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28 College Park, MD Agender, Non-binary, Genderqueer

Agender, Non-binary, Genderqueer

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  • Ages 24–30
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Last online
Today – 3:43pm
Bisexual, Queer, Pansexual
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Working on Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I spent the first eighteen years of my life in PG County, inside the Beltway and north of Central Avenue. Then, for college, I decided to move right across the country to a small liberal sciences school in the Los Angeles suburbs. I ended up growing a bit more attached to Los Angeles than I expected, but four years and several transcontinental Amtrak trips later, I returned to the Northeast for grad school. I've spent the last six years in Boston, working on a PhD in chemistry at the school that many of my high school friends thought I went to for undergrad.

Now, I've found that I'm fed up enough with chemistry research and with academia that I need a break from being a grad student to get to experience being a real adult for once. So I'm dropping out of grad school and attempting to write a Master's thesis while finding a job in the DC area. I'm also hoping to have a bit of the life in DC I didn't manage to have in high school, exploring the city, going on bike rides with friends, and cooking big meals for people. (I really like to do Polish cooking, have experimented some with Indian cooking, and just got a Chinese cookbook that I'm interested to try out.)
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been in physical chemistry grad school for the past six years, fixing my lab's Giant Machine of Science and Doom (see photos). While it's kind of cool to get to say you work with fluorine gas and a vacuum ten thousand times lower pressure than in outer space, I've discovered that I may enjoy the idea of being a scientist more than I actually enjoy the grunt work of getting science done. So my current goal is to find some things to do that I somehow actually enjoy.

Besides finding a career path that's more enjoyable than work in the science mines, I want to get a chance to explore the DC area more now that I get to live in it as an adult. If you have any cool places you want to show me or visit with me, please let me know! Once it's warm enough, I'm planning on going on bike trips as much as I can. I also really like to cook and hope to have weekly dinner parties for friends. In grad school, I managed to get myself quite overcommitted with extracurriculars, like being treasurer of the student government and president of the science fiction club, so I'm kind of looking forward to having free time that's actually free.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
As much as it's out-of-character for a science grad student, I think that the skill I'm most proud of is my writing. I gather that people who read it tend to think that I'm quite good at explaining things clearly and understandably. This may extend to teaching in general: I've really enjoyed tutoring and teaching recitation sections for chemistry classes, and I even won an award for it one year. I really do want to write more "science lesson" posts for my blog -- -- but I rarely seem to have the time to put into doing them well, so my posts tend to just be recipes and photos, as those are the easiest to write.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know what it is, but it sure must be noticeable, given I've had people who met me once four years previously come up to say hello because they recognize me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My canonical favorite fiction book seems to be Thomas Hardy's _The Mayor of Casterbridge_. Even though I was president of my university's science fiction and fantasy library, I don't actually seem to read much of it anymore. I'm quite fond of Susanna Clarke's _Jonathan Strange & Mr. Norrell_ and Rachel Hartman's _Seraphina_, though.

My favorite food these days is probably Polish -- bigos, pierogi, golabki, and so on -- and it's what I'm most likely to cook for other people. But, honestly, it's not very healthy, and I've been trying to eat more Indian-style legume-based stews instead. I also need to try making Cornish pasties again, because I really enjoyed them on a trip to see my best friend in England a couple of years ago and have never been able to find them for sale in the US.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
--gauge bosons
--Higgs bosons
--some space-time to put them in
And I'll save the sixth for a spare.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about trains and transit. I'm not sure if I am sufficiently obsessed to count as a railfan, but I try.

History has been an interest of mine for a while. I went into college very interested in the Classical Mediterranean and somehow came out with a minor in Medieval European history. More recently, I've been reading a lot about the Bronze Age and about the history of religion. One of my goals for "when I have some time" is a project to write a world history of an alternate Earth with different geography and cultures.

I also think a lot about new places I can explore, and whether I can get anyone to come with me on long walks and bike rides and such.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I suppose the obvious one is that I'm transgendered and on hormone therapy. The fact that I've become a socialist over the last few years, as I've discovered just how much capitalism fucks over large segments of society, perhaps counts as well.
You should message me if
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You don't mind that my physical sex and gender identity don't match. I identify as neuter/genderqueer.

You're interested in someone to talk to or hang out with. And perhaps go on long walks or bike rides. Or to cook things with.

You want a pen-pal.

You're interested in talking about alternate histories of various sorts, or world-building. Or about trains and transit systems. (Bonus points if you mention a proposal you have in mind for a new subway line somewhere when you contact me.)

You want to practice Spanish with me: I'm planning on taking Spanish classes at PG Community College this summer, because I want to brush up on all the high school Spanish I've forgotten.

You want to practice computer programming with me: one of my goals for this year is to try to teach myself some amount of programming, since it seems to be the path to employment these days.

You want to talk about gender identity or non-binary gender. Or sexual orientation and things. I'm pretty comfortable talking about my gender identity if you have questions.