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LeftistLad

35 Hartford, CT Man, Gender Nonconforming

Man, Gender Nonconforming

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 6:28pm
Orientation
Straight, Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible
Ethnicity
Middle Eastern, Native American, White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Politics / Government
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Sign Language (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm in the middle of revamping this a bit.

I grew up in Connecticut but my heart belongs to Brooklyn where I've lived most of my adult life. I've lived all over the East Coast, most recently Washington DC. NYC will always be home for me though.

I'm usually initially quiet in large groups, leading people to think I'm shy, but actually I just like listening to people (also, people-watching) more than being the center of attention. I'm coming to embrace being a slight introvert.

I am completely committed to paper-and-binding books and will never own a Nook or Kindle or other e-book-reader. I love books: the weight and heft, the texture of printing paper, the smell of old books, the smoothness of the cover.

Other things I am passionate about: tea, smart growth, sustainable development, sex/gender equality, LGBTQ... rights, conservation, history, public transit, modern art, sex, gourmet food, kissing (An incomplete list.)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I got hired to my dream-job directing an arts organization where I was paid to listen to live music, attend art-exhibits, movie premieres and other performances. It felt like so much less than I was capable of though so...six months later: I moved back to CT to start a PR, communications, and development firm for NPOs where I can make more of a difference. Enough about work though: I am not my job. (Ideally, you are also not a person who defines themselves by their job. I work primarily to be able to minimize my work time and enjoy life.)

I volunteer for a small handful of human rights and public welfare organizations. Opposing torture, exploitation and global poverty. Opposing "-isms". Fighting the good fight. Good stuff.

I try to make a point to learn a new skill, talent or pastime every week. Currently, I am learning how to make papier-mâché masquerade masks and how to sew. I'm kind of an arts/maker nerd. Maybe looking for someone to take dance lessons with. I've wanted to learn how to tango, waltz, etc. for some time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a pretty good conversationalist and personal correspondence writer. I write thank you notes. I'll charm your parents and friends. I have exquisite taste in art and culture. I cook really well. I am both unfailingly polite and diplomatic.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm really tall.
I wear glasses.
I have a unique personal style. I have a tendency towards wearing very bright colors.
I'm reading a book.

People consistently tell me soon after meeting me that they thought I was 5-10 years younger than my actual age.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books (Authors): Kurt Vonnegut, Miranda July, Roberto Bolano, Thomas Pynchon, Martin Amis, Steve Almond, Jonathan Lethem, Haruki Murakami, Emma Donoghue, Neal Stephenson, Michael Chabon, Mark Z. Danielewski, Hunter S. Thompson, Nick Harkaway, Jeffrey Eugenides, Marcel Proust, Jennifer Egan, Gary Shteyngart, DBC Pierre, Edgar Allan Poe, and Anaïs Nin. Currently reading The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy. The best thing I read recently was The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt--it was amazing; I would recommend it to anybody looking for a good book to read.

I'm a huge fan of poetry. Some favorites: Charles Baudelaire, Jorge Luis Borges, Allen Ginsberg, Dylan Thomas, Sharon Olds, Emily Dickinson, Federico García Lorca, Langston Hughes, William Carlos Williams, Walt Whitman, T.S. Eliot, Samuel Taylor Coleridge and Charlie Bondhus. Conversely, I absolutely hate Robert Frost.

Movies: There are a lot...this list is a work in progress. Films and Filmmakers mixed together. Pedro Almodóvar, Charade, Blue Valentine, Secretary, Fight Club, La Jetée, The Seventh Seal, Delicatessen, Jules et Jim, Belle du Jour, Sin Nombre, Amelie, Y Tu Mamá También, Jean-Pierre Jeunet, Luis Buñuel, Ingmar Bergman, Secretary, Martin Scorsese, Werner Herzog, Jean-Luc Godard, Francois Truffaut, Dr. Strangelove, Little Miss Sunshine, The Dreamers, Office Space, The Princess Bride, Life of Brian, Duck Soup, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?, pretty much everything showing at the AFI's Silver Theater in Silver Spring.

TV: My TV viewing is all over the place, with the exception that I don't watch reality-TV, rarely watch televised sports, and only watch TV news programming if there is something actually going on. (So much of TV news is just sensationalist filler to maintain a 24-hour broadcast-news-cycle.) Some shows I like(d) are/were: Broadchurch, Elementary, The Blacklist, Supernatural, Constantine, Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norrell, Six Feet Under, Pramface, Doc Martin, Sherlock, Orphan Black, Battle Creek, Ray Donovan, Fargo and Hannibal. Penny Dreadful might be the best thing currently on TV.

Music: Everything?! I listened to a lot of folk at my last job and I'm kind of burnt-out on it. But beyond that, I'll listen to just about anything as long as I can get into the lyrics and narrative of it.

Food (Cuisine): Spanish, Indian, Afro-Caribbean, Mediterranean & fruit. (Note: I’m currently vegetarian.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Eyeglasses (If I didn't have to wear glasses...I'd still wear glasses with non-corrective lenses. I like me in glasses.)

Comfortable seating.

Library card.

Bicycle. (It's my usual transportation.)

Hirshhorn (It's my favorite Smithsonian.)

Moleskine notebooks. (I have one on me at all times.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next adventure. I don't mean climbing the Andes (even though that would be awesome), I try to find small daily adventures in my everyday life. I just don't think I want an "ordinary" life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have typical...I like to mix it up.

Recently, for the time being, I'm working a second P/T job on weekends as a line-cook so I'm often not free on Friday nights. Sunday and Monday is my weekend currently.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm pretty-much an open book so let's go with "things" rather than "thing" here since it's a good way to get things out of the way:

*I recently lost an absurd amount of weight (over 100#s) but I'm only still about 65% of the way to my goal. I'm still not comfortable with "the new me."

*I'm slightly hard-of-hearing (one ear 25% loss, the other 50% loss) and have severe cochlea damage in one ear that affects my hearing, balance and spacial-orientation. It's also why I barely drink and don't drive.

*I have a profile on FL.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
No, you should message me. I'm pretty sure that I'm worth the effort. That might seem conceited, but I think that we should all be a little more conceited about how amazing we are. Modesty is for boring people.

So...you know, if you want to.