I work as a caregiver and advocate with an amazing friend who has Spinal-Muscular Atrophy. I spend a lot of time with him, giving care, and fighting a continuous uphill battle with the state of oregon that is quite unnecessary to get him the quality of life he deserves.
I am on here as a means of availability, although OKCupid and I have a love hate relationship.. I am consistently offput, though I have met some wonderful people, here.
I most likely will not message you, even if I like you, unfortunately, many of my gender will have already flooded your inbox with terrible comments, full of objectification, and disrespect, and I don't wish to be one of those men, messaging you and blending in with that. I will probably rate you highly, so if you like me, you can find out if it's mutual through rating.
I am confident enough to say 'hello' in public if I am attracted, but I am very much dismayed by how some of my male peers act toward women, thus, many times I decide not to approach. I don't want to blend into any of that.
I am not vane, and physical isn't so important to me as mental attraction, though if you are a bigger girl, I can't pursue anything sexual. I am not shaming your body type, either, I am thin, and it doesn't feel right for me, I have tried... and I don't have an unfair standard, either, when I say big, I mean obese.
Statistically speaking you won't read this far, you will have perused my photos, maybe viewed some questions, but you will have mostly judged me from intrinsic physical attraction. If this is how you use OKCupid, if you are a vane person, save us both the time and let's not talk. I am not denying that physical attraction is important, but it is hardly everything, beauty fades, honest, intellectual souls are what I look for.
Really tired of everyone's fixation on gender identity, I refuse to be contained to it, I am not my body, and if you identify as the vessel you see in the mirror, you might be missing out on a lot of depth. I am a queer ally, and many of my close friends, and my brother are transgender, so it's not an attack on the identity itself, it is, however a criticism on the front of rejecting communication based on particular gender identity. It IS discrimination.
I am an irreverent, yet sincere and passionate man.
I have never been so great at describing myself, I suppose it's because I am not that self-involved, and I feel like one could post whatever they want into these little boxes.
I would much prefer a long conversation where that information is traded equally.
I am a really easy guy to be friends with and I respect boundaries, I am really initially only looking to meet new friends; after that come what may, but I carry no expectations.