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35 Hartford, CT Man, Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

Man, Cis Man, Gender Nonconforming

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:24pm
Straight, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Middle Eastern, Native American, White
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
A new year, a new profile? I think it's probably time I revamp this a bit.

I grew up in Connecticut but my heart belongs to Brooklyn where I've lived most of my adult life. I've lived all over the East Coast, most recently Washington DC. NYC will always be home for me though.

I'm usually initially quiet in large groups, leading people to think I'm shy, but actually I just like listening to people (also, people-watching) more than being the center of attention. I'm coming to embrace being a slight introvert. I enjoy my alone time, but I really enjoy one-on-one time with the people I care about. Spending all day with a friend drinking tea and watching the world go by is pretty much the perfect day for me.

I am completely committed to paper-and-binding books and will never own a Nook or Kindle or other e-book-reader. I love books: the weight and heft, the texture of printing paper, the smell of old books, the smoothness of the cover.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I got hired to my dream-job directing an arts organization where I was paid to listen to live music, attend art-exhibits, movie premieres and other performances. It felt like so much less than I was capable of though so...six months later: I moved back to CT to start a PR, communications, and development firm for NPOs where I can make more of a difference.

I'm also a fiction writer: novels, short-fiction and screenplays. In addition, I teach creative writing and coach writers. Rarely I get to write book-reviews that nobody really reads for contemporary experimental fiction that might sell 1000 copies. (It's all so not-as-glamorous as it sounds.) Despite being moderately successful as a writer/screenwriter (meaning that several-thousand people have seen my work), I still get horrible stage-fright when I think about it. Enough about work though: I am not my job. (Ideally, you are also not a person who defines themselves by their job. I work primarily to be able to minimize my work time and enjoy life.)

I volunteer for a small handful of human rights and public welfare organizations. Opposing torture, exploitation and global poverty. Opposing "-isms". Fighting the good fight. Good stuff.

I try to make a point to learn a new skill, talent or pastime every week. Currently, I am learning to knit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good conversationalist and personal correspondence writer.

I destroy opponents in trivia games. Seriously, if you ever need a ringer for team-trivia night at the pub, I'm your guy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really tall.
I wear glasses.
I have a unique personal style. I have a tendency towards wearing very bright colors.
I'm reading a book. My goal was to read 100 novels in 2011. I read 106 novels and realized only afterwards that I should have live-blogged it.

People consistently tell me soon after meeting me that they thought I was 5-10 years younger than my actual age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books (Authors): Kurt Vonnegut, Miranda July, Roberto Bolano, Thomas Pynchon, Martin Amis, Steve Almond, Jonathan Lethem, Haruki Murakami, Emma Donoghue, Neal Stephenson, Michael Chabon, Mark Z. Danielewski, Hunter S. Thompson, Nick Harkaway, Jeffrey Eugenides, Marcel Proust, Jennifer Egan, Gary Shteyngart, DBC Pierre, Edgar Allan Poe. Currently reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking. by Susan Cain.

I'm a huge fan of poetry. Some favorites: Charles Baudelaire, Jorge Luis Borges, Allen Ginsberg, Dylan Thomas, Sharon Olds, Federico García Lorca, Langston Hughes, William Carlos Williams, Walt Whitman, T.S. Eliot, Samuel Taylor Coleridge. Conversely, I absolutely hate Robert Frost.

Movies: There are a lot...this list is a work in progress. Films and Filmmakers mixed together. Pedro Almodóvar, Charade, Blue Valentine, Fight Club, La Jetée, The Seventh Seal, Delicatessen, Jules et Jim, Belle du Jour, Sin Nombre, Amelie, Pedro Almodóvar, Jean-Pierre Jeunet, Luis Buñuel, Ingmar Bergman, Secretary, Martin Scorsese, Werner Herzog, Jean-Luc Godard, Francois Truffaut, Dr. Strangelove, Little Miss Sunshine, Office Space, The Princess Bride, Life of Brian, Duck Soup, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, pretty much everything showing at the AFI's Silver Theater in Silver Spring.

TV: I seem to have picked up an addiction to really-dark serial crime-dramas like Gracepoint, along with supernatural thrillers like Supernatural and Constantine. I watch a lot of British comedy, as well. Current favorites are: Pramface, Doc Martin, and Misfits. Generally though, I don't watch a lot of television.

Music: Everything?! I listened to a lot of folk at my last job and I'm kind of burnt-out on it. But beyond that, I'll listen to just about anything as long as I can get into the lyrics and narrative of it.

Food (Cuisine): Spanish, Indian, Afro-Caribbean, Mediterranean & fruit. (Note: I’m currently vegetarian.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Eyeglasses (If I didn't have to wear glasses...I'd still wear glasses with non-corrective lenses. I like me in glasses.)

Comfortable seating.

Library card.

Bicycle. (It's my usual transportation.)

Hirshhorn (It's my favorite Smithsonian.)

Moleskine notebooks. (I have one on me at all times.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next adventure. I don't mean climbing the Andes (even though that would be awesome), I try to find small daily adventures in my everyday life. I just don't think I want an "ordinary" life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have typical...I like to mix it up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I recently lost an absurd amount of weight (over 100#s) but I'm only still about 65% of the way to my goal. I'm still not comfortable with "the new me."
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
No, you should message me. I'm pretty sure that I'm worth the effort. That might seem conceited, but I think that we should all be a little more conceited about how amazing we are. Modesty is for boring people. know, if you want to.