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27 M Cambridge, MA

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Last Online
Today – 3:37pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a chemistry grad student who probably has too many outside interests, at least from my advisor's perspective. I'm also an amateur librarian, a person who confuses their friends by sending letters written on paper with an actual pen, and someone who cooks Polish food whenever the opportunity arises. And my gender identity is neuter, not male.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in physical chemistry grad school, and (hopefully) will be for the next few years. This means I spend a lot of my time---and should spend more of my time---fixing my lab's Giant Machine of Science and Doom, or feeding it nitrogen and getting Science in return.

I also spend a lot of time cooking these days: I've been trying to always bring my lunch and usually bring my dinner to lab, which means I need to spend weekends making large collections of leftovers to eat for the following week. While I really like making Polish food---I started a Polish cooking club as an undergrad---most of what I make these days seems to be legume stews, because they're cheap and easy to scale up.

I also help run my university's science fiction and fantasy library, which does its best to eat a lot of time. Despite being a science fiction fan, though, most of my actual reading recently seems to be history texts from the university library. I'm not entirely sure how that happened.

Although I don't have as much time and energy for it as I'd like, I do a reasonable amount of writing to friends. I actually send letters (on paper! written with pens! mailed with stamps!) to high school and college friends, and I have a blog that I use to post a mixture of photos, stories of my adventures, and random OCD projects like timelines of city populations I've put together. It's at if you're interested.

Recently, I've been trying to teach myself Spanish, mostly using for practice. I've been making some progress, but not a lot, and I'd be interested in exchanging messages with people in Spanish for practice. (I'm not sure I'm anywhere near good enough for in-person conversation, but I'd be up for trying.)
I’m really good at
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Unfortunately, I'm really good at getting distracted from productive things I should be doing. On the other hand, I'm also quite good at focusing for hours on unproductive but amusing OCD projects, like going through Census data to plot the populations of the largest US cities for the last two centuries, or comparing the nutrient values per calorie of various staple foods. (Wikipedia has a chart of nutrient values per gram uncooked, but this is rather unfair to potatoes, since they're mostly water compared to uncooked wheat or rice.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know what it is, but it sure must be noticeable, given I've had people who met me once four years previously come up to say hello because they recognize me.

A number of friends have recently concluded that my taste in clothes runs towards "conservative religious minority", which is apparently noticeable to others. These days I am virtually always wearing some sort of head covering.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
--gauge bosons
--Higgs bosons
--some space-time to put them in
And I'll save the sixth for a spare.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about trains and transit. I'm not sure if I am sufficiently obsessed to count as a railfan, but I try. I have never made a fantasy transit map that I considered good enough to call complete or finished, though.

History. Recently largely American history, though sometimes European (I minored in Medieval history.), but I think this is being rather parochial of me. Any recommendations for introductory or general books on Mexican, Indian, Chinese, or Persian history would be greatly appreciated. Or on random other things, for that matter...

Science topics I can write up explanations of on my blog: I think this would be a useful thing for me to write more about.

I also hike and go on long walks, though of late I seem too busy to actually get to do so. But I try to when I can find time, and I approve of, so it annoys me that Massachusetts--unlike many other states--doesn't allow walk-through rights on beaches.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exhausted. Or, likely, in lab.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm not male, I'm neutrois. But OkCupid doesn't give a box for that.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 23–31
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You're interested in someone to talk to or hang out with.

You want a pen-pal.

You're interested in talking about alternate histories where the Whigs didn't keep having the worst possible luck, or where Mexico had more functional institutions in the Nineteenth Century. (Or you can recommend a good history of Mexico for me to read.)

You want to practice Spanish with me: I want to actually try to relearn Spanish after having forgotten most of what I learned in high and middle school. (Or think you can persuade me to learn some other language. Preferably German; I think Chinese is impossible because I can't hear or make tones.)

You want to talk about transit systems, or exchange ideas for transit fantasy maps. (Bonus points if you mention a proposal you have in mind for a new subway line somewhere when you contact me.)

You want to talk about gender identity or non-binary gender. Or sexual orientation and things.

[You don't mind all the parentheses.]