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28 Oakland, CA Man, Non-binary

Man, Non-binary

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 20-30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 5
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Might want kids
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat), LISP (Somewhat), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am awesome.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Getting paid to tell people they're wrong.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring out how to do stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I used to try to explain this myself but all too often I've found it's much better to leave it as an open question for an ice breaker, so if you're looking for a subject to message me about... what do you notice first about me?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Anything by Scott Sigler
Anything with time travel or psychological thrillers.
Anything with epic story arcs.
Anything but rap.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The Internet [✓]
Something to Sing About [✓]
Intimacy [✓]
Sleep [✓-]
Education [✓]
Memories [✓]
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are awesome.

You have a job opening in the Bay Area.

You should definitely message me if...
You are open to and appreciate close friendships and loving relationships. You are emotionally and mentally attractive, and don't just think of it as "in spite of physical imperfection"—that is, you are comfortable with yourself. You share in any of my fandoms but can talk as an equal with someone who may not be as devoted as you. You are snuggle-able and want to share snuggles over a common interest. You are, were, or will be doing something awesome, and want someone to share it with. You can appreciate that I am in love more than once already and this will not change. You are intelligent and can laugh.

You may want to think twice about messaging me if...
You are looking for a monogamous relationship.
While I am quite happy to date monogamously if such is the requirement of my partner, I intend for my lifetime partnership to be with a person who can support my polyamory. If you don't think that's something you can do, I'm willing to help, but if that's something you don't want to do, I probably will not be settling down with you.

You are straight or gay and have expectations of gender roles.
The following deserves mention: I am gender-fluid and bisexual and moreover I feel like I would have a hard time connecting with anyone who doesn't share my appreciation for both sexes.