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36 F Edmonds, WA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 21
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it matters a lot
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I am so busy and distractable that it has taken me forever to write much here.

Ok, self summary, what can I say about me?.....I guess the best description would be: I am riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. I am shy to the point of appearing aloof but when I say that I'm an introvert, the people who know me, roll their eyes and scoff.

I don't notice things. You could cut your hair, wash my car (got in trouble for not noticing that one), write my name in the sky with one of those smoke-blowing-air planes, I promise you, I will not notice. I tend to wander through life wide eyed but unseeing.

I am kind of a bundle of contradictions and non sequiturs. I love the sun but hate the beach. I love to travel but I'm afraid of flying. I love to swim but dislike being wet. I wish I could spend more time spinning with my arms out and my eyes closed, a la Maria in The Sound of Music. There really aren't enough opportunities in life to do that.

I think cupcakes should be their own food group.
What I’m doing with my life
Whatever strikes my fancy. I'm a flibbertigibbet.

Lately I have been spending a lot if time working on the Meetup I "inherited". It's a great place for ethically non-monogamous people to meet, network, seek and find information and support and be a part of a larger community of like minded folks. If any of that appeals to you feel free to check it out:
I’m really good at
Finding fun and coming up with good ideas. My mantra is: I know! Let's......

I'm also good at identifying songs from movies or movie scores.

Wondering through the grocery store I will hear three notes to the muzak version of some obscure song and be able to tell you what movie and what scene it was in. It's an annoying little talent, really.
The first things people usually notice about me
Nothing. People don't notice me. If they do notice me, I don't notice them noticing me so I have no idea what might have drawn their attention.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
This section is under construction....

Books: Gone Girl, The Great Gatsby or anything by Fitzgerald, The World According to Garp, Mists of Avalon, Gone with the Wind, Where the Wild Things Are, Pride and Prejudice, Lonesome Dove, Geek Love, The Little Prince.

Movies: Empire of the Sun, Lawrence of Arabia, Dog Fight, True Romance, Muriel's Wedding, Pulp Fiction, Defending Your Life, The Point, Dangerous Liaisons, House of Yes, Last Days of Disco, Almost Famous, Memento,

Shows: Downton Abby, Breaking Bad, Mad Men, I'm easily sucked in to Antiques Roadshow...ever see the one where the guy brought in Lawrence of Arabia's watch and didn't even know that was what he had? It gave me chills! I also have a weakness for reality TV but there has never been a reality show as wonderfully fucked up as Temptation Island. Loved it!!

Music: Tom Waits, The Beatles, Billy Joel, Simon and Garfunkel, Chick Korea, Toad the Wet Sprocket, Joni Mitchell, U2,

Food: this used to be Sushi but now I'm finding I enjoy Thai more. I also like dim sum and other Chinese, Mexican, Italian and Indian. I like spicy food. Really, I will eat almost anything, except mammals.
The six things I could never do without
The people who love me
Spa days
A mental escape
Reality checks
Something to look forward to
Dreams to chase
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Chaos theory and the butterfly effect.

When you lose weight, where does it go?

Why is it so hard for some people to be agreeable and accommodating when it comes to little things that don't matter much anyway?

What would society be like if we all took care of each other rather than always looking out for our own best interests?

It's too bad it's not possible to bottle happiness and optimism. I see so many sad, defeated people out there and I'd be willing to share.

Ethical non-monogamy: it's such a simple concept and yet there is so much nuance to how it's wielded.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home with my lovely family, relaxing from the week; unless you have a better idea.
Usually my significant others, AlpineTrek and/or KinkyChef75 find ways to keep me entertained.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have never seen Firefly....I know, I know...

Also, I'm a naked mole rat. No really, I have had laser hair removal on all parts of my body below the neck. Having said that, if you're opposed to "hardwoods" you should probably move along.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are an 80% match or better and our enemy % is 15 or less. Beyond that you should have fun ideas, be spontaneous and be looking for someone to share with. Or maybe you have no ideas but are willing to be spontaneous and just need an adventure muse to conjure ideas or fill in the details.

I have a husband and a boyfriend so my life is pretty busy. If you are of the female persuasion you will have a better chance with me as I am sorely lacking in that deparent. Bonus points if you are open to naked time with me and one or both of my better thirds.

Not that there is no chance for you if you're a guy, you just need to convince me that you have something I'm missing. I could probably find time somewhere if we truly hit it off.