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54 San Jose, CA Woman


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  • Ages 42–64
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Today – 11:23am
Straight, Sapiosexual
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), Latin (Okay), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Here is what I believe: The unexamined life is not worth living.

I am passionate and patient, romantic and rational, creative and corporate, sensuous and sensible, articulate and attentive (also, alarmingly alliterative). I love the latest and greatest gadgets (except for the iThings), and I am really good at troubleshooting. I have three master's degrees and over a thousand titles in my Kindle library (my favorite: Poems by Emily Dickinson, Three Series, Complete. The least favorite: Dyan Merick's Avocado Cookbook. The recipes are just meh).

I cherish my solitude, but find joy in a thoughtful conversation or a passionate encounter; maximum delight is when the two align.

If there is one theme in my life journey, it is transformation. I am originally from Moscow, Russia, and my identity at that time was defined by my academic work at Moscow University. I was finishing on my Ph.D thesis on Faulkner and Styron when circumstances triggered my move to the US. My plan was to continue with the same line of work and teach comparative literature at one of the universities, but that's when I discovered computers. To make a long story short, I made a seemingly abrupt switch to information technology, and found not only a job, but a calling.

I love what I do, and I make a difference every day. In my field, you have to be an engineer, a detective, a therapist, a father confessor, a CSI, and a mind reader - all at once. And no two days are the same.

I work in high-tech, but it is all about people - I find that I am uniquely prepared for this work thorough my prior academic career. The understanding of the human condition that I gained in my literary research helps me relate to people.

I am also pursuing creative expression. A few years ago I have discovered digital photography, which offered me the perfect right brain/left brain balance: the blend of rigorous technical requirements and absolute creative freedom. I am frequently out and about the Bay Area, or wherever my business travels take me, with my camera and the too-heavy camera bag loaded with the requisite technical gear, in search of that perfect light and that ephemeral moment of transition from day into night that makes the image magical.

My smart, argumentative, creative, independent 14 year old daughter is an avid photographer, too, and my trusted photography companion - but there are some healthy debates about who gets to use the 50-500 telephoto lens, the better flash, or the stronger ND filter. She usually wins.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am on a lifelong knowledge journey - and every day brings new discoveries. I have a fulfilling job that brings out the best in me, and allows me to help people grow and maximize their strengths. I seek out beauty in sunsets over distant vistas, in old rusty trucks, in graffiti-sprayed hidden alleys, in old mismatched pottery at a small coffee shop, in a graceful nod of a stray cat, in the wry grin of an innkeep...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Problem-solving, decision-making, listening, communication, empathy. Focusing - both photographically and generally. Learning and growing. Giving and receiving (also, good at subtle double entendre).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My bouncy hair, my exotic teal eyes, my irreverent humor. My accent?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite authors/poets: I love Joseph Brodsky, Anna Akhmatova, Michael Bulgakov, Emily Dickinson; William Faulkner, Umberto Eco, Gabriel García Márquez, Jorge Luis Borges. I prefer Dostoyevsky over Tolstoy, and Faulkner over Hemingway. Lately I am reading different types of books - Drucker, Christiansen, Goldsmith, Gladwell, Ariely, Kahneman etc, and a lot of photography literature. Oh, and a recent message exchange with an OKC member reminded me how much I love Alice in Wonderland.

Favorite restaurants: eclectic mix of sushi, Irish, Thai, Vietnamese, fusion. My current favorite place is Red Hot Chili Pepper in San Carlos - I am training for their three pepper menu.

Music: Bach (Well-Tempered Clavier is my favorite), Beethoven, Mozart, Vivaldi, Haydn; blues; Beatles, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, King Crimson, Santana, Gipsy Kings... And more.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
☼ Double espresso (triple on Mondays)
☼ Nikon D7100
☼ Kindle
☼ The New Yorker
☼ Martini (Hendricks, very dry, slightly dirty, two olives)
☼ Blue hour
☼ Touch
☼ People who challenge me to grow

Yes, more than six. Why would I limit my needs just to meet some artificial quantitative goal? :-)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Synchronicity. Power of words. Tantra. Why I need (even) more camera bags. Also, how much OKC is like Groupon (at it's best and at it's worst).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I could be post-processing images from a recent photo trip, with a soft music in the background - and a glass of chilled white wine within easy reach. Or in the backyard, by the fire pit, with my Kindle. Or I could be out at my favorite local wine bar. Or at SF Symphony. Or at an elegant kinky dinner in the Mission. Or snuggled up on the coach with my daughter, catching up on the backlog of the shows we watch together, such as Person of Interest, Scandal, or Big Bang Theory. On a recent Friday, I was standing with my camera on the top of Victoria peak in Hong Kong, waiting for the night glow to emerge from the city below. Resulting picture available on request :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
►I was once arrested by the KGB.◄
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. never feel bored, incomplete, or unfulfilled, but are open to new possibilities. If you find my profile intriguing, and would like to learn more. If you are, just as I am, an incorrigible sapiophile.
Oh and I am committed to being positive but two things drive me up the wall: being called a "gal", and getting messages with "hello beautiful" openers.