Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm in the middle of revamping this a bit.
I grew up in Connecticut but my heart belongs to Brooklyn where
I've lived most of my adult life. I've lived all over the East
Coast, most recently Washington DC. NYC will always be home for me
I'm usually initially quiet in large groups, leading people to
think I'm shy, but actually I just like listening to people (also,
) more than being
the center of attention. I'm coming to embrace being a slight
I am completely committed to paper-and-binding books
and will never
or other e-book-reader. I love books:
the weight and heft, the texture of printing paper, the smell of
old books, the smoothness of the cover.
Other things I am passionate about: tea
, smart growth
, sex/gender equality
, public transit
, modern art
, gourmet food
(An incomplete list.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I got hired to my dream-job directing an arts organization where I
was paid to listen to live music, attend art-exhibits, movie
premieres and other performances. It felt like so much less than I
was capable of though so...six months later: I moved back to CT to
start a PR, communications, and development firm for NPOs where I
can make more of a difference. Enough about work though: I am not
my job. (Ideally, you are also not a person who defines themselves
by their job. I work primarily to be able to minimize my work time
and enjoy life.)
a small handful of human rights
and public welfare
organizations. Opposing torture, exploitation and global poverty.
Opposing "-isms". Fighting the good fight. Good stuff.
I try to make a point to learn a new skill, talent or pastime every
week. Currently, I am learning how to make papier-mâché masquerade
masks and how to sew. I'm kind of an arts/maker nerd. Maybe looking
for someone to take dance lessons with. I've wanted to learn how to
tango, waltz, etc. for some time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good conversationalist and personal correspondence
writer. I write thank you notes. I'll charm your parents and
friends. I have exquisite taste in art and culture. I cook really
well. I am both unfailingly polite and diplomatic.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm really tall.
I wear glasses.
I have a unique personal style. I have a tendency towards wearing
very bright colors.
I'm reading a book.
People consistently tell me soon after meeting me that they thought
I was 5-10 years younger than my actual age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Authors): Kurt Vonnegut
, Miranda July
, Roberto Bolano
, Thomas Pynchon
, Haruki Murakami
, Emma Donoghue
, Michael Chabon
, Mark Z. Danielewski
, Nick Harkaway
, Jeffrey Eugenides
, Jennifer Egan
, Gary Shteyngart
, DBC Pierre
, Edgar Allan Poe
. Currently reading The Ethical Slut
by Dossie Easton
. The best thing I read recently was The Goldfinch
by Donna Tartt
amazing; I would recommend it to anybody looking for a good book to
I'm a huge fan of poetry. Some favorites: Charles Baudelaire
, Jorge Luis
, Allen Ginsberg
, Dylan Thomas
, Sharon Olds
, Emily Dickinson
, Langston Hughes
, William Carlos
, Walt Whitman
, T.S. Eliot
, Samuel Taylor
and Charlie Bondhus
. Conversely, I
absolutely hate Robert Frost.
There are a lot...this list is a work in progress.
Films and Filmmakers mixed together. Pedro Almodóvar
, Blue Valentine
, Fight Club
, La Jetée
, The Seventh Seal
Jules et Jim
Tu Mamá También
, Jean-Pierre Jeunet
, Luis Buñuel
, Martin Scorsese
, Werner Herzog
, Francois Truffaut
, Dr. Strangelove
, The Dreamers
, Office Space
, The Princess Bride
Sunshine of the Spotless Mind
, Who's Afraid of
, pretty much everything showing at the AFI's
Silver Theater in Silver Spring.
My TV viewing is all over the place, with the exception
that I don't watch reality-TV, rarely watch televised sports, and
only watch TV news programming if there is something actually going
on. (So much of TV news is just sensationalist filler to maintain a
24-hour broadcast-news-cycle.) Some shows I like(d) are/were:
Strange and Mr. Norrell
, Six Feet Under
, Doc Martin
, Orphan Black
, Battle Creek
, Ray Donovan
. Penny Dreadful
might be the best
thing currently on TV.
Everything?! I listened to a lot of folk at my last
job and I'm kind of burnt-out on it. But beyond that, I'll listen
to just about anything as long as I can get into the lyrics and
narrative of it.
Food (Cuisine): Spanish
. (Note: I’m currently
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Eyeglasses (If I didn't have to wear glasses...I'd still wear
glasses with non-corrective lenses. I like me in glasses.)
Bicycle. (It's my usual transportation.)
Hirshhorn (It's my favorite Smithsonian.)
Moleskine notebooks. (I have one on me at all times.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next adventure
. I don't mean climbing the
Andes (even though that would be awesome), I try to find small
daily adventures in my everyday life. I just don't think I want an
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have typical...I like to mix it up.
Recently, for the time being, I'm working a second P/T job on
weekends as a line-cook so I'm often not free on Friday nights.
Sunday and Monday is my weekend currently.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm pretty-much an open book so let's go with "things" rather than
"thing" here since it's a good way to get things out of the
*I recently lost an absurd amount of weight (over 100#s) but I'm
only still about 65% of the way to my goal. I'm still not
comfortable with "the new me."
*I'm slightly hard-of-hearing (one ear 25% loss, the other 50%
loss) and have severe cochlea damage in one ear that affects my
hearing, balance and spacial-orientation. It's also why I barely
drink and don't drive.
*I have a profile on FL.
You should message me if
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...no, you should message me. I'm pretty sure that I'm worth the
effort. That might seem conceited, but I think that we should all
be a little more conceited about how amazing we are. Modesty is for
...if you have something to say. I love an intriguing or
challenging and thoughtful first message. Tell me a joke or a story
or initiate a dialogue and ask questions or tell me what interested
you to respond or...something. I've noticed a recent trend of
people sending an initial message of "Hello" or "Hey there" or
"What's up?" It's such a turn-off that I've started filtering for
minimum message length. I try to make an effort in composing a good
first message because it shows genuine interest.
So...you know, if you want to.
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