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20 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi women
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:37pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Working on space camp
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Danish (Poorly)

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What I’m doing with my life
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After spending much of the past 3 years away on various salty adventures, I am now in the process of joining the Coast Guard. I love the responsibility and pride that comes with doing something difficult and worthwhile, and I am at my best when in charge of a group of people. Being a badass/authority in the eyes of the public isn't bad either!

The government being what it is, this means that I'm in a bit of a holding pattern for now, and therefore have waaay too much time on my hands! Aargh!

I will stay a Coastie for at least 4 years until they'll pay for almost all of my education, at which point I'll decide whether to stay in, study something maritime and possibly retire at 40, or pursue higher education in something related to bio-mechanics, electrical engineering, or social/evolutionary psychology. I'm setting myself up to have plenty of doors open when I have to make the big decisions, as I don't feel like 20 is when I should be deciding what to do with the ENTIRE rest of my life. :P

I have this dream/desire of moving to Denmark and either working in their Naval program (which is much more about national/public safety than any warlike bullshit) or doing research in my chosen field. Look into it, I bet you'll find that (by and large) Denmark's cultural beliefs and policies are pretty fucking neat!

Also, I believe men and women are pretty much the same, and 99.99% of the differences you observe are due to culture. I guess I'm both a feminist and an MRA, but both groups seem angry and one sided so I hesitate to label myself as either. I think that makes me an egalitarian, but sex and gender is something that I care a lot about and have strong opinions on.
I’m really good at
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Being non-judgmental (in real life), caring about other people's life stories, making you feel safe, going with the flow, understanding systems, talking to strangers who I'll never see again, analyzing people I meet on the internet, avoiding conflict, arguing constructively, being spunky, pleasing my partner, cooking delicious noms, smiling easily, singing (I think so?), planning well, being responsible (mostly), being very loving and affectionate, going downtown, making a mean White Russian, and I should probably mention sailing if it isn't already obvious. ;]

I'm really bad at:

Being angry, being on time, getting to bed early, doing dishes as I use them, respecting religious people, predicting relationships, not caring about you, acting as if things are important when I don't believe they are, and being confident before meeting someone I'm interested in.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People say I'm very approachable, and strangers will frequently start conversations out of the blue. I smile easily and am very friendly, polite, and genuinely interested in what people have to say.

Note: Living in Oakland has beat a lot of this approachable-ness out of me. It's still my natural state, but until I move to an area with significantly fewer schizophrenic hobos, it is temporarily in hiding. Don't worry, I'm still like that on the inside. :)

I won't directly confront people I don't know well if they're telling me something that I know to be inaccurate, because the vast majority of the time they're not going to be convinced. I'd rather learn about someone else's mind than waste my time and energy on someone I won't ever see again. However, if I deem it necessary or if the subject is something I care a lot about (gender issues for one), I am not at all afraid to state my mind. I am very stubborn when I want to be.

I can have a very snarky, politically incorrect sense of humor and way of orienting, and some of my beliefs can be insensitive or even downright ruthless. If anything, I am comfortable embodying conflicting viewpoints and ways of living. When you are no longer a stranger in my mind I am very straight up, confident, and verging on radically honest, but I often come across as sweet, innocent, and reserved to people who don't know me well.

I have a sort of switch in my head when it comes to people. Mode 1: nice but somewhat detached (assessing target's reliability [or target is Not My Type of Person]), and Mode 2: super playful, honest, and forthright about everything (target is trustworthy). I think sometimes this weirds some people out a little bit, but to be honest I am not particularly interested in those people either so good riddance!

I am also known to use both "Zomg!" and a semicolon non-ironically in the same text.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Only somewhat relevant, but before I discovered tallships and gained a life I did the World of Warcraft 18 hours a day for months on end thing, and have a total of around 350 days played on all my characters combined. I haven't played in a long time, but at one point it was a serious love of mine and I still have my Figureprint on proud display in my studio. So, I'd like to think I have some nerd cred. I also play D&D (Pathfinder) every Saturday, and attend board game nights sporadically.

Anyways, I think this is the most boring, useless section that OkCupid has up here so I'll try to make it interesting.

Books: Lots of Pop Science and high fantasy. I'm very picky about my fiction; lack of realism turns me off in nothing flat. I own a LOT of books.

Movies: Meh. Watching them is a good excuse to spend time with somebody. I have really, really high standards and if a movie has shitty annoying female characters it's hard for me to appreciate the rest of it. Again, realism is key. That said, I think the new Star Trek reboots were AMAZING. Could watch those all day. Same thing with V for Vendetta and a few others.

TV: Speaking of Star Trek, I was really really into The Original Series for a while, and Kirk, Spock and the rest still hold a special place in my heart. Haven't seen any of the other series, and don't feel compelled to.

I feel like I should mention I'm currently half in love with BBC's Sherlock, and I often have those running in the background while I do other things. I also draw them sometimes, and I dare say I'm pretty good with my pencils!

Beyond that, I don't watch TV really at all. I don't make any monthly payments besides internet and the only screens in my apartment are my computer monitors. Rarely I'll torrent something that strikes my fancy and watch all 4 seasons in a week.

Music: Oh lawrd. The links are the best representative of what I like:

Aggrotech and Futurepop. Dark, heavy industrial goth techno type shit about death and anger and lust and the holocaust and all that good stuff.

Trance/house with tons of breakdowns.

Etherial, melodic new agey stuff. Let it play till 2:45 for the full effect.

Bluegrass, traditional or otherwise. Love banjos and fiddles!! Which leads into...

Traditional celtic badassery. I know a lot of sea shanties and old folksongs, and they're REALLY fun to sing with crew when drunk.

Sometimes I listen to pop. Especially dancey party music. I like it, and I don't feel like I should have to defend that to anyone.

That said, I listen to almost everything with the exception of death metal and classic rock, and my speakers get near-constant use. I even have have a pair permanently set up in my bathroom because showering without music is unbearably boring. ;]

Food: Spicy, and with weird ingredients or combinations. I eat a lot of veggies, seafood, and dairy. And bacon. Always bacon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A well stocked kitchen
Affection (and Y chromosomes - bite me.)
The knowledge and open-mindedness that the internet enables (/r/ anyone?)
Sailing offshore, where you can't see land <3
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In one area of my life I feel powerful, beautiful, interesting, strong, and very damn proud of what I do. But when I get back to shore I still feel inadequate about being like everyone else. I know this is BS, but I still sometimes wonder if I can fit in.

Also, I am not "petite" and don't aspire to be. I'm not what most people would consider overweight, but I have some meat on me and I'm not interested in changing that. Being forthright about this is best for all parties in the long run.

I think snuggling is the greatest pastime ever, and I feel grumpy and deficient without it. Feel like feeding my addiction? ^.^

To go along with the next section, I am not interested in anything long distance. Sexy foreign pic buddies included. If you're visiting temporarily that's fine, but I am on here to meet real flesh and blood people, not make online friends. I do prefer to get to know each other through text for a few days/week first, but that's mostly so we're a little more comfortable and have something to talk about when we do meet.
You should message me if
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Short and sweet list of things I value:

Self awareness.
Articulate eloquence and proper English.
Bisexuality in men (my kryptonite!!).
Love of physical affection in all forms.
A healthy twinge of insecurity (need to know you're human :] ).
Extreme openness and emotional intelligence.
Defying gender norms.
Very strong interest in science, especially as it has to do with day to day life and the water we fishes swim in.

If you can see most of these things in yourself, you'll probably like me. :3