuine friendship that might turn into a lasting romantic
relationship and possibly even marriage and a family down the
In my big picture, I am looking to meet the woman I am going to
marry and have a family with. In the shorter term, I just want to
meet and date a really fun and cute lady who likes me FOR ME and
does not want to change me.
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