I am a divorced man with a grown son. Originally from New York, I
have lived in the SF Bay Area for the last 40 years. I am a bit of
a non-conformist and have little patience for pretense,
pseudoscience, paranormal phenomena, phonies, flakes or football.
I'm bright, articulate and many say intense. I value understanding
things more than knowing things and I value caring about things
more than just doing lots of things. I am a cautious, curious,
thorough thinker, very much committed to helping people without
rescuing them. I am intelligent but my education has not been in
traditional institutions. I currently live on the peninsula, having
finally given up my dream of building a home in West Marin. The
bureaucracy just defeated me. My son has been the center of my
life, but the time has come that I need to shift my focus away from
him and develop my own social life for his benefit as well as mine.
In that direction, I am open to theater, symphony, the occasional
good movie that comes up and in town dining. I do enjoy travel and
have flown my small plane all over the US, parts of the Caribbean
and several places in Mexico. For now, I enjoy a major trip or two
as well as weekend getaways with the right partner.
What I’m doing with my life
I devote time and effort to my kid, to my business, to helping
individuals and organizations. I spend a lot of time learning all
kinds of stuff and I devote plenty of time to such pleasures as
nice restaurants, nice wines, good friends and good times.
I’m really good at
Understanding things and explaining them. I am told that I am
insightful and articulate.
The first things people usually notice about me
Confident, perceptive, articulate, insightful
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ambrose Bierce, Kahlil Gibran, Norton Juster, Milton Friedman,
Richard Bach, George Bernard Shaw. I like Musicals from the 40's,
50's and 60's. Gershwin, Porter, Rogers, Kern, Lowe. I keep show
tunes in my car stereo and a couple of classical discs. I enjoy
just about any kind of food and can whip up a pretty good Northern
Italian Dinner. Try me.
The six things I could never do without
Not so sure about "could" but surely wouldn't "want" to do
My short term memory
My f--king reading glasses
A little more Patience
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Exactly what makes a successful relationship. Here's what I got so
far. One characterized by reason rather than rules, respect rather
than authority, accommodation rather than duty, space between the
partners rather than distance, interest in one another's lives
rather than investment and helping one another rather than
rescuing. In short, each person marking and maintaining that
difficult and tenuous line which separates intimacy from enmeshment
or interdependence from codependence. The two partners should be
able to participate in things together as well as have meaningful
individual lives. They should be with each other more often by
choice than by need, not that need is bad. Both should be committed
to the pursuit of intimacy as I believe that intimacy requires
How am I doing so far? What do you think?
On a typical Friday night I am
If I don't have somewhere to go, I am at the computer, continually
amazed at how much information is available on the Internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I admit NOTHING!! It may even be true, but I'll deny it in court.
You should message me if
you are an inquisitive, intelligent woman who is not afraid to
question things and not unwilling to be questioned. You should know
how to be heard without yelling and be at least pleasant to look
at. I would like an independent, assertive woman who is not very
concerned with "fitting in." She should have the confidence to
willingly listen to foreign ideas and the patience to persist until
hers are understood.