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LittleMatchGrl

24 F Chicago, IL

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 27–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Heyo. I'm a native Chicagoan (sort of...) - I grew up in the suburbs (but am a city girl at heart) and graduated from a nearby university with lots of purple pride... don't want to divulge too much to the creepsters out there, but it was a really good school that I loved and worked for my first year out of college before deciding to pursue dance full-time. I couldn't be happier to be living in Chicago - best city ever. I love this city and am incredibly active in the Chicago arts scene, particularly in dance, but other stuff, too.

***Just a heads up: I lead an incredibly active and busy lifestyle. But luckily, I'm a master scheduler and am way better at managing it than most people. The people in my life are the most important thing to me, and I make time for the people who matter. If I'm looking to schedule a first date or if I've just started seeing someone, it may take a couple weeks to get him on the calendar, depending on my schedule for the week (especially if we're not comfortable hanging out with each other's friends yet). However, once I've been seeing someone for around a month or so, if things are going really great and I really like him, I find a way to make time to see him at least a couple times a week. There's a great quote that goes: "The busiest people in life are the best at making time for other people." I wholeheartedly believe that.

Caution: my profile is supa long, but you get MAJOR props if you actually read the whole thing. (And also Kudos if you know what my username actually refers to.) And for those of you who are like, "Why'd you write so much? Now I'll have nothing new to discover about you and we'll run out of things to talk about" - FALSE. This profile takes a matter of minutes to read. Not hours. Not days. Not weeks. Not years. If you run out of things to talk about or learn about someone in a matter of minutes, how the hell do you think you're going to be able to spend your whole life (or at least some significant amount of time) with someone? This profile is just the tip of the iceberg, people. Trust me, I've never run out of things to talk about with someone, on a first date or a millionth date. In fact, I think the more you say upfront, the more room you have to build on what's already been said. Analogy: it's like if someone asked you to discuss a book or a song before you'd even had a chance to read any of it or listen to any of it - how would you even know what you think of it or be able to even begin a discussion on it? You've gotta have something to go off of at the beginning, and the more you have, the further you have to go/grow.

But hopefully my profile won't scare you away - I know, it's a doozy! But in fairness, you would understand the excess of time to think and write if you had been to prison, too. ...Totally kidding. I've been watching too much Orange is the New Black lately. The real reason I had so much thinking and writing time was because I was bed-ridden for a month with little more than a laptop to keep me company due to surgery (it was quite a while ago now, but I've hung onto this profile text for quite a while, too). Short and sweet is what I literally am in person, but certainly not in writing. If you have a problem with that, mehhh I don't really care. I also view it as a time-saver; most people feel like they really know me by the time they're done reading this, and if you see something that's a huge, non-negotiable turn-off for you... well then I just saved both of us a lot of time, now didn't I?

I'd say my profile's pretty comprehensive, but I guess I'll throw in the obligatory "if you have questions, just ask me anything!" (but no guarantee that I'll answer anything).
Remember, there are no stupid questions. ...Only stupid people. Just kidding :P

...Also, if it looks like I'm online, sometimes I'm not really, I just might have forgotten to log off, so if I don't respond right away, hold your horses and be a little patient! (But seriously, if you send me a message and then send a message a couple hours later saying, "not interested, huh?" it's annoying as hell and will lose you some major points - I have a million things going on outside of okcupid so I don't always respond instantly, and I'd hope that anyone I'd date would have a life outside this site, too). Someone told me your smartphone logs you off automatically or something, but I don't have one - I know, I'm kinda old-school like that. I realize you're probably wondering how I've made it this far in life without Instagram and Snapchat, but it actually is possible, believe it or not (albeit a bummer). I'm actually working on getting an iPhone sometime in the coming months, though. I really need the train tracker and Googlemaps when I'm constantly out and about meeting up with friends and going new places.
Also... I may or may not just purposely leave my account open on occasion for extended periods of time. Then you never know when I'm actually online. Doesn't it just drive you crazy? :p What can I say? Anytime in life there's a system, ya gotta figure out how to work it.
*Update: (as of 7/28/13) I got an iPhone this weekend! Oh how my world is changing. Trying not to be one of "those people" who are constantly messing with their phones. I'll still probably use my computer for this mostly, though, because I don't really like how okcupid looks on a phone screen.
*Update: (as of 2/9/14) My phone was stolen yesterday. Saddest. Day. Ever. I don't know what I'm going to do :-(
*Update: (as of 3/4/14) Got a new iPhone on eBay a couple weeks ago. All is right with the world again.

...Also, I don't do the rating thing so if you're waiting for me to give you a bunch of gold stars before you message me, don't hold your breath. Why does okcupid tell me my profile isn't complete until I've rated 10 people? I'd say I probably have the most complete profile on this whole site, thank you very much, whether I rate people or not. That's ridiculous. I don't think people can be labeled by a number of stars. Especially when you don't even fully know who they are. I don't like rating or ranking systems or percentages or numbers of any kind, really. If you rate me or visit my profile, I might not notice or really think anything of it, so if you're actually interested, get to it and send a message! That especially applies if you visited on a Sunday night. I've come to realize that Sunday night is the most popular time for okcupiding it seems.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Livin' on the Edge(water). Haha ohhh puns

Ok, I'll start with what I used to do for a living (during the year that I was recovering from hip surgery and couldn't dance much. I used to work in fundraising "major gifts" for an elite university. Basically what that means is that I was sort of like a professional rich people stalker, gathering useful information about potential "big money" donors so that when officers from our department would fly out to meet with them, they would know how to effectively woo them. All in all it was a pretty sweet job when you think about it, haha :) And it doesn't really count as stalking when it's for a good cause. Not sure that I'd say raising money for the unnecessary new buildings was a good cause, but I felt good about helping in the process of endowing scholarships and raising money for some of the world-changing research in the sciences at least.

Really, though, my passion is dance, and I've now left my fundraising job and am back to focusing on dance more extensively. About a year ago I was accepted into a small, emerging, modern dance company, but after our winter performances, I've been spending more time rehearsing with a well-respected tap dance company and also focusing more time on aerial training (mostly aerial silks). I also enjoy teaching dance, which I do a lot of - both in dance studios for kids and adults, and in after-school enrichment programs at elementary schools and middle schools for kids who wouldn't otherwise have tried it or had the exposure. I've worked administratively in the arts a lot, too. I volunteer with too many dance companies and arts organizations to count! (FYI, I don't expect anyone I date to know how to dance, learn to dance, know anything about dance, or be a dancer... though if you are, that would be pretty fucking awesome - and not just figuratively, I'm sure... Jk! I try not to date guys in my industry)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm changing the title of this section to "I'm sort of good at, or might be really good at, or used to be really good at, or could potentially be really good at someday..." haha

-- Dancing - Tap, Ballet, Pointe, Jazz, Modern, Contemporary, Musical Theatre ...I also took Flamenco at one point and that was really fun!
-- Music - I used to sing, play flute/piccolo, and piano... also, maybe this is a little nerdy, but I'm really good at music theory. I'm not really an active practitioner of any of these things much anymore, but I am still pretty good at jamming out to my iTunes, at least :)
-- Cirque/Aerial Arts - I'd like to get more experience, but I've taken some classes, mostly in silks, but so far I've also had a taste of flying trapeze, static trapeze, silk knot, sling, cloud swing/hammock, lyra, and Spanish web. I used to be a pretty advanced baton twirler, too, once upon a time. I still keep my baton in my closet! Who knows when it might come in handy...
-- Visual Arts - I've dabbled in painting, drawing, and calligraphy. I say "dabbled" since I don't have much time to spend on it, but at one point long, long ago I was pretty serious about it. I almost went to an arts high school for visual arts but it ended up being too pricey. I had a few of my pieces on the site, but okcupid made me take them down :/ Why the hell they will let people put up pictures of their dogs and nieces/nephews and practically naked bodies and cities they've visited - yet they won't let me put up a completely non-offensive self-portrait - is really beyond me... after all, it is technically my own face. And after all, if photography is an art form, why discriminate against other art forms like drawing and painting? Seems a little unfair. Whatever, okcupid. (If you're interested, I can send them so you can see.)
-- Teaching - I love kids! Most of the time...
-- Making other people feel good about themselves
-- Finding the perfect greeting cards and gifts for people - and in some cases making them!
-- Bananagrams - except when I play with my sister. She's just too fast!
-- Massages - Sometimes I wish I could give myself back massages, but that's not really possible. One of my dance professors from college is also a retired massage therapist, so every now and then we would have "massage days" where she would teach us some stuff.
-- Break-ups? - I realize that probably sounds super weird... Don't misconstrue that; I certainly don't like break-ups, but if things aren't right and they need to end, whether I end it or the guy does or it's mutual, I end it well. Some might guess I'd be the crazy type that gets hysterical and vicious, but I'm actually the opposite. It's not that I don't feel something (I certainly do), but I'm calm, don't get too worked up, and move on better than most. So just a little perk: if things don't work out and we break up, you don't have to worry about having a crazy stalker freak trying to hunt you down. It's hard to leave what's familiar, and even though change can be good, it's almost never easy. But I've also become better at realizing that while it's great to have some people in your life forever, some things are meant to be ephemeral, and that's ok (even if it's a little sad). Anyway, I know it's safe to say that no matter how things may have ended, any one of my ex's would tell you in all honesty that even if we weren't right for each other, they still consider me a good person who is incredibly sweet. I think that's what counts when it comes to break-ups.
-- First dates
-- 500th dates
-- Accidentally falling asleep on the El and almost missing my stop
-- Finding loopholes
-- Finding the best quality for the best price
-- Making people laugh without meaning to
-- Being sincere and showing appreciation - my friends often tell me that when I write them thank you notes, it makes them feel like writing a thank you note for the thank you note
-- Finding the positive in whatever situation life throws my way!
The first things people usually notice about me
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They usually first notice my impeccable sentence structure. Jk. In person, they usually say I look just like my pictures, and they notice that I'm very petite. I often live by the motto, "Life is short ...and so am I!" haha. Dr. Seuss's "A person's a person no matter how small" is pretty good, too. I occasionally buy shorts from GapKids or abercrombie kids. No shame.

I've also been told many a time that people notice my calves (as in leg muscles, not baby cows... sorry, I don't have baby cows...) and that I have a muscular back? Random. I feel like those aren't the typical body parts people tend to get complimented on, but for some reason I do.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite...

Books:
I'm currently reading Tina Fey's Bossypants, and it's hilarious! Tina Fey is a boss. Literally. haha. I'm usually more of an article reader, really, but below are some of my favorite books:
-- Alice in Wonderland
-- Le Petit Prince
-- The Creative Habit
-- The Five People You Meet In Heaven
-- The Precious Present
-- The Giver
-- (From my childhood) The "Mr." and "Little Miss" books - I'm by no means a neat freak today, but when I was little, "Mr. Tidy" was always my favorite. And we always called my sister "Little Miss Chatterbox".

Movies:

Generally I'm a fan of rom-com-dram's. I watch a lot of Netflix. Except it stopped working in Firefox when I updated my laptop to Snow Leopard, so I have to watch it in Chrome and lately Chrome keeps freezing up :( Sometimes I tell my Netflix to "rally" when it's being slow. haha. Anyway...

The genres Netflix always recommends to me based on my interests:

-- Quirky Romantic Independent Comedies
-- Critically-acclaimed Visually-striking Movies
-- Emotional Dramas for Hopeless Romantics (although I would say I feel very far from "hopeless")
-- Cerebral films

Also, side note: I don't really know much about film, so I don't know what it's called, it's probably a certain type of camera being used, but I can't stand when movies have that soap opera look to them, regardless of the content. I think it's part of the reason I haven't been able to get into Breaking Bad.

Thoughts on my favorite movies:

-- Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind:
I've decided this is my favorite movie of all time. The more I watch it, the better it gets. Except I keep wondering: If all your memories of the person would be erased, would you also lose memories of the times you were thinking about the person? Like, memories of memories? That could be a hell of a lot of memories in some cases. Wouldn't they need to stage it so that it seemed like you were in a car crash or had some sort of accident if that much of your memory were really going to be gone? SO many other thoughts I could say on this movie, but since this profile's long enough as it is, I'll spare you. We can discuss it another time... This movie has a great soundtrack, too. It's amazing how soundtracks have such a huge influence on how much I love a movie (it has to have a good story, too, though).

-- Silver Linings Playbook:
I actually haven't watched this one yet, but I feel like every person I meet tells me I would absolutely love it, so I'm pre-adding it to my list so that I don't forget to watch it at some point. I suppose I can always delete it if I decide I don't like it after all.

-- Her:
This movie was a lot denser and heavier than I thought it would be. I don't think I'd say it's one of my favorites, and I don't think I actually liked it, and I definitely 100% believe that there's no way a computer system could ever have the ability to feel human emotions, but I think it was good in the sense that it led me to think pretty deeply about a lot of different topics. I think the part that resonated most with me was when he says, "Sometimes I think I have felt everything I'm ever gonna feel. And from here on out, I'm not gonna feel anything new. Just lesser versions of what I've already felt." I've had that fear a lot before; I just don't think I ever knew the words to say it. I try really hard not to believe that fear, though. On a lighter note, also a great quote: "Falling in love is a crazy thing to do. It's like a socially acceptable form of insanity."

-- Ruby Sparks:
Wouldn't it be amazing if we could all just write about our dream love, only to find out that that person actually exists? Maybe I'm someone's dream girl they've written and dreamed about but we just haven't met each other yet. I'd hope he wouldn't change me, though. That I could still be my own person and just have everything happen as it should, without any rewrites or add-ons. And I'd hope he'd be a good person who was really right for me. And wouldn't it be amazing if people actually still used typewriters? Someday I hope I get a letter or a story or a poem or something written with a typewriter - just one page completely pristine with no errors or backspaces. It would be a pretty amazing thing, since you can't erase with a typewriter.

-- Inception:
This movie kind of made me afraid to fall asleep. But it also made me want to become an architect.

-- Amelie:
I love how vivid the colors are in this movie (like the Renoir paintings they talk about! Except everything looks crisper). I also really like the soundtrack. Amelie's kind of charming, but I also feel like she acts like kind of a creep - I don't really get why she obsesses over some guy she's never even met and knows nothing about. It's still a cool movie, though, and I do think I'm kind of similar to her a teeny bit - I loved messing with people when I was little. My grandparents always say that when I was a tiny kid I always had this smirk that looked like I was up to something. April Fools Day was one of my favorite holidays, and I always got away with stuff because I seemed so sweet and innocent and gullible that nobody ever suspected me. I think that's also why, on rare occasions, when I try to be sarcastic (which doesn't happen a whole lot), people don't understand that I'm being sarcastic, which causes some minor, temporary awkwardness...

-- TiMER:
This was such a cool concept for a movie. Too bad it didn't have a great ending. Definitely provoked some good thoughts at least, though. I really like the Iron & Wine song in this soundtrack (cover of Postal Service's "Such Great Heights")

-- The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo:
Hey, what that girl does is pretty much what I used to do for a living! Except I only did my stalking online and it was all legal from public sources. And I probably looked a lot less badass doing my job than she does... I have a really, really hard time watching violence and watching people physically and emotionally distraught, so this one was kind of tough to get through.

-- 13 Going on 30:
This movie is just too cute. And so is Mark Ruffalo.

-- Moonrise Kingdom:
This movie was really cute. I think it's funny, though, that everyone describes Wes Anderson as "offbeat", yet judging by how many guys on this site claim to be totally in love with his movies, seems like he's becoming pretty mainstream. Yeah, you thought you were so hipster for liking him, but face it, you're not. On that note, I think I should say that I have a little bit of disdain for people who decide to dislike certain things (or don't allow themselves to fully like certain things) because those things are a popular choice. Like what you like; don't worry about whether it is or isn't popular. I happen to like some things that nobody's heard of, but I also happen to like some things that other people happen to like, too, because guess what? Sometimes lots of people like something because it's good, and there's nothing wrong with that. ...Ok, tangent over. Anyway, back to Moonrise Kingdom - if you're sad that it's not on Netflix, try the movie "Standing Up" which is also really cute and almost the same exact thing.

-- A Little Princess:
This is possibly the girliest movie of all time, so I realize I probably won't have this in common with any guys reading this profile, but I don't care. It will always be one of my favorites. My sister and I still watch it together and my dad knows like every line because we made him watch it with us so many times when we were little. I always liked the "Kindle my heart" song that was in it, too.

-- Black Swan:
Not all dancers are this crazy, I swear.

-- Shutter Island:
Why is the island named Shutter? Is it supposed to be like shutters on a house, or isn't there some term called a shutter that applies to cameras? I think maybe "Shudder" Island would be more appropriate. Again, I love this soundtrack.

-- Wedding Crashers:
This movie will never get old for me. I could watch it with the sound on mute and still say every line!

-- Mean Girls:
[Insert same comment as Wedding Crashers.] Also: that moment when you see the bus whiz by and you hear Lindsay Lohan say, "And that's how Regina George died. ...Totally kidding" - I ALWAYS WANTED SOMEONE TO DO THAT IN A MOVIE (you know, fake you out by saying something happened and then taking it back?). Reasons Tina Fey is a boss...

-- Bridesmaids:
It takes a lot for me to "lol" for real, but I was actually laughing out loud so many times when I watched this movie. I love Kristen Wiig almost as much as I love Tina Fey!

-- The Notebook:
Modern-day version would be called “The Blog”, I think. But on a more serious note, this movie makes me cry every time. The part that gets me every time is when they're old and she remembers him and they're dancing with the candles around them and then all of a sudden she doesn't remember him anymore - he starts crying and it's so incredibly unbearable to watch him cry. That part gets me every time. I hope that someday the person I love will die with me. Ever since I was little, I've always been afraid that the guy I fall in love with will die before me, leaving me to suffer a broken heart and die a slow, painful breaking heart death. Someone once told me that that's why I would be a swan if I were an animal - supposedly swans are one of the few truly monogamous animals, and when one dies, its love-swan dies shortly afterward.

-- The Curious Case of Benjamin Button:
What if Benjamin Button is how things are really supposed to be and the rest of us are just somehow messed up and aging in reverse of what it should be?

-- Accepted:
Makes me think about how the kids who go to the “college” in that movie probably would have spelled this “Excepted”. ...Which would maybe make sense and be a clever/fitting description of them, although I find it doubtful that they would understand why.

-- Garden State:
Ok movie, but why did Zach Braff call it this? And yes, all you guys who think you're so smart, I realize that it takes place in NJ, which is the Garden State. But throughout the entire movie they never talk about any significance of being in the Garden State. Why give it such a random title that has nothing to do with the plot? This has nothing to do with the story, but I really like the moment when he walks past all the sinks and they turn on one by one. It just looks really cool.
*Update: Ok, I get it. It's the "Garden State" because it refers to his state of mind when he's with her. Ok, sure. Nevermind then.

-- The Hangover:
I feel like “The Blackout” would be a more appropriate title.

-- 40 Days and 40 Nights:
It’s really not that hard. Try getting hip surgery and you learn to deal with it pretty darn fast.

-- Up in the Air:
Movies like this are not necessarily my favorite since they’re so sad, but this is still a good one. What makes something "Good" doesn't necessarily make it a "Favorite" I guess. And then again I have some favorites on my list that you probably shouldn't call "good" movies, haha

-- (500) Days of Summer:
[Insert same explanation as Up in the Air.] I love this movie. And the ending (although the tiniest bit cheesy) is just so perfect. But is it just me, or does anyone else find Zoey Deschannel’s character annoying as hell? How could anyone be attracted to someone so completely selfish and blasé about everything in life? She comes across as so pretentious. I still love that movie, though. Good soundtrack, too.

-- Frozen: I was way behind on watching this and finally just saw it this April (all the little girls I teach kept pestering me to watch it, and even most adults I know have seen it). Usually I'm not a huge Disney fan (I mean, Disney's ok, but I'm not crazy about it like some people are), but I thought this one was great! Since I'm so close with my sister, I definitely found the characters relatable, and I thought Olaf was cute. Overall, it was a really well-written show with a good story and message. Also, the music was really well-written, as far as kids music goes - it's totally going to be made into a musical.

TV Shows:
-- Arrested Development - I don't think anything will ever compare
-- Girls - it's so bad, but I can't help watching and getting into it anyway
-- Orange is the New Black
-- Modern Family - I love shows that are funny and don't have a built-in laugh track, and in so many ways my family is like the Dunpheys. Growing up, I was totally Hayley, and my little sister was Alex to a T. My little brother wasn't as dumb as Luke, but the general dynamic of how they all interact totally fits
-- House Hunters (and My First Home) and My First Home
-- Mad Men
-- The Office - finally finished it after starting it back in 2005. Still hopeful that I'll meet my Jim Halpert someday :-)
-- 30 Rock
-- Parks & Rec
-- Gilmore Girls
-- Entourage
-- Greek
-- Sex and the City
-- Portlandia - this show is so fucking weird, but I think that's kind of why I find it so fucking hilarious! I didn't think I'd like it since I always thought Fred was a little annoying back when I used to watch Saturday Night Live (almost wrote "Lice" - whoops! That would have been a totally different show, haha). One of my best friends told me I should watch it, and even just looking at the cover picture, I was like, "goddamn hipsters... This is going to be exactly the kind of thing that I get annoyed with so quickly." But now I'm kind of super into it, haha

Music:

It still blows my mind how spot-on Pandora can be at guessing what I'll like. P.S. For those of you looking at this on an iphone/smartphone/iPad/tablet, you're missin' out on the links to the songs!

In no particular order:
-- Beirut
-- Kimya Dawson
-- The Western States Motel
-- the music in this little video
(yes, the video itself illustrates a beautiful concept, but I also just really love that music-box-in-a-minor-key type of sound, too)
-- Lorde
-- Zach Sobiech
-- Olafur Arnalds
or if you want to see some cool dancing to his stuff:
this
-- Explosions in the Sky
-- Max Richter
-- Flo Kat
-- Brian Sharpe
-- Mumford & Sons
-- John Mayer
-- Of Monsters and Men
-- Neon Trees
-- Death Cab
-- James Blackshaw
-- Penguin Cafe Orchestra (I don't like the intro, though, so I usually start 20 seconds in...)
-- Jingle Punks Hipster Orchestra (these guys, along with Vitamin String Quartet, are awesome for when I'm teaching and normal ballet class music is getting stale)
-- Jon Brion
-- Philip Glass
-- Eric Hutchinson
-- Rodrigo Y Gabriela
-- Imagine Dragons
-- Coldplay
-- The Fray
-- Red Hot Chili Peppers
-- Jack Johnson
-- Macklemore
-- Kid Cudi
-- Kanye
-- Jack's Mannequin
-- Boys Like Girls
-- Coeur de Pirate
-- Paramore
-- Sigur Ros
-- Pearl Django
-- The Script
-- Noah and the Whale
-- Jon Hopkins
-- Dave Brubeck
-- Vitamin String Quartet
-- Ingrid Michaelson
-- Regina Spektor
-- The Shins
-- Peter Bjorn and John
-- Florence and the Machine
-- Plain White T's
-- The Weepies
-- Jaymay
-- Maroon 5
-- Iron & Wine
-- Postal Service
-- Brian Crain
-- Isaac Shepard
-- The Theatre Fire
-- Matt & Kim
-- The Killers
-- Panic at the Disco
-- Ok Go
-- New Found Glory
-- MGMT
-- Jason Mraz
-- Michael Buble
-- Frank Sinatra
-- Fun
-- Jon Schmidt
-- Sufjan Stevens
-- Philip Wesley
-- Scott Joplin
-- Alan Menken
-- Instrumental stuff that really moves
-- flamenco guitar
-- Movie Soundtracks
-- Relient K
-- 90s music - so terrible, yet so good when you're in the right mood for it! haha
-- A lot of random stuff I like to choreograph to

Food:
Unlike pretty much everyone else on this site, I'll just throw it out there that I don't like sushi. So please for the love of God (if he exists), do not invite me on a sushi date. It's not because it's cliché or because I'm trying to be "different"; it's just that I genuinely don't like sushi. Hope that's not a turn-off. If you like sushi, I certainly won't hold it against you. It makes no difference to me. Aside from that and Indian food, I'm ok with pretty much any kind of food.

I like a lot of different stuff, but when it comes to tried-and-true comfort food, there's only one answer for me... ok, maybe two... deep dish pizza or Italian! My favorite food is ravioli, and whenever I go out to eat with my family I never even have to look at the menu because they all know what I will order! You would never guess it based on my looks, but my family is very Italian yet somehow I manage to be ghostly pale the majority of the year. My family is Marchesian, which is from an area of Italy that's north of Rome, so I guess that's why I don't look so Mediterranean. I'm also just a little bit of a European mut. Good thing for me that the vampire look has been in for a while! I can get pretty tan in the summer, though, if I have time to spend outside, but I wear sunscreen always. No cancer! When my sister was a little kid she used to think that since her sign was Cancer she was destined to get cancer. What a naive little cutie! We thought a lot of really weird random funny things when we were little (or "young", I guess I should say, since technically I still am pretty little). Guess I got a little off the topic of food... anyway.

Other favorite foods:
-- sweet potato fries (or anything sweet potato)
-- Hawaiian bread (it's like eating a cloud)
-- crepes
-- Nutella
-- strawberries
-- raspberries
-- blackberries
-- peanut butter
-- French toast
-- brunch food (of any kind)
-- bagels
-- bagel bites
-- taquitos
-- Burgers from Burger Bar or Au Cheval. Or Dollar burgers from Bar Louie on Tuesday nights. Or the Bison burger with blueberry BBQ sauce from DMK.
-- the pumpkin bread from Corner Bakery (ok, technically it's "pumpkin pound cake", but I don't feel as bad eating it if I call it "bread")
-- asparagus
-- cucumbers
-- pear & Gorgonzola pizza (from CPK)
-- Lobster Bisque soup from SoupBox on Chicago Ave.
-- hot pockets
-- dessert, especially anything chocolate
-- grilled cheese
-- Cheezits
-- fondu
-- mac & cheese
-- basically anything with cheese... ha!
-- Naked juice
-- Coco 5 Limon (but no other kinds of coconut water... O.N.E.'s Splash of Pineapple coconut water is kind of ok, though)
-- Vitamin Water (but only the "Focus" one - strawberry kiwi)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dance
Art
Music
Friends & Family
Chocolate
Summer - I'm a total sunshine & warm weather person. Although, I will admit that on occasion I do really appreciate an overcast day where everything looks really crisp and clear and in focus.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Way too many things to list here... but here's a few of the many (I must admit, I sometimes use this profile as my own personal thought storage bank)

Stardust. There's a question on this site that asks about where you think people came from. I picked the answer that said "we descended from the stars", and in the explanation section, I wrote that I don't actually believe it, but I would like to believe it and I sometimes let myself believe it since I like the way it sounds. Then someone sent me a message saying that I absolutely could believe it - from both a romantic standpoint, as well as a scientific standpoint; stars explode and create all of the matter that is in our universe, and since we are all made up of that matter that originated from a star, you can honestly and completely say that we descended from the stars. I love that. There's a movement in aerial silks called "Star Descent" where you straddle up, hook one leg over, lay on your back, wrap the silk around your back, and then slowly slide down to the floor like you're looking up at the stars. Every time I do my Star Descent, I like to close my eyes and think about how we descended from the stars. It's one of those moments where I feel really alive.

How ironic it is that I read so slowly but write so quickly.

Why are "best-sellers" considered prestigious? I mean, people can't judge a book as being good BEFORE they read it, right? They buy it and THEN read it, and even after they've read it, that doesn't necessarily mean they thought it was good. And is the value, relevance, or significance of one's work (whether it be writing or otherwise) really determined by the number of people who view it? I think the answer to that is a solid "no".

Upworthy videos. So many good ones. I don't care if it seems cliché to like them because so many other people are obsessed with them, too. Some of those Upworthy posters are great. There are occasionally some that aren't quite up to par, though, especially more recently

Why is it that we have to take a pill to NOT get pregnant? Isn't that kind of messed up? Shouldn't it be the other way around? If there's a God in the way that most people believe, you would think he'd have figured that one out after all these years...

Are chicken eggs really just chicken periods?

Glittens. Fingerless gloves that have the little half mittens over the top. Makes total sense. Perfectly logical name. Yet every time I read the word "glittens", my mind automatically goes to glittery mittens.

Cuffins (the second cousin of glittens). Sleeves that have little thumbholes in the cuffs so that your sleeves don't ride up. And then when it gets cold, there's a layer of fabric on the sleeve that folds over to turn into mittens to keep your hands warm. ... Also, this is random, but why is it that when I hear the word "cuffins", the first thing I think of is penguins? There's just no logical thought process for that one.

What do you call it when that really light dusty snow swirls in the wind? I think "snow drift" seems fitting, but I know that's not right since that's clearly something else. Well whatever you call them, they sure do look so magical. But they sure do hurt, too. So beautiful it hurts. Especially when it's really windy and little snow crystals are flying at your eyes. I think I'll call them "snow swirls".

Why do we always have a need to name, categorize, or label things? One thing I hated about college was how prominent this was. The name if your major, the building you live in, etc. was all what defined you. We're so much more than words. Nothing in life is really 100% black and white.

I usually have multiple thoughts at any given point in time, especially when you include sensory observation thoughts, but deeper thoughts, too. A dance group I was in once composed a piece about mind chatter, which was fun to think about and embody. In our workshops for it, we had to continuously talk while dancing, which is actually pretty hard, although you'd think it wouldn't be since talking is just putting a voice to your thoughts and we think while we dance all the time. But then we brought up the fact that a lot of times, especially for artists, our thoughts don't take the form of words. And then sometimes you're not always conscious of a thought you had until after the fact. We also tried to count our thoughts in a given time frame, but in a way, thoughts are kind of like dreams - where does one thought start and end? With something so intangible, it's hard to tell - they start to blur together and become muffled and overlapped and aren't always clear.

Where's Waldo. I'm pretty sure Waldo may quite possibly have been the first ever "hipster". Think about it - skinny guy with that hat with those glasses... And that was before it was even cool, so he really must have been a true hipster. So different with his own unique look, yet still so hard to spot in a crowd. What a guy. Waldo, everyone. *slow clap*
Sometimes I also think, "What if you had to find Waldo in an actual crowd of people in real life, instead of a semi-bird's-eye view on a page of a book?" I bet a lot less kids would play then.

Headphones. We've invented an invisible helmet but still no one has come up with a way to keep headphones from getting tangled? Really?? Every single time I want to listen to music it's like I have to endure an advanced game of Cat's Cradle first.

Whether or not a person's name affects his/her personality or how people view them. So far in this lifetime, I've had two bosses/supervisors named Jennifer, two named Nicole, two named Debra/Deborah, and two named Liz. Makes you wonder. I also wonder if people who are more successful career-wise are less successful in other areas of their lives, and whether or not a person's name plays any role in that - especially for women.

Why do people always talk about building something "from the ground up" when they're starting from scratch? I want to hear of someone building something from the sky down for once. Or maybe even from the east wall to the west wall.
"If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them."
- Henry David Thoreau

Inspirational speakers, philosophers, people you quote - they never really say anything that truly groundbreaking. It's all stuff that many other people are guaranteed to have thought before; they just hadn't consciously realized it or brought the thought to the forefront of their minds or found a way to put it in words until someone else mentioned it.

Existers. Recently I was walking with my sister and a friend of hers, and we overheard these girls having the most stupid conversation. My sister's friend goes, "Sometimes I hear people talk, and I just think... 'I'm so glad I'm not them.' " We all laughed about it because it sounded really funny at the time, but it got me thinking - some people on this earth really just exist. They're not living, they're just existing. They just consume and exist and don't really contribute anything to their greater society or even individuals. I call them "existers". There are so many of them. At least some of them raise kids, so that's somewhat productive to the world. But then I was thinking about that, and if they're just raising their kids to be the next generation of existers, than that's actually worse, not better, and just furthers the problem. I was babysitting recently and the "real people" (a.k.a. not cartoon) Madeline movie was on - at one point the little girls in the movie are talking and accuse one of the girls of being too over-the-top about everything, and Madeline says, "It's better to be super everything than super nothing." Well said, Madeline. Existers are just super nothing. No substance.

The Golden Rule. I don't think we should teach kids to live by the Golden Rule. I think we should teach them to live by the Platinum Rule: "treat others better than you would like to be treated." I think kids (and adults) should be taught that they have self-worth, but they should strive to give more than they take and to always do the best they can for others even if it means getting nothing in return.

Time. Such an interesting concept. Time can feel so different based on... well, timing. A minute when you're talking goes by so quickly, but a minute of silence in an awkward situation can drag on forever. Time flies when you're having fun (and sometimes when you're not!). Does a measure of time really stay the same consistently? Is one hour now really the same as one hour tomorrow or one hour ten years from now? One full day, when you're a little kid, feels like forever. Whereas, one day now goes by much quicker; and the older you get, the faster time seems to fly. I have this theory: your perception of time is mostly based on what fraction of your life you're looking at. When you're a little kid, one day is a huge fraction of your life thus far, so it would make sense that it feels slow since you perceive it as a huge chunk of time; when you're 80, one day is such a small fraction of your life that the day just flies by, and time feels like it's passing faster and faster. I also think a lot about how "time is money" isn't really even an accurate phrase - time is way more valuable than money. You can always gain more money one way or another, but time, once spent, is never really regained. *Update: I recently saw a dance piece that incorporated spoken word text about time from an excerpt of "In the Tube" by E.F. Benson. Interesting stuff (the dance and the content of the text). Check it out sometime.

Backless dresses. I think they're so pretty and love how my back looks in them, but so few of them are made with proper boob support. Such a dilemma...

Why is "Filipino"spelled with an "F" if "Phillipines" is spelled with a "Ph"? (And why do they have a different number of L's in them?)

Every time I'm on the El I always used to find myself wondering who comes up with those GrubHub ads! They were so simple yet so clever, but I don't think the new ones are as good. I also love the Marbles (the brain store) ads. So far I've counted 86 triangles in the big snowflake, 35 in the medium one, and 25 in the little one. I guess the little one doesn't really count as a snowflake, though, since it only has 5 sides... haha

If people get offended when other people say “gay” or “retarded” instead of “stupid”, then why don’t those same people get offended by “lame” or “dumb”? Technically “lame” refers to people who can’t walk, and “dumb” refers to people who can’t talk, so shouldn’t all of those terms be equally offensive?

Why do people park on driveways and drive on parkways? Isn't that a little backwards?

It bugs me when people use the colloquial phrase "if you will". It never seems to make any sense. I always just want to interrupt them and say, "No, I won't, thanks." I also hate the empty phrases, "and what not" and "so to speak".

Not a fan of "I'm an open book" either - WAY too overused on this site. Find a new analogy, people. And are you really an open book? If you find irony in the fact that of all people in this world, I'm the one saying that after writing this huge profile, then so be it. But really, I only offer up information and thoughts I'm comfortable sharing - I won't just answer absolutely anything a random stranger wants to know about me. Does anyone else find it pretty strange that so many people on this site claim that they will answer absolutely anything they are asked? I think I'd rather be with someone who doesn't just answer every question someone asks of him. It's better to earn the right to be told certain things, or to figure out certain things through time and observation and really getting to know someone as a person, not just getting to know him by how he answers questions about himself.

A lot of people tell me, "I can't figure you out." What is there to "figure out"? What does that even mean? And why the constant need to overanalyze people?

Love. It's amazing how we use that word for so many different things and it can mean so many different things in different contexts - how you love your mom, your boyfriend, your best friend, your puppy, your favorite cheese ... all so different!

Theories on love and "The One":

1. I believe in "The One", but not in the traditional way. I think that there are plenty of people out there who could be "The One", but when you first meet the person who will become "The One" for you, they're not actually "The One" yet; I think that it's your shared experiences over time that build a sense of connection that lead that person to become "The One" in a way that no one else can be, because you don't have with anyone else what you have with that person.

2. Playing Devil's Advocate, if "The One" really is a real thing, and if Heaven as people think of it is actually is real: If Heaven is perfect and everything you want, then wouldn't "The One" be there? But wouldn't "The One" only be there if they too had died already? And if "The One" for you dies before you, wouldn't you supposedly be in Heaven for them if Heaven is perfect? That's confusing, considering we don't all die at the same time as our "soul mate", right? And what if "The One" dies before you ever even have a chance to meet them? Then that would mean that you might go through your entire life never meeting "The One". If that could be the case, then people really shouldn't feel rushed to find "The One" - no point in searching and being sad your whole life. Not quite sure if I believe in Heaven or not, but if it did exist, then I guess it would be a little comforting to think that you'd meet "The One" someday no matter what...

Why is "God" considered a masculine being, and why is his pronoun always capitalized in Western culture ("He")? I think that "god" is just a shortened version of the word "goodness" and that god is really more of a positive energy throughout the universe than a persona. In that sense, I also kind of think of god as love. I guess you could say I believe in god if you refer to it as more of that abstract description of feeling/spirit/energy/love/hope than the traditional "God" in most religions. I think maybe somewhere along the way throughout history, someone must have realized it would be easier to convey the concept of god as a person and refer to god as "Him" in order to help other people understand the concept better, since it's easier to think of things in terms of people and allegories, rather than a totally abstract concept.

I think god is that moment right before a perfect kiss; god is the look on someone's face when they just opened a gift that means the world to them; god is when there's only one left of your favorite treat but you can tell the person behind you really wanted it or needed it more, so you let them have it instead (or when someone else does the same for you); god is that sigh of relief when you make it into the train at the last possible second; god is getting an actual letter in the mail from someone you love - not just bills and junk; god is getting an unexpected hug from one of your students; god is your favorite song (or the perfect song for your mood in that moment) coming onto the radio; god is hearing the music, not the lyrics; god is the moment you open the letter saying you got into your dream school after a lifetime of hard work; god is when a stranger hands you your wallet, saying, "you dropped this"; god is when the walk signal comes on right as you step up to the crosswalk; god is when you're on the swing at the park and your stomach leaps out of you as you lay back and look at the world upside down; god is when you see a kid do something totally hilarious when no one else is looking; god is in immersing yourself in a memory and feeling it the same way it did when it first happened; god is the moment right before you drop to the ground in aerial class; god is that moment at the end of a perfect pirouette when you're just floating and time stands still; god is that chord in the music that makes your heart melt; god is when your boss or teacher let's you off the hook because in an an unspoken moment of truth they can really see that it just is not your day; his is watching a snow swirl; god is that moment you realize you know, not just think, that everything significant (and sometimes seemingly insignificant) happens for a reason, even if you don't yet know what the reason is, or even if it ends up being a different reason than what you originally thought; god is when the giant wave at the beach crashes down over your head, knocking you off your feet; god is the first time you hold hands with someone; god is singing the climax of the song as loud as you possibly can when no one else is around; god is walking into the wind as it blows through your hair; god is when the sky suddenly breaks and the rain finally pours down over your face; god is seeing a rainbow and remembering they're actually real, not just some fictional thing from The Wizard of Oz. God is living. God is the little miracles, not just the big ones. God is love and hope. Because without love and hope, none of us would even be here. This is what I believe, and what I find myself thinking about these things a lot, whether times are good or bad.

The end of the world. (This one is under the assumption that Heaven might actually exist, which is still TBD in my mind.) When you get to heaven, maybe it's like a big party (or, incredibly sadly - in the case of my recently deceased actor friend Bernie - a big show), and everyone who died before you is there and is in the cast, and it feels so great to see them, but you think "oh gosh, but I wish so-and-so could be here to share in the fun and laughs, too, but he's/she's still on earth." And then when he/she dies, you see him/her in Heaven, but he/she has that thought about another friend who's still on earth, and it's sort of a chain reaction, because everyone's friends with someone younger than himself/herself or who hasn't died yet. So there will always be someone at the Heaven party show who is missing someone who's still on Earth. It's like it'll never be complete because of this never-ending cycle. But then someday if the world comes to an end, then all the good people really will be at the Heaven party show and no one has to miss anyone they love or be separated from anyone they love anymore. I don't want the world to end, but if I ever have a fear that it might end soon, at least this whole Heaven party show concept would be a comforting thought. And at least it's comforting to know that no matter how when I die, even if it's as soon as tomorrow, if there really is a Heaven, then there is at least one person up there that I will really be looking forward to seeing and won't feel totally alone in a sea of brand new angel faces.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On a date? haha, only sometimes... On a typical Friday night I'm going to a performance (usually a dance performance, and usually getting free tickets from volunteering). Then going out dancin with my girlfransss!! Actually that's a lie, though-- I really only "go out" like full on party mode maybe once every couple months at most, and usually only on Saturdays. I'm more into low-key chill places where you can actually hear the person you're having a conversation with lately. Plus I often take ballet class on Saturday mornings (or occasionally sub classes for other teachers) and don't like being hungover for it, so Friday nights are usually more chill. I'm also a big fan of stay-in-and-watch-movies-on-the-couch nights now and then, too :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Bonus: I'll admit a few things. What can I say, I was born an over-achiever.

-- Despite your suspicions, I am absolutely not a hoax; this profile is 100% me. If we get to the point of actually dating, you'll realize that's true.

-- I'm also not a serial dater. I will admit that if I feel that I don't connect with someone, I'm not going to keep dating that person (and therefore I go on quite a few first dates with people that don't ultimately amount to second dates), but I'm not here just to get free drinks. And I'm not dating just to have something to do. I am far from bored in my life, and the last thing I would ever do is fill my sparse free time with meaningless dates that I think will go nowhere. Ultimately, I want to eventually find someone I'm going to connect with for a long time, and I have no ulterior motives or hidden agenda. There have been several guys I met on this site and dated for several months each before realizing we weren't right for each other, and several others from this site that I've stayed friends with (even if we only went on one date and didn't want to keep dating). I take things as they come and try not to force anything, but I don't intend to waste my time or yours.

-- Also, I can be pretty indecisive about most things in life, like especially ice cream flavors, but when it comes to dating, there's usually a very short window of time when I'm on the fence about someone and extremely hesitant while giving things a chance, and then after that window of time is up, I'm either all in or all out and feel very sure about my choice. It throws guys off sometimes, so just thought I'd put that in here as a heads-up.

-- Every time someone texts me saying they're on LSD, I think they're telling me that they're on drugs, and I'm like, that can't be right... And then I remember that LSD = Lake Shore Drive. And if they mistype (or if I get some temporary dyslexia) and say that they're on LDS, I just picture them lying on top of a Mormon (Latter Day Saint) and it's even funnier.

-- Whenever I have a lot of emotional energy (sad, angry, happy, anxious, etc), I go yo the park and go on the swings and listen to music. And if absolutely no one is around, I sing. And if I'm drunk, I sometimes attempt aerial tricks on the swing, which sometimes ends well, and sometimes not...

-- I have a little birthmark shaped like a turtle, and my aunt has the exact same one in the exact same spot. How weird is that??

-- This is really random and weird, but you know how I mentioned previously (if you've actually been reading this whole thing) that my sister and I assumed really crazy things when we were funny little kids? Well for some strange reason when I was super young, I thought that water towers were where all the lost socks went to die. I know, weird. I think somehow, in my random little mind, I always wondered what was in water towers because I had only seen them and I didn't know what they were called or what they were for, and I also didn't know where all my lost, unmatched socks went, so for some bizarre reason I just decided that aliens had stolen them and they must be in the water towers, lol

-- Also when I was a little kid, I thought "condom" was an abbreviation for "condominium". Nope. Boy was I wrong on that one!

-- Also when I was little, I watched the movie The Truman Show and was convinced that my life was being secretly videotaped

-- Also when I was little, my mom was getting her MBA, and I definitely thought for a long time that she was saying "NBA". As you can imagine, this caused a lot of confusion.

-- Also when I was a really little kid, anytime I passed a street performer in the city, I'd speed up my pace because I thought you'd get in trouble for hearing them play and not paying anything. When I was slightly older and realized it wasn't illegal to listen without paying, I still sped up, though, because I felt bad not being able to pay them anything. Now whenever I get a free pastry with my "MyPanera" card, a lot of times I'll give them that. (And trust me, it's a real sacrifice because I have a huge sweet tooth.)

-- Also when I was little, I used to say "I love you" CONSTANTLY to my parents. The reason was because I was very insistent that I wanted the last thing I ever said to them before they die or I die to be "I love you", so I would say it as I was leaving or getting off the phone or whatever, and then if either of us remembered to add something, I'd say "I love you" again so that it would be the last words in case anything bad happened. They didn't know the reason I said it so much until I was like 10, and for the longest time, they just thought it was me being insecure and needing the affirmation that they loved me since whenever I said, "I love you," they were obligated to say it back. They thought it was funny when they realized the real reason eventually. Anyway, I think that anecdote says a lot about me, and anyone I know well would probably say that it makes so much sense. I also save voicemails from people I love, partially in case they die suddenly, but also because I just love listening to them again and people's voices hold a lot of meaning for me.

-- Also when I was little (but also now and all throughout my life) I always wrote "Hope your birthday is as nice as you are" so that I could get out of wishing them a good day if I didn't like them

-- Also when I was little, I used to turn around all my stuffed animals and photographs to face away from me when I changed my clothes, because I felt weird having people look at me naked. I still do it sometimes... It feels weird having eyes watch (even if they aren't real), haha

-- I love elevators with mirrors on the ceiling

-- I get like, overly excited when a student says, "You have the best playlists!" Especially in teen or adult classes. It makes my day. It makes me far more happy than I should be over something so little.

-- My celebrity girl crush is Jessica Alba. Mika Kunis and Rachel Bilson would probably be a close second, along with the girl who plays Aria on Pretty Little Liars. I also like Rachel McAdams since she's a decent actor and I always like the characters she plays (even if they're mostly kind of the same).

-- When I worked a desk job at typical office work environments, I was often told that I use too many exclamation points. I rarely ever use more than one exclamation point in a row (i.e. !!!), so that's not really what they were talking about, but apparently even one exclamation point at the end of a sentence can seem too overexcited for most people. Who knew? I sure didn't!

-- The way someone's voice sounds affects how I think of him/her. Laughs, too.

-- Sometimes when I'm walking on a safe street and no one is around, I close my eyes and keep walking for a little while with them closed. Maybe that's weird, but I think it feels a little exhilarating. And it helps me remember to slow down and breathe and feel things (mostly in terms of physical sense, but I suppose emotional, too) instead of getting so caught up in my thoughts. I don't think I've ever actually told anyone this one out loud.

-- When I was growing up, every time I would draw people, I would always start with their eyes - not even their head, just their eyes. It's one of those things I really distinctly remember. I'm sure there's some sort of meaning connected to it, but even despite having taken a course on "expressive arts therapies" in college, I still have yet to look into it. Stay tuned. I think maybe it could have been because I thought that the eyes were the hardest part to draw and get right. I also find it really soothing and satisfying to draw buildings. A lot of people think that's weird. Don't know what that one means either...

-- I go back and forth between ENFJ and INFP depending on when I take the test. You can tell me which you think I'm more like if you're into that thing! I'm really not that into it, but it's fun hearing people's opinions.

-- 6/8 and 5/4 are usually my favorite time signatures (also 9/8, 12/8, etc. - I like triple meters better than duple meters most of the time)

-- I'm generally right-handed, but I'm a left-handed cartwheeler, and I can only wink my left eye.

-- I'm weird about textures. Especially for clothes. I also hate the texture of newspaper. It grosses me out and makes me so uncomfortable. The ink is gross, but mostly it's the texture of the paper. This next one doesn't bother me as much as the newspaper, but I'm also not a fan of drinking out of plastic cups (although I still do sometimes) - I like drinking out of glasses better.

-- I love sudoku and logic puzzles.

-- I switched to the contacts you can sleep in recently, and it led my eye doctor to discover that I am "not a full-blinker". Meaning when I blink, apparently I don't fully close my eyes all the way. Who knew?

-- When you click the little notifications thing at the top of the page, I like it when okcupid tells me "you're pretty cool" or "stay classy". Thanks for confidence boost, okc. When you say "meow" or "boop boop beep boop" it's just weird, though. Apparently okcupid must be a robot cat. <-- nevermind. wrote this a while ago, and now that I'm back on the site, they changed the layout and it's not there anymore. No more okc robot cat confidence boosts. :(

-- I hate when guys on this site use phrases like "hey ladies" and imply that it is a whole audience of women that they are trying to talk to; I realize that there are multiple people who read any given profile, but I as a reader like to be addressed as an individual, and for some reason when guys acknowledge that they are writing to multiple women, it's off-putting and makes me subconsciously assume that they are the kind of guy who is looking to meet and hook up with lots of girls, as opposed to finding just one he really likes.

-- I think any guy looks infinitely cuter wearing a baseball cap - even guys with a full head of hair, and even guys who don't normally look cute without a baseball cap. It's sort of like a disguise. When guys have pictures on this site of them in a baseball cap for all their pictures, it ends up being really disappointing when I see them without one and realize they're not as cute. This is especially true for the balding guys, but not just them.

-- I fill out the "questions" and "tests" on here more for my own entertainment than for your benefit or matching purposes. I know I have way too many - I've been on and off the site so many times without deleting my account, and when I'm in a stretch of time when I'm on, I usually answer a few a day, so it adds up. I don't know why (I don't take them very seriously) but I love personality quizzes and thinking about aspects of myself that don't always consciously enter my frame of thought- it's so fun! Those kind of things are always my go-to break from whatever I'm working on. That and Upworthy. And writing stories entirely through emojis. And Groupon. I'm the best at letting Groupons expire before I get a chance to actually use them...

-- I tend to be an incredibly giving person, be it with family, friends, or someone I've been dating. So if I bake you something, it means I like you, but don't read too much into it and get totally freaked out since it's kind if just how I am. I can't help it, though, I love going out of my way to do nice things and make things for people I care about. Please don't take advantage of that. Ok, done with the serious talk for now...

-- My back-up plan for life was to be Alice in Wonderland in DisneyWorld. Or Tinkerbell since she gets to go down that awesome zipline. If my life ever gets boring (which I know it won't), it's still kind of my secret back-up plan. Although I guess it's not so secret now that I just told... And to be perfectly honest, looking back on that old plan, I think after about a week, DisneyWorld would prooobably start to feel like hell on earth...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
-- You're pure of heart. Maybe not 100% pure of mind, but definitely pure of heart.
-- You want to help me use up my A La Card deck before it expires at the end of December! *Update: yeah, it expired. But I'd still like to try out the restaurants from it at some point anyway!
-- You've got more game than these guys http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0bomkgXeDkE
-- You're looking for more than just a one-night stand, fling, "girl on the side", threesome, booty call, or "fun buddy"
-- You don't just pursue relationships that are convenient
-- You can hold a decent conversation
-- You live in Chicago
-- You want to go to Bikram or beach yoga with me this summer (if you want; it's certainly not a requirement - but I do have a lot of Groupons to use up!)
-- You feel you've achieved some level of balance in your life - not "balance" by society's standards of what that should mean, but by what it personally means to you
-- You're not one of those "I don't ask for much in a girl" kinda guys - why would you want someone who's plain mediocre vanilla? seriously?
-- You're a romantic. But not a hopeless one
-- You hope to someday be like these old couples
http://www.buzzfeed.com/ariannarebolini/couples-who-should-be-your-real-relationship-goals?s=mobile
-- You've got a little bit of hipster/artsiness in you but aren't one of those freakishly skinny, malnourished-looking hipster types
-- You play the accordion. I think accordions are just the neatest, but I've yet to ever meet someone who plays one! I have a soft spot for guys who play guitar, piano, or drums, too, though.
-- You enjoy being years into something really good more than the initial thrill of first meeting lots of people (but aren't too desperate or clingy)
-- You don't take life or people for granted (yet also don't take life too seriously)
-- You give people the benefit of the doubt and realize that other people in this world besides you are allowed at least one "bad mood" day per year, and that if that day happens to fall on a day when you spend time with them, it doesn't necessarily mean that the end is nigh.
-- You're passionate about things and don't just go through the motions of life. So many people in this world have no passion. It's sad. I recently saw this thing on TV that said, "people suffering from apathy are more likely to end up with fewer memory neurons." First of all, I think that being apathetic is a choice - I don't think people "suffer" from apathy as if it were a disease you catch unknowingly. The only exception might be if there is some sort of clinical depression involved; however, depression is caused by chemical imbalances in the brain, whereas apathy CAUSES chemical imbalances. At least that's how I interpret it. I choose not to be apathetic, regardless of whether apathy actually causes any damage to the brain or not - but if choosing not to be apathetic helps me have sharper memories and enjoy and remember life's moments with more vividness, then all the better. I would hope that anyone I date would feel the same way and want to live life fully.
-- You want to have fun!

**Disclaimer: for this next little section, don't get offended. It's not any sort of personal attack, I'm just being honest about my preferences. I might be willing to look the other way on the first one and a few of the less serious ones, depending on the person**

DO NOT message me if:
-- You're currently in classes for your MBA/law/med/masters/PhD degree. While that's all great stuff, I really prefer to date someone who either already has his graduate degree(s) or is just flat out not planning on getting anything past a Bachelor's degree he already has. If you're currently in school, you most likely don't have the time and energy to be dating someone like me seriously, and it usually only leads to problems. I've had a lot of past experiences confirm this... However, if you truly think it wouldn't be an issue for you, it's not a total deal-breaker. I realize most smart guys in my age range tend to be in some sort of advanced degree program.
-- You expect a gold medal or pat on the back for reading this far. I appreciate it, I really do, but I don't owe you anything for it. You read because it's your choice, not because it'll make you feel entitled to anything.
-- You're bored. Only boring people get bored.
-- You're a cat guy
-- You love your dog far more than you could ever love a human being, and therefore expect me to love your dog more than anything at first meeting. Especially if you expect to have said dog/cat present in the room while we're getting our game on. Major mood killer. It's just weird. It's not happening. Don't get me wrong, I'm not an animal hater, and depending on the particular animal, I can be very much a fan of certain dogs... but there's a fine line, guys. It's actually surprising how many times I've had an issue with this. You wouldn't raise your kids to be that needy to sleep in the same bed with you every night, right? So why would you raise your dog to be that needy? If you feel that attached to your animal that you need him/her there that often, despite not always wanting one of your own kind there each night... well, frankly I just think there's a whole different set of psychological issues at play
-- You're bi
-- You're into polyamory. I am 100% a monogamist through and through. And in the same vein, I'd prefer to date someone who isn't in the process of getting out of a divorce or relationship (no matter what the level of complexity or seriousness of the relationship). There's a great quote from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind where Clementine says, "I'm not going to tiptoe around your marriage or whatever it is ya got goin' on there. If you wanna be with me, you're with me." I'm of the same mindset.
-- You're going to try to guilt me into dating you because you paid $1 to send a message to my full inbox. I don't go on pity dates. If you want to pay to send a message before I have time to clean out my inbox, by all means, do. But there's no need to throw it in my face that you paid a dollar. It's your choice, and I did not force you to pay $1, so therefore I have no obligation to date you if you think telling me is going to win me over.
-- You think Hobby Lobby made the right decision
-- You have "advice" for me. We all have different thoughts, ways of expressing ourselves, and ways of living our lives. One isn't necessarily better than the other; they're just different. If I'm different in a way that isn't working for you, there's no point in messaging me to tell me how I can "improve". Just because you're a few years older, that doesn't necessarily make you wiser. Although it's cliché, I really do believe that it's the life in your years, not the years in your life, that really count. There are plenty of people who have eaten up tons of time on this planet and still never really opened up their eyes, minds, and hearts to the things around them. So I don't care how much older you are - by the time you're an adult, live your life how you want to and let others live their lives how they want to. Online dating sites are not the place to give people "constructive feedback". And I don't want to date someone who's going to act like an older brother; I want to date someone who will view me and treat me as an equal.
-- You don't put a picture in your profile or aren't willing to share a picture that actually shows your face (sure those shades look cool brah, but I'd like to see what's behind them please).
-- Your pictures or answers are way outdated. A profile is a living document, people. Update it every half a year or so. I want to get to know who you are now, not who you were 10 years ago.
-- You use the word "effective" to describe things. There are a few different reasons I can't stand that word. It's like poison to my ears.
-- You use the phrase, "it explores..." when describing any sort of artistic work.
-- You own a pair of crocks (almost as bad as crocks: those weird shoes that separate your toes. You know, the ones that make it seem like you're running barefoot but really you just look silly...)
-- Your main picture is of you holding a fish. SO many guys on this site have pictures with a fish they caught. What about that do you think I would possibly find attractive? If catching a big fish is your most winsome characteristic... well that's just sad. I'll bite my tongue right now to avoid typing anything meaner than that. Unless we are stranded on a deserted island, I really am not impressed or interested in your fish-catching abilities.
-- You're more of a country boy than a city boy. If a place is referred to as "quaint", it's not a place I'll ever be living. Maybe it would be nice for a weekend getaway now and then (especially if there's a lake/beach), but not full-time. I grew up in a suburb that was just over an hour drive from Chicago, which, if you ask me, is an hour too far. It's not an experience I would like to repeat. If it weren't for this awesome city we call Chicago, you wouldn't find me anywhere near the midwest. I'm definitely a city girl at heart and plan to stay in a big city for life, so if you're not, it probably won't work out. Evanston is about the furthest I would ever move from the city.
-- You wear skinny jeans or jorts
-- You're flakey
-- You're selfish - every person in this world is basically selfish, because the only person in this world who is always going to look out for you is you. But there's a good selfish and a bad selfish, and if you're the bad kind... Stay away, please.
-- You have serious aspirations to be a politician (for any party)
-- You refuse to shave your face at least every couple days (I have to admit, I'm not a huge fan of facial hair, whether it's "mustache November" or not. If I, as a girl, can shave my legs every couple days, you can definitely manage your face, which is a much smaller area. Sometimes a little stubble is ok if it's not a full-out beard, though. A select few guys can sometimes pull it off.)
-- You don’t live in Chicago
-- You're a girl (yes, I get my share of lesbian messages, but I have a crazy story about a straight girl who messaged me, too, actually... ask me about it sometime)
-- You're younger than me (or way older - sorry all you 40-something men, I'm not looking to be your kid's new mama, and you're just too close to my parents' age... way too awksauce). Although I suppose age is only a number, and you're only as old as you feel. That's why I'm going to be young forever! (Not like invincible, just young for the entirety of the time I'm alive...)
-- You list "casual sex" under your "looking for" section. If it's for sure not going anywhere, then I'm not interested.
-- The only hobbies you have are playing video games and drinking and nothing else (it's ok if your hobbies include those, but if those two things are all you live for, move aside please)
-- You're not a cuddler. I'll just lay it all out on the table: I don't require full-on cuddling all night (although that is preferable), but it would be nice if whoever I date would at least cuddle until I fall asleep. Everyone has their own personal needs, and it's definitely a big need of mine when I'm really dating someone. If I had to choose between sex and cuddling and could only have one the rest of my life... boy would that be a tough call. But seriously, I CANNOT stress enough how important cuddling is to me.
-- You have an abs-in-the-mirror photo on your profile
-- You have a major problem with people harmonizing to the radio. Just kidding - if it bugs you, I won't. I rarely sing in front of other people anyway.
-- You feel the need to talk about how much you work out (unless you're singing "Sexy and I know it") – I’ll be the judge of whether you’re in shape, thanks. If you work out, it'll show.
-- You feel the need to curse like a sailor, sounding totally unnatural when you meet a girl because for some bizarre reason you think it might impress her
-- You’re arrogant and have a big ego
-- You're a diehard Republican (not saying I consider myself a Democrat; I'm independent and have different views for different issues, but I could never date a Republican, whereas I might be able to date a Democrat)
-- You own a gun

Types of guys I like: happy guys, appreciative guys, smart guys, cute guys, sweet guys, funny guys, clever guys, genuinely kind-hearted guys, charismatic guys, confident guys, vivacious guys, tall-dark-and-handsome guys, driven-yet-still-kinda-laid-back guys, masculine guys, guys-with-smirky-crooked-smiles-that-look-like-they’re-about-to-laugh guys, supportive guys, down-to-earth guys, successful guys, charming guys, cultured guys, mature guys (not just in the sense that you don't act immature, but in the sense that you've had a certain level of experiences in life, which most guys don't even realize they haven't had...), loyal guys, good guys!

The type of guy I love: A guy who is perfectly ok with being whatever type of guy he is and doesn't try to be something else.

Anddd "scene". Fin. Hope you enjoyed the read. (If not, no need to tell me. Haters gon' hate. But they can hate in silence. )