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I’m looking for
- Ages 23–45
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Apr 16
- Straight, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
- Middle Eastern, Native American, White
- 6′ 3″ (1.91m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Mostly vegetarian
- Agnosticism, and laughing about it
- Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from university
- Rather not say
- Mostly monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly)
I grew up in Connecticut but my heart belongs to Brooklyn where I've lived most of my adult life. I've lived all over the East Coast, most recently Washington DC. NYC will always be home for me though.
I'm usually initially quiet in large groups, leading people to think I'm shy, but actually I just like listening to people (also, people-watching) more than being the center of attention. I'm coming to embrace being a slight introvert. I enjoy my alone time, but I really enjoy one-on-one time with the people I care about. Spending all day with a friend drinking tea and watching the world go by is pretty much the perfect day for me.
I am completely committed to paper-and-binding books and will never own a Nook or Kindle or other e-book-reader. I love books: the weight and heft, the texture of printing paper, the smell of old books, the smoothness of the cover.
I'm also a fiction writer: novels, short-fiction and screenplays. In addition, I teach creative writing and coach writers. Rarely I get to write book-reviews that nobody really reads for contemporary experimental fiction that might sell 1000 copies. (It's all so not-as-glamorous as it sounds.) Despite being moderately successful as a writer/screenwriter (meaning that several-thousand people have seen my work), I still get horrible stage-fright when I think about it. Enough about work though: I am not my job. (Ideally, you are also not a person who defines themselves by their job. I work primarily to be able to minimize my work time and enjoy life.)
I volunteer for a small handful of human rights and public welfare organizations. Opposing torture, exploitation and global poverty. Opposing "-isms". Fighting the good fight. Good stuff.
I try to make a point to learn a new skill, talent or pastime every week. Currently, I am learning to knit.
I wear glasses.
I have a unique personal style. I have a tendency towards wearing very bright colors.
I'm reading a book.
People consistently tell me soon after meeting me that they thought I was 5-10 years younger than my actual age.
I'm a huge fan of poetry. Some favorites: Charles Baudelaire, Jorge Luis Borges, Allen Ginsberg, Dylan Thomas, Sharon Olds, Emily Dickinson, Federico García Lorca, Langston Hughes, William Carlos Williams, Walt Whitman, T.S. Eliot, Samuel Taylor Coleridge. Conversely, I absolutely hate Robert Frost.
Movies: There are a lot...this list is a work in progress. Films and Filmmakers mixed together. Pedro Almodóvar, Charade, Blue Valentine, Fight Club, La Jetée, The Seventh Seal, Delicatessen, Jules et Jim, Belle du Jour, Sin Nombre, Amelie, Pedro Almodóvar, Jean-Pierre Jeunet, Luis Buñuel, Ingmar Bergman, Secretary, Martin Scorsese, Werner Herzog, Jean-Luc Godard, Francois Truffaut, Dr. Strangelove, Little Miss Sunshine, Office Space, The Princess Bride, Life of Brian, Duck Soup, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, pretty much everything showing at the AFI's Silver Theater in Silver Spring.
TV: My TV viewing is all over the place, with the exception that I don't watch reality-TV, rarely watch televised sports, and only watch TV news programming if there is something actually going on. (So much of TV news is just sensationalist filler to maintain a 24-hour news-cycle.) Some shows I like(d) are/were: Gracepoint, Broadchurch, Elementary, The Blacklist, Supernatural, Constantine, Sleepy Hollow, Gotham, Six Feet Under, Pramface, Doc Martin, Sherlock, Orphan Black and Hannibal. I'll update this more soon.
Music: Everything?! I listened to a lot of folk at my last job and I'm kind of burnt-out on it. But beyond that, I'll listen to just about anything as long as I can get into the lyrics and narrative of it.
Food (Cuisine): Spanish, Indian, Afro-Caribbean, Mediterranean & fruit. (Note: I’m currently vegetarian.)
Bicycle. (It's my usual transportation.)
Hirshhorn (It's my favorite Smithsonian.)
Moleskine notebooks. (I have one on me at all times.)
So...you know, if you want to.
Addendum: I don't respond to anything shorter than 2-3 sentences in an initial message. (Initial-contact one-liners go straight to the trash, senders to block-lists now--enough of them have been porn spam or Russian bridal services.) I expect a note that shows curiosity, interest, and that you read my profile. I prefer interesting letters over "quick notes." People that can be bothered to write a whole paragraph will always get a response for their effort, even if it's just to thank them for the thoughtful note and express that I am not interested.
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