Now I'm not claiming to be completely open minded. but i'd like to think I'm open to other opinions on things and not unwilling to bend when someone has a logical standpoint. but one of my pet peeves of all time is people with narrow minds. you know, those people unwilling to see any other option. at all. ever.

People may think I'm referring specifically to Right wing thinkers from a political standpoint and societal standpoint but I wouldn't limit myself such. While i generally identify myself strongly with the left I find myself in practice to be more moderate. I find that one type of person that totally irks me in every possible way is the "super liberal" with a narrow mind. they claim to be so very open and free and can't stand anyone who isn't. but that isn't being open. open implies inclusive and they've just alienated the majority of society and not just alienated but berated and scolded. I'm sorry, not everyone likes vegetable or hummus or coffee that costs $6.00 a cup. not everyone can afford fair trade and organic food. it would be great if they could, no doubt! but they can't.

and while I am personally very wary of religion of almost any sort many people do manage to live happily, healthily and sanely while believing in some higher power or afterlife. so why should we condemn the many for the few crazy ones?

you are always able to compromise. there is no black and white issue, everything is in shades of gray and yes that can get confusing but really, look into an issue before you decide to condemn an entire group of people, or even a few because things are almost never what they seem.

personally i'm in the habit of arguing (debating) with people on certain points just to see if they're willing the bend on an issue, and i don't mean abandon their opinion, just adjust it a little. so if i seem passionate or argumentative on a subject it might not mean so much that i full out disagree I may be playing devil's advocate to make sure you have sound reasons for your opinion and if you don't that you're willing to find some. or adjust your opinion until you can.

I need to stop ranting, have to admit though I don't usually feel like writing "journals" when i'm in a good mood *sigh*

      I sometimes wonder whether guys think desperation is sexy because I certainly don't think so. I've gone a long time alone for simply reason of pride. i refuse to be so desperate that I'll accept anyone who comes along. it doesn't mean i looking or waiting for a perfect guy I'm more realistic than that. But why can't I have someone I can talk to, relate to and share things with? a friend first, confidante then lover.

      this has probably stopped several possible relationships the second i notice that the guy doesn't seem to see me so much a person so much as an outlet. I'm not something you can poor your angst and frustration into then fuck around on the side. Sure people like to complain sometimes (as I am now) but not all the time! You have to be able to laugh at your issues before you can actually get over them! "if you can't laugh at it it probably not worth taking seriously".

     I'm talking about equality in a relationship and not in the whole gender roles aspect just simply being able to both share the ups and downs of lifes not one sidedly talking or listening. and when one person doesn't notice that they talk endlessly and never actually hear and important issues, stories or just rants from their partner in return what does that say? that they need to shut up and listen themselves for a while maybe.

so if you coming looking at me looking for someone to fix you up that's not me right now. while everyone has issues (myself included) I'm not the person with the patience to sit through endless whining and complaining without being able to do some in return. it's called communication people. and if you can't find anything happy or random or just funny to talk about then you have more issues than i think i can deal with. I'm sorry. patience is a virtue but I can only go so far.