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Last online
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White, Other
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
*Drunk and incidentally starting up again. Just 'restored' this profile, though everything is now about two years out of date. Will get around to making a new one... ...some time I suppose. Where's my whiskey? - 11:49pm 7/29/15*

*PS: Here it is!*

*PPS: God, how we change over time. Two years ago I was so concerned with goodness in abstract terms. I didn't consider the day to day kindness that really makes a relationship work.*

Hi. I’m AJ.

I'm a professional photographer living in the West Loop.

I'm a generally happy and energetic person, living the dream and working hard to see it through.

I seek fulfillment in life by surrounding myself with good people and attempting to lead a good life.

I get a lot of happiness in seeking out big adventures in life; cross-country road trips on back roads, opening and curating an art gallery, making a go of my very fulfilling though possibly ill-advised career. These big adventures can be far between. I like to fill in little adventures in the meantime; heading out to Devil's Lake, foraging a meal with a biologist friend, ordering dim-sum entirely by pointing at pictures and asking the waiter what I shouldn't eat (unto the end of eating it).

In a relationship I'm looking for someone to be a partner in crime and also inspire me a little as I hope to inspire them. I'm really attracted to good people. Intelligence is also a huge turn on for me, as is creativity.

I’m looking for a relationship with an eye to the future. I’m not one to saddle a new relationship with a lot of expectations. I'm just looking for something with a lot of potential.

I'm also looking for someone with a great sense of humor. Someone I can take to Zanies, Second City, and The Annoyance. In that vein maybe Steppenwolf too if we're in an erudite mood.

I'm a glutton for affection. Few things make me happier than expression my feelings through words, touch and actions. I need someone who can be both accepting and giving.
What I’m doing with my life
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I run my photography business. My favorite part of the work is getting to meet all of the fascinating people I work with. Pardon the shameless self-promotion:

I have a photo studio in the West Loop that I also rent out for photo shoots, video productions and sometimes other functions:

I’d like to involve more activism and altruism in my life, but at this point in my life I’m limited in my capacity. I have a couple pro bono clients, but it's not much to speak off.

Back in college I did political work. When I ran a curated a gallery I would have shows for after-school photography programs. Until it went bust I was donating press work to a start-up charter school. Now though, I really need to concentrate on getting my business fully established and that means a lot of work and investment. For the past few years I’ve been dividing my efforts too broadly and while I have some great stories I feel like I could be accomplishing more now if I had more focus in the past.

If I hunker down for now I’ll be able to do more for others in the future.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Photography. If I weren't I'd be in trouble.

Mixology. My cabinets are full of home-made infusions for cocktails like my Clementine Zest Bournbon which makes for a mean Manhattan and French Roast Tequila Blanco which I use to replace Kahlua. Next up for me to try to make are some floral simple syrups and after that I'd like to make my own bitters.

Cooking. I'm no master (or sous) chef, but this morning I made a pretty good spinach quiche with gruyere and shitake mushrooms. I'm proud of my rosemary-fried grilled cheese, pasta carbonara and a few other dishes too if you care to ask. Next on the list of things to try is a ceviche.

Hugs. You should try one.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a smile like Davey Crockett’s which, say of its prettiness what you will, is big enough to strip the bark off a tree.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I really love to read. A comitment to life-long education is important to me.

Favorite Authors Dawkins, Sam Harris, Vonnegut, Steinbeck, Hemmingway, David Sedaris.

Some Favorite Books The Selfish Gene, Freakonomics, Cat's Cradle, The Moral Landscape, The Naked Ape, The Song of Ice and Fire, The Grapes of Wrath, Mountains Beyond Mountains, Ways of Seeing,

Podcasts This American Life, Freakonomics, Savage Love, The Moth, Radiolab

Shows Breaking Bad, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Game of Thrones, Portlandia, Walking Dead,

Movies Anything Kubrick. The Cohen Brothers. Most David Lynch. Most Wes Anderson. George Romero until mid-career. Hell, Pixar hasn't done me wrong yet. Tarantino is gold and his British knock-off, Guy Ritchie, can be fun.

Too many to list are my favoirte occasional indie flick or dumb comedy. Incomplete, in no order, and terribly mixed some are Moon, Coffee and Cigarettes, Zombieland, Harold and Kumar, The King of Kong, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, American Psycho, Waking Life, They Live, Pi, Grizzly Man, Clerks, Die Hard etc.

Also always love a good documentary.

Essay surprisingly pertinent to my broader world view even before I read it The Work of Art in the Age of Mechanical Reproduction
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Morality and goodness.

Business planning and marketing.

Sciency Things.

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Being a photographer a Friday isn’t always a Friday for me, but whenever my Fridays are I’m going out for a drink with friends or having them to mine.

With enough creative energy I actually prefer to visit and host friend in our homes. They allow for a more creative night. Drunken mural painting. Roller skating around the studio. Group cooking projects. These things can’t happen at bars.

When I go out I normally stick to dive bars and diners. I believe in enjoying thing for what they are and not the status they project. Places like Rainbo, Happy Village, Big Star, Club Foot are some of my favorites. Now that I live in the West Loop I go to Beer Bistro too.

I make exceptions for places that are really creative and interesting. Things like the drink menu at Violet Hour, the food at Publican Quality Meats, and the atmosphere and music of Untitled are really worth going to.

If I'm getting fancy I really like to go to comedy clubs and theater productions
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Short profiles annoy me. If what interested me most in someone could be summed up by their photos I'd be hitting on girls in clubs.

That said, for both health and physical attraction I'm looking for someone who will maintain a healthy BMI with me. I've recently come to the realization that I won't be a strapping young lad forever and have started going to the gym and eating better (Kale FTW!). I'd love to have someone to workout with and cook healthy food with.
You should message me if
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I am really attracted to intelligent, compassionate, and creative women. I also need someone who is passionate about what they do.

Major bonus points to you if you are making the world a better place. Doctors, nurses, teachers, social workers, volunteers, do-gooder lawyers, policy advocates, and attentive granddaughters: How you doin'?