Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please note: I am only interested in face-to-face friendships for
now. Any messages indicating a desire for other than that will not
Verbal; usually, but not always.
Fiendish: *wicked grin*
Kind: Very, but not particularly *nice.*
Considerably more Dom than sub.
I don't cheat when it comes to committed relationships, and I'm not
willing to engage with those who do.
Attracted by intelligence, androgyny, humor, open minds and big
hearts, affection, personal integrity, creativity, self-awareness,
and hedonism, not necessarily in that order.
I'd rather be approached than do the approaching, it just seems to
work out better that way.
Like all redheads, I am descended from felines rather than primates
(according to Mark Twain.) If you don't like cats and they don't
like you, our chances of a mutually satisfying relationship are
lower than otherwise, but not necessarily insurmountable.
If you are attracted by the unusual, aren't fazed by physical and
sometimes emotional challenges, know the difference between faze
and phase, (and use both correctly) think for yourself, and are
willing to work a little to get to the good parts, the odds improve
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Coping with the recent amputation of my left leg. Experiencing
wonder and awe. Developing friendships. Creating meaningful
memories. Other stuff that sounds all lofty and ideal when it's
verbalized, but is really just an ongoing slog through the daily
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communication. Creating elegant solutions. Getting stuff done, even
when it's really hard. Research, proofreading, entertaining
children, compassionate listening, making weird faces, and assorted
handcrafts. Emotional support. Over thinking things. Writing
sentences that don't include verbs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My left leg ends above the knee. (I traded the rest for a complete
set of Magic: the Gathering cards.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The list is close to endless. Lots of science and science
fiction, but also historical fiction, fantasy fiction, non-fiction,
biographies, fairy tales, cautionary tales, tales of dystopian
worlds, cookbooks, encyclopedias, dictionaries--
Serenity, The Life of Pi, Undead or Alive. The rest are subject to
change without notice.
Eclectic and mood dependent. I never seem to get tired of Leonard
Cohen, woodwinds, minor chords, or Prokofiev.
Well prepared, beautifully presented complex meals, Greek yogurt
with cheerios, and lots of stuff in between. Flavorful but not too
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Words in a row, a smartphone (well I could, but I'd really rather
not), asthma medicine, humor, and optical correction. Oh, and love.
Can't forget that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What did I learn?
What can I teach?
What's my "next right thing?"
Patterns. All kinds.
How to get from point A to point B.
Am I EVER going to be able to shut off my brain and get to sleep?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no such thing as "typical," but I'd rather be with friends
and/or lovers, doing whatever is mutually interesting and
enjoyable, than not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I write. Essays, poems, science fiction, and fantasy. But I do it
in private, and wash my hands afterward.
+3 to intelligence if you can source the quote.
You should message me if
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I sound appealing to you, and you're willing to say something other
than hi, and/or a flattering superlative about my looks. I don't
bite; unless I feel like it when asked politely. It may take me a
while to write back. I probably will eventually, unless your
message is "hi", and/or includes a superlative about my looks.
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