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36 Palo Alto, CA Man


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  • Ages 27–40
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6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Seeing Someone
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Tibetan (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Prone to slightly dramatic bouts of intellectual indulgence (see below), I'm self-aware enough to poke fun at myself and laugh (trust me, ample opportunity to practice). I'd rather be grounded and down-to-earth than a pompous academic. I'd rather cultivate compassion than smarts, though I value both. I desire experimenting with life over reading about it in research articles. Shoes (and people) that are a little too bright and shiny make me suspicious (I prefer those worn in a bit by the contours of life... with a little dirt from the trail dusted on). And, frankly, life without purpose and adventure is no life at all.
I believe this: Know your passion. Be bold enough to live it... Sometimes I fail, most of the time I do alright.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Professoring (Psychology). Sometimes consulting. (It's one of the more meaningless words in the American lexicon, no?) Troublemaking (of the generic or specific sort).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This and that. Odd things one wouldn't anticipate.
Putting people at ease and challenging them at the same time.
Having an open heart and mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Mildly untamed curls of hair going every which way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Bookish things: The Glass Bead Game (most Hesse). Neuromancer (and cyberpunk, generally). The Passion of the Western Mind. e.e. cummings and William Carlos Williams. Patricia Hill Collins. Mother Jones magazine.

Music: Joy Division (by far). Steve Reich (Music for 18 Musicians is genius) and Philip Glass. Philip Jeck. Blues that has gravel and whiskey in it (read: Howlin Wolf's Smokestack Lightning). John Coltrane (circa 1960-61-62, in particular). Brian Eno and David Byrne (My Life in the Bush of Ghosts is still SO FRESH!). The xx. Burial (dubstep, not brostep, please). LCD Soundsystem. Others and others and others...

Flicks: The Three Colors Trilogy. 2001. Lost in Translation. Jiro Dreams of Sushi. Jim Jarmusch, generally speaking. Like everyone else... Wes Anderson. The Godfather (part 1). Baraka. Latcho Drom.

Food: Not even close to a fair question. I mean, the others were bad enough, but this one is downright impossible. Everything delicious. Wine and whiskey. 85% dark chocolate. Spice. Lots of spice. Subtlety of flavor, too. And depth. Wait, this was a question on food, right?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Meaning and purpose (the kind felt in one's bones).
Fun and surprise.
The mundane cracking open into the unexpected.
Travel (near and far).
Sensuality and human touch.
People (loved ones and those who stimulate us to be better).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to inspire college students to be the best versions of themselves. Why many people vote against their own self-interests. The intersection between ideals and pragmatics. Post-post-modernism.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really fit into the Palo Alto scene (but I love being able to bike to work, hence my current geography). So, on Friday (or Wednesday or Saturday or Monday or...) I'm usually found somewhere between 20th/Mission and Temescal.
You should message me if
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You believe a life well lived is a worthy pursuit.
You're fine with non-monogamy.
Thoughtful conversation illuminates new avenues of thinking and being.
The fact that I have a 14 year old quirky, cool daughter who spends most of her school breaks (read: winter, spring, summer chunks) with me is fine with you.
You're a cool person with a good heart, but not too innocent (perhaps with a deviant streak?).
You're pure-human-magic and verve.