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40 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:12pm
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Other, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Japanese (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary

There are few things in the world more important to me than positivity, irreverence, humor and a big, open heart. I thrive at and seek out connecting with people, and I have an uncanny ability to find bold, passionate and ridiculous souls wherever I go. I have taught English as a second language for 15 years, which has taken me all over the world, and has taught me a lot about communication, both related to language and otherwise. I have lived over a third of my life abroad, and I feel as comfortable, maybe even more, outside the US as in it. I am fiercely independent, but love to be competently directed by those with more experience and/or better ideas than me. I am not interested in pop culture, only in as much as it gives an anthropological window into the current cultural psyche of a place. Personal expression in all forms is of great importance to me. I have an arts degree, run a design business and am currently building a co-working space for designers and makers in San Francisco. I might call myself a community organizer, or a social entrepreneur. I also perform in a comedy burlesque troupe. We write all our own acts, make our own costumes and conspire to make ourselves look as ridiculous and as sexy as possible, at the same time. I garden, have a daily yoga practice, meditate. I dance to electronic music, go to Burning Man, drink whiskey.


You are a man. You know how to take charge, and love it when I take charge too. You have a sharp wit and an enormous heart. You smile because you know the world is painfully beautiful. You have big ideas and are working to make them realities. You get shit done. You make things. You are sophisticated: you know how to navigate different countries, languages, cultures, situations, power supplies... The world does not intimidate you, but excites you. You participate in the world, even if you don't agree with it sometimes. Mostly, you are doing your best to make it better. You are positive and irreverent. You are sensual, affectionate, passionate. You have style. You are kind. You are a conversationalist. You appreciate quality over quantity. You make me laugh in Trader Joe's, and everywhere else.


I am looking for someone to build a life with, someone who is inspired by what it means to be more than the sum of parts. Together we are fearless and unique: we create, inspire, organize, explore. I see a long, narrow, wooden table, outside in the sun, surrounded by our boisterous friends and children...we are all feasting on food we have prepared ourselves. We are drinking. There is music. There is laughter.
What I’m doing with my life
Building floating burlesque stages, trying to figure out how i can powder coat my rusting utility cart for cheap, wondering if Maria Conchita Alonzo (the dove that has built a nest above my front door) is going to shit all over the porch in the coming months.
And also: figuring out what I'm doing with this amazing golden time, this awesome spirit in this, well, attractive countenance, and how to get my DNA into the whirling mosh-pit of humanity's next gene pool.
I’m really good at
messing up French grammar in profile names
having fun
laughing at myself
creative ideas and solutions
getting things done
organizing people and events
making things
international travel and fictitious international personas with accents
The first things people usually notice about me
my smile
my hair (it's amazing, but i actually have people stopping me on the street to compliment me on it!)
my body size ("You are so TINY!"...I KNOOOOOW!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The National
LCD Soundsystem
The XX
Cut Copy
Andrew Bird
Nick Cave

Ishi In Two Worlds (biography of the last wild Indian in North America)
Collapse - Jared Diamond
Life - Keith Richards (an amazing life, indeed)
The Sun Also Rises
Rabih Alameddine

For someone of my diminutive stature, I eat a lot. Possibly it is my obsession with fresh/non-processed foods that keeps that pounds at bay... I grow arugula and kale on my back porch, but I will just as soon eat wild boar and wash it down with a glass of fine port.
The six things I could never do without
my bike
the children's dance section at Mission Thrift
meaningful work
my yoga practice
my lovely, wacky friends (which makes 7, I know...)
oh, and dinner parties
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My next project, which usually involves making something, performing something and/or organizing something. Basically, how can I do all of this AND all of that.
On a typical Friday night I am
I have been known to shake it on the dance floor on Fridays. In fact, I was once called "black man's dynamite" by an admirer watching my moves...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Dyson vacuum cleaners turn me on.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 33–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You think you match what I'm looking for, and appreciate a strong, yet vulnerable woman.