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Lingtom

60 Northampton, MA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:08am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Status
Single
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English, French, Chinese, Spanish

My self-summary

I’m earnest and intellectually curious, but also able to make stupid jokes and see the absurdities of life. I read and think a lot, yet I’m also a dancer and soccer player. In much of what I do I’m controlled, yet at the same time capable of great energy and joy (sort of like Bach, as opposed to jazz...). I value my friends highly, and once I feel I have a close friend, I am loyal and attentive and want to stay in touch. The arts are important to me, and so is awareness of what’s going on in the world. But one can’t be serious all the time... joking around is important!

I am intelligent, kind, and energetic

What I’m doing with my life

Learning and teaching, trying to understand myself, enjoying the arts, dancing.

I’m really good at

Languages, conversation, contra dancing, wry humor, organizing space (I’ve often packed the truck for friends’ moves).

The first things people usually notice about me

That I like to talk and exchange ideas, to find out who people are and how they think

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Lots! -- far too many to mention. Fiction (Henning Mankell, Octavia Butler, Sarah Dunant, Richard Russo, Mary Doria Russell); nonfiction (The Inner Bird, Righteous Mind); independent and otherwise good film (Red [the Kieslowski film], The Secret in Their Eyes, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Inception, Run Lola Run); classical/jazz/rock/Celtic fiddling; burgers or steaks, sushi or gan-chao-niu-he...

The six things I could never do without

friendship, intellectual curiosity, visual beauty, self-awareness, a sense of humor

I spend a lot of time thinking about

my friends, how my mind works, how languages work, good books or films, ways we could make the world better

On a typical Friday night I am

dancing, out for dinner, and/or watching a movie

The most private thing I’m willing to admit

inside of me is an exuberant little boy trying to get out

You should message me if

you like stimulating conversation, are intellectually curious, and have both a sense of purpose and a sense of humor

The two of us

All questions

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 4:08am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Education
Status
Single
Pets
Likes cats
Speaks
English, French, Chinese, Spanish