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LeroyJo

58 / M / Straight / Available

San Jose, California

His Details

Last Online
Mar 26
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m).
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Executive / Management
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Note: I am happy to exchange photos but because of my mangement job and poly orientation, and the fact that I work for a Wall Street company that is anything but liberal, I am not posting anthing but an obscure pic here. Send me a nice message for a real pic. I am not shy, but I won't ever send naughty pics unless you specifically ask for them as I don't think that is very classy.

I grew up in tall trees and rugged mountains and although I enjoy the chaos, experiences and distractions of a bustling city, I am most at peace in nature. I love the ocean--it recharges my batteries and provides calm when I am troubled or stressed--enjoy scuba diving and snorkeling. I also just love walking on a beach, or better yet camped out beside one. The sound of the waves is soothing and in the white noise I hear ever-changing music.

I am full of creative energy and am a musician/multi-instrumentist and creative writer. I compose songs, score music for films and also have published two novels neither of which has made the best seller list yet and I haven't had a hit song yet either, but none of that discourages me. I am creative because it is a part of who I am, not for material reasons. Not that I would turn down the freedom that a little success would bring. For me money is only a means to take care of the necessities of life and enough of it would allow me to quit my day job giving me more freedom to be creative.

I am a non-conformist; I believe little of what is preached as the status quo. I look at the way things are, not the way I am told they are supposed to be. So I am political and very much a left of center progressive. I support free public education through all levels, universal health care and gay marriage. I do not believe the government or any church belongs in my bedroom or a woman's vagina. I beleive in the absolute seperation of church and state. I am poly, feel compersion, support alternative relationship styles and the liberation of female sexuality from male dominance. I do not see any act of sex between consenting adults as "sinful" and cannot believe that any higher power would care-a-less with whom or how many people we have sex with. I hate it when men who have lots of sexual partners are called studs while women who do the same are called sluts. It does not matter to me how many sexual partners a woman has had, that is irrelevant; experience usually makes people better lovers (not always, some people never get it just like some people never grow up). And anyone who doesn't practice safe sex these days is either stupid or plain suicidal. Play hard and play safe :)

I am like a cat, curious about everything and always willing to try something new. I listed myself as straight because there was no category for curious cats and I don't think I am bi and definitely am not gay. Labels are really meaningless, experts always want to put us all in little boxes. No, I have never had sex with a man, but yes I am curious what it might feel like. I think curiousity is healthy and normal. Perhaps someday I will find out or perhaps not; it is only an occasional fantasy. C'est la vie. I love women, everything about them. I think sex is a relative thing, while I acknowledge there is a difference between making love and casual sex, it is assumed that you can only make love with someone you love and only have casual sex with someone you barely know, but I disagree; sometimes you can just casually fuck someone you are madly in love with and make passionate love to someone you just met, it all depends on the circumstances and the moment. There are no rules or right or wrong way in sex or love. So I am very interested in all aspects of human sexuality; it is a fascinating and complex subject.

I am not an overly athletic person, but I do try to eat healthy and I practice Tai Chi and Kung Fu for discipline and to stay in shape.
Oh, and I am learning ballroom, Latin and swing dancing, but I've got a long ways to go before auditioning for Dancing with the Stars, but is is fun and I enjoy it.

I quit smoking 25 years ago and drinking alcohol about 2 years ago, but it doesn't bother me if other people indulge. I am not into drugs or the drug scene other than the occasional 420, strictly for medicinal of course!
What I’m doing with my life
I work for Darth Vader and the Dark Side, well almost as bad, a Wall Street, Fortune 100 company; but don't hold that against me, I need a paycheck just like everyone. I think it is kind of ironic that an old hippie radical ends up working for Corporate America. Perhaps karma is getting back at me for the revolutionary spirit of my youth.

As I mentioned, I spend a lot of my time in my studio playing and recording music. I need to get out and jam with other musicans more often. I just finished a new rock/pop CD and am hard at work on 2 more. I am also working on music for a thriller/horror movie. I haven't done much writing lately, but have ideas for a couple of books rolling around in my head.

I am happily married, have children and grandchildren. My wife has my permission to date and have sex with whomever she wants. I have no sexual jealousy whatsoever and as I mentioned above, feel total compersion: I am turned on by the thought of her receiving pleasure from another man or men. Why not? I think the modern definition of monogamy and sexual exclusiveness are highly over-rated. Why would I care if she enjoys another man or woman for that matter? And vice versa of course. It's just not a big deal for me.
I’m really good at
Songwriting
Guitar and piano
Writing
Cooking
Computers
Back rubs
Kissing
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Non-fiction, I read a lot of books on sexuality: Sex at Dawn, the Ethical Slut, Opening Up. Fiction: a lot of thrillers and crime novels just to vegetate: Dean Koontz, James Patterson, Stephen King, that kind of stuff. And I love good sci-fi, my heroes being Issac Assimov, Arther C Clark, Ray Bradbury, Frank Herbert, hmmm, they're all dead now.

Movies: same sort of thing, thrillers and crime dramas. My wife and I like to watch sappy romances together like Sleepless in Seattle and You Got Mail.

Music: being a classically trained musician and composer, I obviously love classical music, Beethoven and Mozart being two of my favorites. I love big band music of the 40s, also love classic rock and pop: The Beatles, Rolling Stones, Who, Doors, Cream, Jimi Hendrix, Janus Joplin, Simon and Garfunkel, Doobie Brothers, Pink Floyd, Supertramp, Steely Dan, Little Feat, etc. I do not like rap, hiphop, dub step, really heavy or trash metal, twangy country.

I love good food. Some of my favorites are Indian, Greek and Italian. Chinese too, but I find a lot of places make it too geasy. Also like Mexican, but here in California, tend to have it pretty often.
The six things I could never do without
My family
Music
Strong coffee
Books
My integrity
Good sex
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Sex. Polyamony. I admit I have a lot of fantasies. Doing a complete stranger in an elevator. Compersion. Watching my wife enjoying other men. Having a MFM threesome with another MF couple. Giving a guy head for the first time. What makes BDSM tick? Haven't ever tried it, but I think I am more dominant than submissive, maybe I am a switch? I admit that I have acted out very few of my fantasies in reality. Are they better left fantasies or am I just chicken? Hmmm, I love roasted chicken sandwiches. God has a sense of humor, he made us. Does God exist? Or is heaven and hell just what we create for ourselves here on earth?

My beautiful, sexy wife who I think is a goddess. Every morning when I wake up and see her beside me, I feel so thankful. I adore everything about her. My kids and grand kids who I love so much.

Philosophy, the universe. Why do we exist? Death. Why ice cream tastes so good. Sometimes I feel pretty smart, other times I feel that I don't really know anything. Does any of this really matter?

Politics, our economic, political and justice systems and how blatantly unfair they really are. Utopia, socialism. Wish I lived on a commune, a longing for a simpler, more tribal existence. How much I like computers. The conflict inherent in those last two statements.

Mother Earth, Gia, Terra, the environment and the terrible things we are doing to our beautiful planet. Animals, extinction. How much I like eating popcorn and watching thriller movies.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually at home recovering from the week. I rarely go out on Friday nights. It is my night to be lazy and know I can sleep in the next morning if I want to. Some nights I work late in my studio and crawl into bed at 3 am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Something to ask me over coffee. I have lots of interesting stories and love telling them. Some are true and some I make up just for fun as I go along. How about you? What are you hiding in your closet? What's the worst thing you've ever done? What is your favorite color of M&Ms?
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You are a married or attached poly woman who would like to explore friendship and possibly more.

A single woman who would like to explore friendship or possibly more and doesn't mind being in a non-exclusive poly relationship with full knowledge that there is a primary partner out there and that isn't going to change.

A MF couple, with or without a bi male (as I mentioned above, I am curious) who would like expore friendship and possibly share their bed and bodies with another man on occasion in a V or Triad relationship. Possibility my beautiful wife might join in for a full swap.

Oh, and BTW, I have some body hair. I am a man and it grows there. I don't shave anything other than my face :) If that bothers you, sorry, WYSIWYG.