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My self-summary Propose an edit

I'm looking locally. If you live 3000 miles away, I probably won't reply.

Yearning for someone I can look up to and really respect, to guide and open me. "Someone to watch over me." And also to do unspeakable, naughty, fabulously fun things together. A good man, with an evil streak.

I have my life together. I have pursued my calling. I love my job and believe I make a difference in the world. While I don’t make a lot of money, I pay my own bills because I’m careful with not spending too much. I take pretty good care of myself, eat mostly healthily, don’t smoke, stay active. Spiritually, I’m yearning, searching and seeking.

Chances are, if I’m going to honestly look up to you, most of the above is true of you too. You aren't perfect (perfection is boring), but chances are you are aware of some of the place you'd like to grow and you will be able to see my blind spots and bad habits more clearly than I could by myself.

Hopefully, you haven’t settled for safety—you’ve pursued your calling. You don’t usually waste your life energy on meaningless gadgets, and you do plan for the future even as you strive to live mostly in the present. Spiritually, you are open, or maybe you know. (I would love to know. I don't--I do believe all spiritual traditions are a metaphor for something that maybe we don't get to know as humans. I also believe life is richer when we are spiritually open. But I'm an agnostic. A reverent agnostic.)

You seek a partner to develop roots with, and soar in the world. Someone to support you in your dreams as you support her in hers. That doesn't mean today, or tomorrow or this month. But if you met someone that you clicked with, if things felt like they were going right, you would be open to that.

FWIW, I'm looking for something that could develop into a monogamous relationship. I will never be anyone's mistress. If you're married or in a committed relationship, even if it is an open relationship, I'm not interested.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

I'm trying to make the world a little better for people with the least, connect with people deeply and find joy. There are times I numb out (usually on video games) but I'm trying to make that less common...

Je voudrais d'apprend les langues, mais j'ai oubliez tout mon francais et espanol. J'ai etutde Turco, Japones, et Indonesio parcequ j'ai une turista, mais j'ai oubliez tout.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

Loyalty. Loving & living passionately and deeply. Strong intuitive sense--I'll notice your energy and pick it up if you're compromising your integrity or purpose. When I connect with someone, I'm really present. I have integrity and I'm not materialistic (or I am, but not in the regular way--I LOVE an apron my grandma sewed me, a rock my grandfather and I played with, lots of things, but I don't buy much new stuff--I don't need more stuff.)

I'm intellectually quick and smart (although not all that wise--working on wisdom--and I'm bad at languages--see above for proof!), I memorize song lyrics really quickly. I am politically engaged and very aware of what is going on in the world (very liberal--or very middle of the road, but the entire spectrum has moved so far to the left, that today I'd be considered liberal).

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

Lately, it is that I'm reading the Bible. But it's not the bible! It is Shakespeare. Then it is my embarrassed attempts to make sure they know it is Shakespeare and not the bible because I don't want them to think I'm the kind of person that reads the bible religiously. Then it is my sense that I don't want people to think that I'm a snobby person that has to parade the fact that I'm reading Shakespeare. I think I need to buy a different copy of the play I'm reading, but this fits so easily in my purse. It is all quite weird.

But normally, it is that I tend to think quickly and jump from topic to topic, think Tarzan swinging through ideas on the vines, and I'm quite intense. I love the crackly, sexy, sparkly nature of conversation, where you build off each other and see different facets of an idea in a collaborative, excited tangential conversation that goes all over the place.

Second thing they notice (if they met me over the internet) is that I'm less certain in person than I am in my writing. Writing has a way of crystallizing ideas, that isn't there in person.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

Left-wing political stuff, most of the NPR canon, NY Review of Books, Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, Billy Moyers, This American Life, loved Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, American Beauty, Truly Madly Deeply, Six Degrees of Separation, Guns Germs & Steel, three of Anne Rice's books, Highbrow/Lowbrow, The Bronte Canon, Beatles, Beethoven's 9th (that is the closest I come to believing in God, oh and Haigha Sophia has the same impact on me!), Sondheim, U2, Gershwin, Celtic Music, Chinese Japanese & Turkish food.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

Optimism; Spontaneous joy; In-depth communication; Growing emotionally & searching spiritually; Acknowledging our difficulties; Fabulous-frequent-faithful sex--GGG

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

Everything: politics, the meaning of life, how to live more fully, how to avoid living more fully, why I'm trying to avoid living more fully, how to deal with the issue I'm avoiding that is making me not want to live more fully.

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

I don't accept the premise of the question.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

As a country, we aren't doing well with navigating men/women relationships. I want a true partnership of equals in the world, even as I yearn for someone to sweep me off my feet and truly lead on the dance floor and in our erotic lives.

Can men & women talk honestly about sex without it leading to casual sex? A partner must be compatible on that realm, but it seems if a woman talks about it, then men assume she's easy & men aren't gentlemen if they broach the subject. I'm not easy. But it's too important not to discuss honestly & openly. GGG + fabulous communication!

You should message me if Propose an edit

you're intrigued.

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