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50 Tucson, AZ Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 43–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 20
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Rather not say
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
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Maps are for the lost.

I try to keep my life grounded. Despite two graduate degrees, I remain casual to a fault. I am a teacher and have been for eighteen years. I possess a tenacious inner drive and intellectual curiosity that contradicts my soft-spoken and kind of Zen qualities (Zen without a capital Z). In a past life I sold work in a few mid-range galleries.

Sincere compliments and laughing at my jokes are the gifts I value most. I enjoy serendipitous journeys through thoughtful conversations or places. I often exploit opportunities to provoke a laugh or take a bunny-trail. I like things simple, I keep a few clothes and don’t own anything that might be called a “man toy,” especially, if it’s loud, on wheels, or has the word “jet” in its description. On Myers Briggs I am an INTP. Ultimately, I do have an eye toward a long-term relationship, but for now, friendship and meeting people is my main intention.

“When I give, I give myself.” Walt Whitman
What I’m doing with my life
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In general, I am attending to my long neglected personal life - the result of a dissertation, grad school 99 miles away, and working full-time +. Part of that is getting back to healthy habits, walks and meditation. School is chaotic and demanding so summers are my time to catch up, write curriculum, throw out old clothes, look for any misplaced bills, make gifts on the pottery wheel, hang at the pool, spend time with my children, road trips, and sign up for online dating. I have an article I need to get out to a journal and just returned from helping family impacted by the Oklahoma tornado.…. It really never ends. I would rather not discuss publicly my professional options. Send me note if want to know.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
keeping close and life-long friends
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I am nearly always working on something.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I mostly read non-fiction on any topic that interests me, however, I’ve given my eyes a rest. Nonetheless, I am currently re-reading Finite and Infinite Games by James Carse. I am halfway through The Secret Lives of INTPs by Anna Moss. Several academic articles.

Recent musical downloads include Beth Orton’s version of Ooh Child, Make Me A Believer by Kari Nobel, and Michelle Malone’s cover of Wild Horses. I also downloaded several works by Michael Nyman (The Piano, Prospero’s Books).

Since the hamster died from the leftovers, cooking by myself offers diminishing returns. However, I will slice, wash, peal, and mix anything, I will pour the wine or beer, tell dirty jokes, and clean the pans -- but I probably should not be left unattended when the burner is on - just kidding about the hamster.

I am casual about eating out; I love good food but don’t want to dress to the nines to eat it. I prefer to avoid the big chains, no agenda, the food and atmosphere seems wrong to me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A coffee shop in the morning
Bright and thoughtful friends
Aesthetic experience
Personal ethics
A creative life of the mind
Intrinsic motivation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
anything that attracts my curiosity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with my children, I prefer to go out on Thursdays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
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You should message me if
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Possess a tenacious intellectual curiosity toward life
Nurture a creative life of the mind
Earned more than an undergraduate degree
Find the absent minded professor types endearing
Your values originate from deeply personal experiences and not imported from religion or a sentimental / ideological / party politics view of reality