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AJSpen

32 M Philadelphia, PA

I’m looking for

  • Men who like men
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:58am
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and very serious about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on law school
Job
Law
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I worked for a few years a professional classical singer (opera, oratorio, and classical song). However, I found that music, as much as I loved it, wasn't where my passion was. So now I am working toward a legal career and I couldn't be happier with my choice.

People ask me all the time why I stopped singing and went to law school. Most people assume it's because I wanted to make more money. If you want your answer, watch Jason Brown Free Skate 2014 US Figure Skating Championships on YouTube. Look for the absolute joy on his face.

Every once in a while you get the privilege of being near someone in whom hard work, skill, talent, and sheer joy all come together. Those people have found what God put them on Earth to do. I looked around me, as a musician, and saw that in other people, but never found it in myself. I have a beautiful voice, talent, and even a small amount of skill, but I never had that sheer joy in singing. Many of my friends in music embodied what Jason Brown does in figure skating.

My joy, and hopefully my skill and talent, come into play in the law and in politics. I am happier now, even as just a student of the law, than I ever was as a musician. That is why I quit music and why I have never looked back.

I like to talk about all of the things people aren't supposed to talk about in polite conversation: law, politics, religion, gay rights, reproductive rights, Supreme Court decisions, elections, you name it.

I enjoy outdoor activities like running, hiking, rollerblading, swimming and such as long as they don't last overnight. I want to sleep inside. In a bed. I don't camp unless absolutely necessary. I also love martial arts, theater (musical and straight), books, movies and Italian food.

I hate the gym, but I do work just to keep from getting out of control. I play racquetball quite a bit with my law school friends, but I am a bit stocky and there is no getting around it.

I actually do have my beard right now, but when I worked for the Navy this past summer they made me shave it off. I have grown it back for the winter and I will see what happens when it gets hot again.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in my final year as a law student at Temple University with an offer, which I've accepted, to work for the Navy Judge Advocate General's Corps. I also currently write as a freelancer for NewsWorks WHYY here in Philly.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am an excellent singer, a great cook, I can pivot plans on a dime, I am good at rolling with circumstances, I'm a good writer, and I am a great student of just about anything.

I listen very well and I give good advice. I also can tell when it is more important to stay quiet and just let someone vent.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I smile a lot.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors - Kahlil Gibran, Dan Brown, Gore Vidal, William Shakespeare, Anne Rice, Robert Jordan, J.K. Rowling, J.R.R. Tolkien, Terry Brooks, Jim Butcher...I could go on and on.

Movies - Anything but horror films. I have a soft spot for Rom Coms and Martial Arts films.

Music - I have two Master's degrees in music. I love anything but rap.

Food - Literally anything. I love food.

TV - The Rachel Maddow Show, Suits, HIMYM, Warehouse 13, Cover Affairs, Bones, Hawaii Five-0, NCIS (both of them), Modern Family, The Big Bang Theory, The New Normal, Project Runway, Top Chef, Happy Endings, and Elementary. (Side note, I am way to busy to actually watch all of these shows, but I do like them).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, good food, good music, love, and adventure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"Then said Almitra, Speak to us of Love. And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you, follow him, though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him, though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, so shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself. He threshes you to make you naked. He sifts you to free you from your husks. He grinds you to whiteness. He kneads you until you are pliant; and then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure, then it is better for your that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor, into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Detoxing from the week with good food, good friends, and good laughs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a weakness for redheads. I don't know why, but it's there.
You should message me if
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If you want to. Be forewarned though, I am looking for a relationship. Not that I am averse to sex, far from it, I am just tired of that being all.