I'm an outgoing, playful, youthful, empathetic, athletic, thinking man who has pretty much figured out the meaning of life.

I have the body of a very fit 50 year old and the energy of a 40 year old.

I'm more interested in your "inner life" than your outer life. Fair is fair--so, here is my inner life:

I’m very serious and very playful. Ah, a bit bi-polar, you think? ): I hope you are serious and playful too.

I need and must have a "deep, loving and connected" relationship that transforms and grows each of us into our better angels. (Ouch, that sounds so-o-o very serious. But I am. ):

I'm not looking for just a friend to do things with. I also want a "deep, loving and connected" relationship that transforms and grows each of us into our better angels.

However, I do need private time for meditation, thinking, reading and research.

We would be a good fit if you have a PLAYFUL, childlike ESSENCE, even silly or goofy and enjoy loving teasing.

Though I have money, I’ve learned that possessions, toys and “things” are the enemy of happiness. I hope you feel the same. Knowing how to love, to grow, and knowing how to be happy is what it’s all about.

We would be a good fit if you identify with the songs "Somebody" by Dune and "The Rose" by Bette Midler.

I prefer communication which is authentic, assertive but respectful and heartfelt.

I strive to make each day like those FUN, exploration-filled summer vacations most of us had as children, or those wonderful college years, RICH with intellectual and personal growth.

I have a ZEST for life with lots of youthful energy and enthusiasm, and I'm looking for the same in my soul mate. I also need someone who is comfortable revealing their feelings (passionately but civilly) and not bottling them up.

I try to speak the truth with kindness and fairness. I often use a witty comment (not sarcasm) to describe the truth.

I try to follow Gandhi's advice: "Be the change you wish to see in the world." This is a biggie.

I am sensitive and introspective and hope you’d be also.

My integrity means everything to me. My word is my bond. Always. Period. No excuses!

I LIVE for intellectual and emotional connection, as much as physical.

It is important to me that you know--and will tell me--what makes you truly happy.

I am passionate but not “dramatic” (there is a HUGE difference) and would be thrilled if you are this way too.

I am ENERGIZED by thoughtful, passionate, well-reasoned discussions. I love stimulating conversation, but NOT fighting! I love finding the truth more than winning the argument, and seek emotionally to understand the viewpoint of the other person.

I am an experienced "logical, clear, open-minded thinker." I hope this does not annoy you.

I'm a compass, not a weather vane. I often disagree with "conventional wisdom."

To save the world, first save yourself.

I’m very confident, but not arrogant.

I'm a big believer that we are each RESPONSIBLE for the choices we make. Don't blame others. I hope you feel the same.

I have a private relationship with God through meditation, not through religious doctrine or going to church. My MOST IMPORTANT relationships are with the "God existing inside each person." I have a strong spiritual connection with nature.

Nothing fulfills me more than seeing my partner excited, happy and radiant.

For me, passionate sex happens only if there is a DEEP emotional connection outside of the bedroom. That emotional connection will show in every moment we are together. How? By the way we look at each other, touch each other...and communicate with each other.

For me, life is really ALL ABOUT emotional connections...to animals...to the majesty and serenity of nature...to grand ideas...to just causes…to sensitive, kind people.

I communicate cleanly, directly, civilly and honestly--and expect the same.

Because I am physically active and in good shape, I prefer you are too.

Though never married, I've been engaged twice. And had two long term relationships. I've been quite fulfilled by the uncommon journey of not marrying.

Gads, I'm finally done!! Are you still reading? Have I put you to sleep or sent you to the insane asylum? If not, you might be my gal ):

The purpose of my life is to be HAPPY, to be connected to others and to help others without doing myself in. Here is what does that for me:
1. Greeting people with sincere friendliness
2. Finding and praising the good (the "God") in every person
3. Helping family and friends
4. Friendships based on RESPECT and emotional CONNECTION (and not just shared values)
5. OVERCOMING life's misfortunes
6. Music that touches my EMOTIONS
7. Being in nature--hiking or walking in beautiful places, skiing, golf, horseback riding
8. Self-development
9. Spiritual growth
10. Plays, movies, or documentaries that AFFECT my emotions and make me THINK
11. Respectful and thoughtful conversation
12. Traveling to and learning from different cultures
13. Correcting social injustice
14. A deep and intimate emotional and physical connection to a woman

Boredom is not an option for me.

Happiness is a choice.

1) finding and praising the best in a person
2) getting over brick walls the universe has placed in front of me
3) accepting people for who they are
4) helping friends
5) clear, logical, open-minded thinking
6) handling difficult situations
7) being empathetic

My friendliness, warmth and sincerity.

Favorite books:
1. "The Thinkers Way" by John Chaffee
2. "First Things First" by Stephen Covey
3. "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Buckingham and Clifton
4. “Love Without Conditions: Reflections of the Christ Mind” by Paul Ferrini

Favorite movie: Dr. Zhivago
Favorite music: Carly Simon, John Phillips Sousa, Beethoven, Mozart, Chopin, Rachmaninoff.
Favorite songs: "Somebody" by Dune and "The Rose" by Bette Midler
Favorite foods: Indian, Thai and Mexican

10 Favorite sayings:
1. Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; and small minds discuss people.
2. It is not a sign of good mental health to be well adjusted to a sick society.
3. Seek to find the “God existing inside each person.”
4. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
5. A person convinced against their will remains of the same opinion still.
6. Walk your talk; please don't talk it unless you can walk it.
7. The unexamined life is a life wasted.
8. All it takes for negative forces to triumph in this world is for enough good men and women to do nothing.
9. What makes somebody an extremist is not their views or feelings on an issue, but their intolerance. It is not what they say about their own cause that makes them an extremist, but what they say and feel about those who disagree with them.
10. Love finding the truth more than winning the argument, and seek emotionally to understand the viewpoint of the other person.

1. Time alone to read, think, reflect, meditate and recharge.
2. Authentic, heartfelt and sincere communication
3. Being outdoors (hiking, golfing, skiing)
4. Friends
5. Exercise of all sorts (dancing, yoga, strength training, skiing, hiking)
6. Organic food
7. Travel (both in the US and abroad)
8. Stimulating conversation
9. Personal growth. This is a biggie.
10. Ladies.
Ooops, is 10 OK!?

How I want to continue growing and developing into a kinder, nicer, more connected and skilled person...and how to continue a vibrant, wondrous life as I age.

1. Going to small theater; or
2. Ballroom or swing dancing; or
3. Healthy eating out with a friend; or
4. Quiet time at home reflecting or talking with a friend.

How painfully shy I was until around age 30.
That I want to be understood and accepted.

my dissertation has not put you to sleep by now! If you've read this far without going nuts, you're my girl!!