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51 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Yesterday – 6:14pm
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
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Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Texas-born and DC-raised, I’ve lived in New York City for thirty-two years.

I have a job that gives me opportunities for creative expression, breadth of knowledge, and the joy of being part of a collective. And it allows me not just to travel, but also to live and work with people of different cultures, opportunities that I cherish.

After running and lifting for many years, I found Mysore style Ashtanga yoga a couple of years ago, and have been and remain committed to practicing it.

I do love to hike. My Jeep is my summer house, so I'm in the mountains and at the beach.

I received a 6 on the Narcissistic Personality Inventory, a very low score, but that doesn’t make me special. #veryhumblebrag
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m pursuing a long career, and always trying to be better at what I do. And I'm always trying to refine myself as a person.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading comprehension. Getting along well with others. Using my kitchen appliances as storage—the oven is where I keep my pots and pans, which is great, except for when I forget they’re in there, pre-heat the oven, and the handles start to melt. I’m very food-forward! No one’s doing what I’m doing with industrial plastics in the kitchen.

(That joke was written in Manhattan. I have since moved to Brooklyn and have a larger kitchen. But fuck it, it's not bad, it stays up.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Well, I’m tall, so they can see me coming.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These are just references, and no reflection of who I am as a person, but:

I recently read L'étranger by Camus in French. I've been studying the language on my own for a few years, and I'm pleased to have gotten so much out of my first attempt at reading a novel written in a foreign tongue. Very affecting book, too.

Books: Pride and Prejudice, Have Space Suit—Will Travel, The Quiet American, Lolita, Ubik, Neuromancer, Alan Hollinghurst, mid-career Martin Amis, Ian McEwan's Saturday.

Movies: last year I liked Amour, Captain Phillips and Gravity; this year, I liked Inside Llewyn Davis, Snowpiercer and Boyhood, but nothing held a candle to 2001: A Space Odyssey in 70MM. I love a lot of Buster Keaton’s work, The Gold Rush, Rules of the Game, Nights of Cabiria, Wild Strawberries, From Russia with Love, Goldfinger, Jean-Pierre Melville thrillers, early Jean-Luc Godard, the Soviet War & Peace, Stalker, Law of Desire and a lot of Almodovar, Tarantino, Princess Mononoke, The Bourne Trilogy.

Music: Bob Wills, Leon Russell, Missy Elliot, Lil' Wayne, Wayne Hancock, Girl Talk, Alarm Will Sound, Hot Club of Cowtown, L7, many others...

Theater: I always love to see what those crazy kids are doing downtown.

Food: the crispy lamb with cumin and chili pepper at Fu Run, a Mongolian restaurant in Flushing, is the best thing ever and should be the official state food. I once, however, ordered braised sea slug, and that is on the top of my list of musts-to-avoid-in-future. I've taken that bullet for you: don't order braised sea slug.

All in all, I'm up for something that challenges me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Carbon, hydrogen, nitrogen, oxygen, phosphorus and sulfur.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Family. Friends. How to be a better person. Being an astronaut (the dreams of a six-year-old die hard).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I’m not working, I'm probably preheating my pots and pans. Or at a cultural event maybe. Or eating borscht.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My straight nephew and I vet each other's OKCupid prospects. He kills at street basketball, so be on your game.
You should message me if
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...any of this rings your bell, and you are a good-hearted, thoughtful, open-minded, selfless, genuine man of integrity. Or try to be. You are a living mockery of your own ideals. If not, you have set your ideals too low.

Nous sommes tous ici sur OKCupid les passe-murailles, cherchant pour amour par wifi, et nos ondes quittent nos ordinateurs et iPhones et volent à travers nos murs et transpercent des murs des autres comme flèches d'Éros.