Please note: I am only interested in face-to-face friendships for now. Any messages indicating a desire for other than that will not be answered.
Verbal; usually, but not always.
Fiendish: *wicked grin*
Kind: Very, but not particularly *nice.*
Considerably more Dom than sub.
I don't cheat when it comes to committed relationships, and I'm not willing to engage with those who do.
Attracted by intelligence, androgyny, humor, open minds and big hearts, affection, personal integrity, creativity, self-awareness, and hedonism, not necessarily in that order.
I'd rather be approached than do the approaching, it just seems to work out better that way.
Like all redheads, I am descended from felines rather than primates (according to Mark Twain.) If you don't like cats and they don't like you (allergies excepted) we might not get along very well.
If you are attracted by the unusual, aren't fazed by physical and sometimes emotional challenges, know the difference between faze and phase, (and use both correctly) think for yourself, and are willing to work a little to get to the good parts, the odds improve considerably.
What I’m doing with my life
Coping with the recent amputation of my left leg. Experiencing
wonder and awe. Developing friendships. Creating meaningful
memories. Other stuff that sounds all lofty and ideal when it's
verbalized, but is really just an ongoing slog through the daily
I’m really good at
Communication. Creating elegant solutions. Getting stuff done, even
when it's really hard. Research, proofreading, entertaining
children, compassionate listening, making weird faces, and assorted
handcrafts. Emotional support. Over thinking things. Writing
sentences that don't include verbs.
The first things people usually notice about me
My left leg ends above the knee, and my wheelchair frame is green.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The list is close to endless. Lots of science and science
fiction, but also historical fiction, fantasy fiction, non-fiction,
biographies, fairy tales, cautionary tales, tales of dystopian
worlds, cookbooks, encyclopedias, dictionaries--
Serenity, The Life of Pi, Undead or Alive. The rest are subject to
change without notice.
Eclectic and mood dependent. I never seem to get tired of Leonard
Cohen, woodwinds, minor chords, or Prokofiev.
Well prepared, beautifully presented complex meals, Greek yogurt
with cheerios, and lots of stuff in between. Flavorful but not too
The six things I could never do without
Words in a row, a smartphone (well I could, but I'd really rather not), asthma medicine, humor, and optical correction. Love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What did I learn?
What can I teach?
What's my "next right thing?"
Patterns. All kinds.
How to get from point A to point B.
Am I EVER going to be able to shut off my brain and get to sleep?
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no such thing as "typical," but I'd rather be with friends
and/or lovers, doing whatever is mutually interesting and
enjoyable, than not.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I write. Essays, poems, science fiction, and fantasy. But I do it
in private, and wash my hands afterward.
+3 to intelligence if you can source the quote.
You should message me if
I sound appealing to you, and you're willing to say something other than hi, and/or a flattering superlative about my looks. I don't bite; unless I feel like it when asked politely. It may take me a while to write back. I probably will eventually, unless your message is just "hi", and/or a superlative about my looks.