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27 F Cambridge, MA

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Last Online
Yesterday – 10:13pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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It says on the label somewhere that I'm a physical chemistry grad student. But you probably shouldn't take labels that seriously. Most of my days are spent in lab repairing vacuum equipment, and even when I get to do science, it rarely looks like your stereotypical chemistry lab.

Besides, these days my main academic interests seem to have drifted outside of my field. I've gotten to be very interested in history and anthropology and have been taking advantage of my university library card to read lots of academic history texts. In theory, it helps as research for an alternate-history worldbuilding project I'm doing. But mostly, it's just interesting.

Speaking of misleading labels, I'm one of the officers of my university's science fiction and fantasy library, but I read almost no fiction these days. I'm not really sure why I mostly stopped reading fiction, but I do try to keep up with a couple of authors that I like.

I identify as transfemininely neuter and prefer neuter pronouns, though I have only partially transitioned and amn't sure how much further I want to go. My gender and sexuality are pretty clearly queer, but I don't really identify with rainbows.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm in physical chemistry grad school, and (hopefully) will be for the next few years. This means I spend a lot of my time---and should spend more of my time---fixing my lab's Giant Machine of Science and Doom, or feeding it nitrogen and getting Science in return.

I also spend a lot of time cooking these days: I've been trying to always bring my lunch and usually bring my dinner to lab, which means I need to spend weekends making large collections of leftovers to eat for the following week. While I really like making Polish food---I started a Polish cooking club as an undergrad---most of what I make these days seems to be legume stews, because they're cheap and easy to scale up.

I also help run my university's science fiction and fantasy library, which does its best to eat a lot of time. For a while, I was spending even more time being consumed by student government. While I'm still involved in it, I had to cut back significantly for the sake of sanity, and it's been nice to get to have a life again.

Although I don't have as much time and energy for it as I'd like, I do a reasonable amount of writing to friends. I actually send letters (on paper! written with pens! mailed with stamps!) to high school and college friends, and I have a blog that I use to post a mixture of photos, stories of my adventures, and random projects like timelines of city populations I've put together. It's at if you're interested.

Last winter, I was trying teach myself Spanish, mostly using for practice. I got distracted and busy and stopped spending much effort on it, but I'd like to try again at some point. Feel free to bug me about it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This probably depends on who you ask. My labmates seem to be impressed with how good I am at soldering. Which is kind of worrying, really, since I don't actually have much experience doing it, and the fact that they think I'm much better than them probably says something about whether you want chemists building your electronics. Having had to try to troubleshoot a power supply built by a former postdoc in my lab, I can definitely say I'd rather not have my electronics built by chemists. The thing turned out to have something like THREE floating grounds!

People who read my blog --- --- seem to think I'm a good photographer. I'd like to think that they're right, though I wish that I had a higher writing-to-photography ratio on my blog. My impression is that I'm a fairly good writer as well, and I think that having some essays there would probably be more interesting than huge numbers of photos of trains.

I may be good at thinking obsessively about trains and transit systems, too. I recently spent a couple of evenings working on proposed rail transit systems for Boston, which I should probably post to my blog one of these days.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know what it is, but it sure must be noticeable, given I've had people who met me once four years previously come up to say hello because they recognize me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In no particular order:
--gauge bosons
--Higgs bosons
--some space-time to put them in
And I'll save the sixth for a spare.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about trains and transit. I'm not sure if I am sufficiently obsessed to count as a railfan, but I try.

History has been an interest of mine for a while. I went into college very interested in the Classical Mediterranean and somehow came out with a minor in Medieval European history. More recently, I've been reading a lot about the Bronze Age and about the history of religion.

Science topics I can write up explanations of on my blog. I went through a phase of reading Wikipedia articles on weird biology and writing blog posts about them this spring. I'd like to do this more, on other topics people would find interesting.

I also hike and go on long walks, though of late I seem too busy to actually get to do so. But I try to when I can find time, and I approve of, so it annoys me that Massachusetts--unlike many other states--doesn't allow walk-through rights on beaches.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exhausted from a week in lab, and going to bed early much of the time. Occasionally I end up staying up late in the science fiction and fantasy library I help run, though. And occasionally I cook on Friday nights, though that usually gets delayed until later in the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I suppose the obvious one is that I'm transgendered. The fact that I've become a socialist over the last few years, as I've discovered just how much capitalism fucks over large segments of society, perhaps counts as well.
You should message me if
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You don't mind that my physical sex and gender identity don't match.

You're interested in someone to talk to or hang out with. And perhaps go on long walks.

You want a pen-pal.

You're interested in talking about alternate histories of various sorts, or world-building. Or about trains and transit systems. (Bonus points if you mention a proposal you have in mind for a new subway line somewhere when you contact me.)

You want to practice Spanish with me: I want to actually try to relearn Spanish after having forgotten most of what I learned in high and middle school. (Or think you can persuade me to learn some other language. Preferably German; I think Chinese is impossible because I can't hear or make tones.)

You want to talk about gender identity or non-binary gender. Or sexual orientation and things. I'm pretty comfortable talking about my gender identity if you have questions.

[You don't mind all the parentheses.]