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LeandraJ

44 / F / Straight / Single

Essendon, Australia

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 6:13am
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Leo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Education / Academia
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Offspring
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Emotional and passionate but able to give myself a good kick you -know-where when I over do it. Not literally of course. Eg, I get sooky when people get hurt on TV, or animals get hurt. I dont use emotion destructively or purely to get my own way. Stacks of empathy and sympathy which sometimes gets me into trouble. Will do almost anything for a mate/partner if they needed it. I believe in being the right partner not just attracting the right partner as that is when it often gets difficult and some people cant hack it. Which is ok.
Love my coffee and my life outside of the dreaded work.
Please note i wear hearing aids (hidden by hair) and glasses /contacts but neither stop me living my life like a normal person. The hearing aids help me hear high and low pitched sounds. I am seriously not deaf otherwise. Nor blind.
Please also note I am voluntarily sterile.
Hazel eyes, short brunette/brown hair. Occasionally dye it red and trying to get the guts to go blonde. It will be weird but who cares.
I am one fifth through paying off my 3 bedroom unit.
What I’m doing with my life
Working (library) Melbourne Uni. I am in the background sending books to other libraries. Not the traditional sense of a librarian at all sorry. I do that to survive. I have a lot more fun outside of work. I can be pretty spur of the moment and not the typical librarian brain. I like to live my life with passion and follow my ethics and what inspires me. I live with my daughter (high school 2013) and my 2 cats. I'm divorced and we share custody - every 2nd weekend she is at her Dads, Fri PM to Sun dinnertime. No issues there. I work 10-3 weekdays so it works around my child well. I am only able to meet someone fortnightly to start with on my weekends off. And/or after work (after 3 PM until 5 PM weekdays) then once a relationship is established, they would need to travel to me, as I am effectively housebound **when I have a child in the house** Please do not respond if this is unsuitable for you. Thanks.
The only way around the fortnightly thing is a lot of talking on the chat thing prior to actually meeting.
**On my weekends off there are no restrictions on what i can do**
I am also planning to cruise to Hawaii and hopefully scuba dive in 2014 or 2015 and that's exciting.
I’m really good at
letting people feel comfortable around me and being able to express themselves without being censored or jumped on for being different to me. I try to be pretty tolerant and considerate of everyone. If you have a problem to solve I am better at "discovering" how you feeel about it than strictly what you want to do about it.
Love discussing sexual politics in general with anyone. And what makes you tick (if we are that way involved - Only).
A good coffee (yes i have the right machines. I'm also trying to do my own beans lately).
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm short ish and I have great dimples (and smile) so I am told. I've dropped a bit of weight and are now looking to build strength within reason (legs mostly).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Go mad for sushi and most Asian inspired food. Not a good cook but now that my new kitchen is up and running I plan to be more spontaneous/inspired when i can. Books, mostly psychology, relationships, people-focused stuff. Occasional novel. Biographies. Not a movie head very often but will watch something if it really inspires me. Musically mainly 80's (Blondie, Clash, Cure, Stones, some Nirvana; DDuran, George Michael, Talking Heads, Queen, Billy Idol) from punk to disco to ABBA. TV : Porridge, Gruen, Bottom, music documentaries, music videos (80's again); cricket, AFL
The six things I could never do without
Coffee, and doing my own beans is great fun lately.
Alcoholic cider or white wine
Something to read that makes me think / improve my life somehow
80's Music
Love
Something to aim for
Love being the most important thing as a motivator.
I tend to crack it without enough dance in my life, so be warned already .....
I spend a lot of time thinking about
relationships and how they work and sometimes don't work. Sexual politics and gender politics, as in, why can women do such and such and men are frowned upon or ridiculed for the same or similar behaviour. Why is womens sexuality so damned precious and guys sexuality is almost treated as a joke. Why are we bought up so that the guy is expected to do all the work in the relationship ? Etc etc. Welcome feedback on this especially as it really bugs me.
Maybe I am just anti feminist in the usual sense....
On a typical Friday night I am
maybe watching Gruen Transfer and having a few drinks. Or doing stuff on the computer and having a few drinks. Later I usually get into the music / get up and dance and sometimes Max on Foxtel.
If you know how to or want to dance or learn how to then I am definitely your kind of girl.
On my Friday night off I make pizzas from scratch with Indian flat bread.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I dont drive (not allowed to legally). Sorry. Public transport is not a dirty word however.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–45
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
you like what i have to say and how i think.