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34 San Diego, CA Woman


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  • Ages 25-36
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My details

Last online
Nov 6
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I never grew out of asking why all the time and I don't actually think it's possible to over-think things because you could never, ever run out of things to think of. So I don't get bored much, I suppose. I like to make things, hang out on the bottom of the ocean, and learn about almost whatever is available. Everyday I'm trying to be better than I was the day before, and if I can get there laughing, I've got no complaints. I'm a sucker for a spectacle or absurdity.
What I’m doing with my life
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Failing to finish my thesis in Cultural Anthropology--my official specialties are sexual and political anthropology, and I'm interested in identity politics, too. Mainly though, I work in a dive shop and get in the water as much as I can.

I read somewhere that the world is like a book, and people who don't travel are only reading one page. Put that on my tombstone and make the mourners watch an epic slide show of all the cool things I've seen…or you know, will have seen by then hopefully. (edit: it was St. Augustine who said it and I've been a couple of really neat places.)

Other than that, I'm usually procrastinating, making artwork, or having an adventure. I might have mentioned that I dearly love to laugh.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Conversation! It's like dancing when you get it right.

Social deconstruction and textual analysis, though that rarely brings any boys to the yard.

Spotting nudibranchs and remembering useless information.

I'd like to think that I'd be invaluable on a desert island, or during a zombie apocalypse because of my varied and adaptable skill sets.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My clever t-shirt or my raucous laughter. After that though, they notice that I'm ridiculously silly, and will totally sacrifice myself for a good joke.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books--anything and everything. I love dystopian novels like Stranger in A Strange Land and Brave New World, you know. If it ends in deep existential terror, I'm in. I love classics, regular fiction, non-fiction, ethnographies, romance, self-help books, historical accounts, sci-fi, high fantasy, short story anthologies, graphic novels. I've rarely met a book I didn't like.

Movies--Almost anything, from craptacular exploitation flicks to blockbusters and art house. I'm dying to see Jodorowski's Dune, but it's not playing anywhere close. Some favorites are Amelie, The Fifth Element, 28 Days Later, Society, Firefly and Serenity, Cecile B. Demented, Leon: The Professional, Howl's Moving Castle, Bio-Dome, Planet Terror, David Lynch and Stanley Kubrick flicks. Holy crap, man, did you see Rubber?! I don't watch a lot of t.v. but when I do it's usually either British or HBO. My all-time favorite heroine is the animated uber-anarchist AEon Flux but Tank Girl bucks for a really close second. Also I kind of slay at Jeopardy!.

Music--Little bit of everything. Ska is the music of my soul, but classic rock, 90's alternative, some pop, a little underground hiphop, opera every now and again, neoswing, steampunk, dubstep. Sometimes a live symphony will make me cry. Then again, so does "Don't Speak" by No Doubt occasionally. So make of that what you will.

As for food, I prefer salty/savory to sweet, but like that too. Living in San Diego has given me a profound appreciation of Cotixan food. I will put the hurt on a California burrito from Lolita's. In the interest of full-disclosure, I'm a pretty picky eater, but I try not to let it become anyone else's problem.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My phone--I'm always afraid I'll miss a crisis or a fun activity when I'm out of touch. FOMO is real.

My iPod--she shall have music wherever she goes. She being me, in this case. EDIT: My iPod met with, like, an accident and I seem to be doing fine. I burned a couple of CDs, life goes on.

A new medium to expand into. I want to learn all the arts. All of them.

A book. Good for many things, not all of them reading.

My sense of humor--it gets me through anything.

My friends. They're the family you get to choose for yourself.

A tank full of air? I find I enjoy diving the most when I can breathe. EDIT: Except now I'm getting into freediving, and it's badass.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature of reality. I know that sounds pretentious, but hear me out. Essentially everything you think and experience is only ever thought or experienced by you--as far as you know. And those things only have the meaning you give them, there is no empirical, objective truth. So basically you have complete control over (and responsibility for) your own reality. Scary. And liberating.

Band names. I'm not in a band, but I have a list several pages long (edit: I'm no longer in a ska band but the breakup did furnish us with that long-awaited name. We are now officially no longer We Were Almost a Ska Band)--usually it's just combinations of words that make me giggle, and if it's too long for a band name, it becomes an album title. Here are some greats: Intercontinental Airport Bears, Handsome Kruger, Elaborate Codpiece, Occasionally A Cuspidor, The Most Haunted of Honky-Tonks. New additions: Lusty Octopus; Vexy the Cock-Blocking Bison; and Daily Taco Violence.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Night diving the Shores. Or just getting off work. Hanging out with hilarious friends and _________________. The friends are the typical part, the activities vary. A lot of times it's watching movies or good shows, often it's creating things, and having great conversations, sometimes it's surfing, rock-climbing or slacklining (though I'm a rank novice at those last three). Every now and again I can be found kayaking by moonlight, watching a burlesque or moshing at a ska show. Once I spent a Friday catching beads from a mardi gras float!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have incredibly vivid and involved dreams. Mostly nightmares. About zombies. Sometimes I talk about them while they're happening.
You should message me if
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You own or operate a large pig farm... But really, you have a rapier wit and like to duel with it. Please be smart and silly, and NOT a creeper. I especially like people who spell out words completely and engage me in interesting conversation before propositioning me. Bonus points for being passionate about something. Or having nice hands. That's cool too.