Serious about the big questions of life (Why am I here? What's the
right balance between work, service and play? How do a set a good
example for my teenage son?), but, at the same time, don't take
things too seriously. Life is filled with opportunities for
laughter. Detest pomposity, arrogance and self-importance. Known
for my wit and generally (although not always) appreciated for
Intellectually curious and like learning new things, whether or not
they have any intrinsic or practical value. Big fan of NPR and
TedTalks. Avid reader of The New Yorker (usually simultaneously
midway through several issues). Play guitar often and passably
well, listen to a broad range of music (especially obscure
singer-songwriters), and enjoy movies (particularly classic old
Prefer comfort to status. Thai food beats a meal at a fancy French
restaurant (although a fancy meal now and then has its place too).
Happiest in old jeans and a sweatshirt.
What I’m doing with my life
Struggling to find the right balance, but still too busy with work
(which I generally and genuinely enjoy). Raising an always
wonderful, but sometimes challenging (aren't they all) teenage son.
Serial not-for-profit board member and volunteer (currently on the
boards of an international development organization and a spiritual
I’m really good at
Finding and synthesizing information. Problem solving. Explaining
things. Writing. Staying focused when necessary. Maintaining long
term friendships. Crafting a persuasive argument (I'm getting
better at learning when using this skill is inappropriate). Keeping
perspective. Cheese making (a somewhat recently acquired pursuit
with mixed results to date -- although everyone has survived the
The first things people usually notice about me
My sense of humor. My lack of sense of style/fashion. My
wide-ranging interests. My willingness to engage in lively
discussion, debate and exploration.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by John McPhee or John Sayles. Recently read "Just
Kids" by Patti Smith, which I thought was one of the best books
I've read in a very long time. Getting through The New Yorker seems
to exhaust much of my reading time.
Food: Anything Asian. Barbecue. Cheese.
Shows: The Wire. Arrested Development. The Daily Show (as long as I
don't watch it too often).
Movies: Anything directed by John Sayles. Almost anything directed
by Woody Allen. The Marx Brothers. Reds. Godfather Part II. The
Grapes of Wrath. Singin' in the Rain. The Graduate. The Shawshank
Redemption. The Apartment. Groundhog Day.
The six things I could never do without
My son, NPR, Wikipedia, laughter, music, opportunities to
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How can I be a good/better dad? Given my good fortune, what are my
extra responsibilities? How can I best live a life of value and
meaning? If I sleep a little longer, will I still be able to get to
the office on time?
On a typical Friday night I am
recovering from the work week and/or driving to my house upstate
and/or having dinner with my son and/or out with a friend (maybe a
longstanding one or maybe someone new).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My private side not always completely consistent with my public
You should message me if
you are someone who is: curious; playful; adventurous (perhaps even
adventuresome); warm; engaged in/with the world (but also like to
retreat from it occasionally); optimistic; caring; open; imperfect
(but still working to improve); wide-ranging in your taste in
music, film, books and food; intellectual; interested in pushing
yourself in new directions, and to learn, grow, and evolve; aware
that humans are both spiritual and physical beings (and enjoy both
aspects) . . . and you are seeking to find and spend some time (as
little as a chat over coffee or a beer, or as long as a lifetime)
with someone who is similarly-minded.