Extra points if you get the obtuse reference in the above paragraph.
Update: In two parts-
First, I'm not looking for dating/sex/relationship partners at this time. My dance card is full right now. While I can love infinitely, my time and energy are about tapped out right now. Friends? Sure, but just don't expect any more.
Second, should part one change, don't waste your time with me if you aren't polyamorous and respectful of my marriage/relationships. I don't have time for folks who believe in "one true love". Maybe YOU have a "One true love" out there, but I don't, nor do I believe in it. To expect all emotional/sexual/personal needs to be fulfilled by a single person is cruel to any potential partner, and it sets oneself up for disappointment IMHO.
Again, let me reiterate: if you are not self identified as polyamorous, and have not had poly relationships in the past, please do not message me. I have tried the monogamous person "willing to try it", and it does not work. Please save us all the disappointment.
What I DO believe in is the infinite capacity of love to expand far beyond what we are often told it is. Is it possible to love everyone and anyone? Probably not, because I would want to know someone well before that, and I have to be somewhat selective. I do think it is possible to build a network of loving people who are committed in the mutual happiness and well being of everyone in that network. I have seen it, and I am working to build one.
I wrote this elsewhere, and it seemed a good summary:
Uncompromising, ruthless, demanding, and equal parts loyal, loving and honest. Not for wimps, liars or general turds. Strong, proud and free, polyamorous (look it up), Ubergeek, who overhauls his own engines, discovers new applications for lasers and adds new chapters to the Kama Sutra from personal research. Truly a barbarian with an IQ, the vocabulary of a Rhodes Scholar, and the bearing of a Viking who just earned his way into Valhalla. I live my life as one drinks from a fire hydrant: it gets all over your face, and up your nose. But it satisfies thirst like nothing else.
And before you ask, I have a zombie apocalypse survival plan. And no, I won't be your zombie plan, unless I really like you.
6' Male Dk. blonde/blue, hair to waist..
I did my BSc in optical physics, and have published several times in research journals. I'm working on the second side of my dual major, in electrical engineering. I did work in a field called "quantum optics", and have been very interested in quantum computation problems. If you ever read an article that says "Scientists have slowed light or frozen light inside atoms", that's the kind of research I have done.
I'm ruthlessly honest. Some folks get very turned off by this, but those that I count as close friends and lovers often are grateful for it, because I deal as honestly as I can with them. I'm not a fool however, but rather I try to judge people as squarely as I can.
However as time wears on I find there's a tempering of my ruthless honesty. Telling the truth doesn't mean rubbing your nose in it. it means choosing the truth, and choosing the truth in a way that builds love and relationships, not as a weapon or a crusade.
I'm something of an [anarcho-capitalist at heart]. I don't like bonds and strictures, and I have a keen sense of justice. People are happiest when they are free, and I see the freedom of others as being as important as my own. There's a certain kind of world I want to live in, and by my choices and actions, I hope to make that world more real every day.
I'm polyamorous and married- I know, I keep writing that, but sometimes folks don't get that; I'm also in a relationship. If we get along well I'll tell you who they are- we all value our privacy. If you don't know what polyamory is, read the Wikipedia entry, it's quite good.
I believe in personal and sexual sovereignty, and that people can and do have multiple, honest loving relationships.
-I'm not looking for one-night stands.
-I'm not looking to replace my wife or my girlfriend.
-I'm not looking for/or to be a dirty little secret.
-We are not looking for a Hot Bi Babe to be the peanut butter in our sandwich. I never hunted unicorns.
-I am looking only for friends now.
Based on a conversation I had recently, I think I should add the following disclaimer: I have no tolerance for lying. I do not lie to people I love and/or care about. I do not "bend the truth", commit "white lies" or play games of interpretation. I tell the truth, and I expect anyone who wants to spend time with me to do the same. Lying is a deal-breaker for me, and I figured I should let you know.
Now I should define a lie. A lie is a willful, deceitful statement or omission with the clear intent to control another person's behavior through controlling their access to information. Honestly forgetting to tell me about an appointment, or something minor like that is not lying. Being afraid to reveal the truth is not technically lying, IF that isn't life/health/safety related. Lies are something one chooses - accidents happen. If they happen with frequency or with serious consequences that's different.
I tested as INTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality inventory, and it pretty much sums my type.
My opinion on religion is hard to nail down. I've dedicated to a Gardenarian coven and practiced Wicca most of my adult life, though the scientist in me cannot be denied. I've had doubts, revised those assumptions and am constantly testing them. The most appropriate terms to describe me are, in Margot Adler's own words, "Heinleinian Libertarian Pagan".
I'm also what's known as a devotional polytheist, and have had a15+ year long dedication to an Morrigan.
My ethics are summarized in Ayn Rand's The Virtue of Selfishness, and I'm also influenced by Richard Dawkin's Selfish Gene theory, as well as Nietzsche's philosophy. I studied formal philosophy at college level for 3 years and consider it invaluable to how I see the world.
As for hobbies, there are two things I love to do: go out in the wild spaces and build/make/modify things to make them better or more customized to my needs. I have converted an automatic transmission car to a manual, because I liked it better. I've made all kinds of clothing for renaissance faires as well as daily wear, leather goods for my personal use, electrical generators for austere conditions, etc. I also go camping at least 5 times a year. When weather permits, a 10 mile hike in the woods is just the thing after a stressful week.
I'm a strong advocate of libertarian (classically liberal) political views, but I do not belong to any party. I cannot be pinned down in the Democrat/Republican spectrum - I support lawful gun ownership and concealed carry laws, and also I support abortion rights. I oppose government social welfare, but I support gay marriage. If this seems odd, just say "freedom, freedom, freedom" and you'll see where I'm coming from.
I am strongly allergic to cats, and mildly to dogs. I'm happy to take a Benadryl when visiting a cat owner's home.
Stolen liberally from Robert A. Heinlein, probably my favorite author.
"I will accept the rules that you feel necessary to your freedom. I am free, no matter what rules surround me. If I find them tolerable, I tolerate them; if I find them too obnoxious, I break them. I am free because I know that I alone am morally responsible for everything I do."
Believe it or not, this whole thing at the end is about love. It's hard to see, but I believe in setting out a fence around the playground before letting our inner children out to play. The fence seems harsh, rules, uncompromising, but it is designed to protect, and encourage a sense of freedom in a safe place.