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Live_4_Ocean

43 M Smithfield, VA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 19
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$80,000–$100,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I asked a close friend to describe my personality because sometimes we have a hard time seeing things in the mirror and we are all a mixture of inconsistencies. This is how she described me.

Smart and very meticulous, but at the same time very warm, loving and funny.

I am an extremely open and honest person, but I am a Scorpio so I am intense too. I can be rather quiet when I first meet someone, but once things loosen up, I am very easy to talk to. I enjoy going out on the town, but really enjoy the quieter things in life. The little things that give meaning and depth to our existence, like sitting under the stars on a warm summer night enjoying a glass of an Italian Chianti and good conversation.

I have been through quite a bit in life, and I've been alone for two years. Between work and my kids I am really busy. I would like to find someone to make the time for. I have friends who I spend time with, but it is not the same. Most of them are married, so it is sometimes harder on me to see the dynamics. It would be nice to spend time with someone where there is that little spark of chemistry.

Closing the summary with quotes is a good way of giving you a glimpse into aspects that are harder to describe myself.

Jeremy Taylor
(seventeenth century theologian)
""Love is friendship set on fire."

"If anger proceeds from a great cause, it turns to fury; if from a small cause, it is peevishness; and so is always either terrible or ridiculous."


Joseph Campbell
(a twentieth century author and professor of world religions)
""We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it is all about."

"We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us."

"When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness."


Albert Einstein
"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning."

"Most people say that is it is the intellect which makes a great scientist. They are wrong: it is character."

"Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind."

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"


Anything else you wish to know, just ask.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a biological oceanographer working for the Navy to help them comply with environmental laws like the Endangered Species Act and Marine Mammal Protection Act for training activities at sea. Because of the nature of what the Navy does, it is most often involving SONAR or explosives. I do occasionally get to go to sea and survey for animals, which is a nice break from my desk. I am at a point in my career that is fairly stable, I don't see the need to go back to school, but I might. I like working with GIS and just may get a graduate certificate just to improve my skills and return me to a more academic setting. With what I do, I sorely miss academia where things are pure and rational. I usually describe what I do as working in the weird intersection of law, regulation, government policy and science. :-)

Somehow, despite going through two universities' marine science programs, I have never learned to dive. So, I am looking into correcting that and some other activites that had been side lined for years. I started going back to the gym in March too.

I guess the best way to describe this is trying to rebuild my life outside of work. I have kids; they are my first priority, and since they don't live with me I have to arrange some kind of a social life around the time I do get with them, which is why I am here.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This will be sort of random.
Fixing things at home and spatial reasoning, having deep conversations about a lot of things (spiritual, political, topics from various sciences, xenobiology, cryptobiology, etc.), making maps, analyzing things, and far too frequently overanalyzing things, being goofy at the wrong time, knowing completely useless information, knowing things that are unexpected, deeply understanding connections between things, using uncommon words in conversation, etc.

And a word of forewarning, don't let me near a tide pool unless you would like to hear me rattle off the names of things you probably don't even know exist. If you’re up for that, I’m always ready. The rockier the pool, the better time we will have. :D
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, and if I am speaking my vocabulary. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I have eclectic taste in books. I’m quite fond of a few the great American authors. I absolutely love “The Grapes of Wrath” and “Of Mice and Men” (Both by John Steinbeck), “The Great Gatsby”, I far prefer “Tom Sawyer” over “Huckleberry Finn” even though the latter is considered the classic, I am a huge fan of Frank Herbert’s works, and of course no nerd would be complete without Tolkien’s works being in the favorites somewhere. :-D

My movie favorites are going to take me a while to come up with. Raising boys, you end up watching a lot things ranging from “Thomas the Tank Engine” to “Star Wars” movies so those are the images that come most readily to mind. I do like the “Star Wars” movies though, I thought “Prince of Persia” was very nicely done, “Seabiscuit”, I have to admit that I do enjoy most of the modern comic book movies because technology makes so much possible now, “Schindler’s List”, “Braveheart”, I thought “John Carter of Earth” was undervalued, anything Monty Python, “Daddy Daycare”, and of course all three Lord of the Rings movies. I’ll add more as I remember them.

I only have a few shows that I make time for. I will watch documentaries if the subject interests me, “The Big Bang Theory”, “Castle”, “Touch”, “NCIS”, and “Battlestar Galctica” are the only shows I record on the DVR. I do enjoy “Burn Notice”, but not enough to record it.

FOOD! I was born in El Paso, so I have a palate that can handle some very spicy foods. I am the kind of person that will try anything once. I LOVE Thai green curries, sushi, Mexican, Italian, Greek, Caribbean, Indian, Chinese, Vietnamese and Filipino food. And of course who can leave out barbecue? Almost anything can be smoked, and I enjoy doing that. :-)

My tase in music is all over the map. Depending on my mood, I will listen to classical music, 60's, 70's, 80's, 90's popular music, old school heavy metal, or European symphonic metal. I'm really into the symphonic metal at the moment. Epica, Within Tempatation, Apocalyptica and Nightwish for example. The artistry is simply amazing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There is no particular order to this after the first two items:
1. God
2. My kids
3. Pacific salmon
4. Fidalgo Bay Roasting Company coffee
5. Good imported red wines (e.g. italian chianti, israeli shiraz)
6. Laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The direction our country is heading and what kind of a world my children will inherit.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing at home or out with a friend. Sometimes I help with friend's home projects.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This one shouldn't be hard to discern, but I am a bit of a nerd.

I'm Howard looking to find my own Bernadette. :)
Well, technically I am more like Leonard, but you get the point.

If no one has ever explained this, allow me to share my definition, because there is a difference between a geek and a nerd. A nerd is a geek who is comfortable with his nature.

And I can swing a hammer too. :D
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are not turned off by a man who uses multisyllabic words and proudly wears the scars life has given him. If you are interested in finding someone who is genuine, warm and loving, and you are not insane. Sorry, I had to throw that one in there. :)