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34 Seattle, WA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30-45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Average build
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Chinese (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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My most vivid memories as a child are very basic- sitting atop bluffs amazed by the waves crashing below; picking apricots at an apricot farm and having the sticky fragrant pulp drip down my chin as the fruit entered my mouth; doing backdives off the side of the swimming pool. I enjoy trying out new recipes and making up my own.

I am looking for someone who is sweet, considerate, and has a basic sense of compassion and thinks that that's important to focus on. There's too much that needs to be done to improve our society to waste time on rudeness. Priorities.
While I have had (more than one) career of my own, I also don't mind a man who can work with traditional gender structures. So men, if you're say looking for that super independent woman who has an entire life of her own, you might want to look elsewhere. What I don't actually get is how a super independent woman with her own life and friends and activities would 1) even need/want a man 2) be able to fit one in and 3) be on okcupid looking for a man ;)
What I’m doing with my life
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For seven years, I was a research scientist at work, but I've wrapped that up for now, and am ready to move on to my next big career adventure. Before that, I made my living as a professional musician. I love reading and studying language in my spare time- French, Spanish, Asian languages. Ultimately, along with continually learning, the most important thing and goal for me is to- through self-expression and listening, connect with other people. Oh, and to always dine well whether it be cooked at home or out, preferably with fresh and locally grown ingredients.
I’m really good at
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the piano (in the past), writing (when the occasion calls for it), making special dishes, analyzing things :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) no one favorite- but I love the classics of western lit (fitzgerald, faulkner, hemingway, steinbeck), contemporary authors (Amis, Bolano, Murakami, Bryson). I love social science and history books, as well as more popular science books (mind wide open, proust was a neuroscientist, books by Bill Bryson, etc.).
B) 12 Monkeys, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, Lawrence of Arabia, East of Eden, Last King of Scotland, Lives of Others, Science of Sleep, 2 Days in Paris, list goes on and on
C) Curb Your Enthusiasm, Downton Abbey, Portlandia, No Reservations, House, now, Naked and Afraid!
D) everything from Robin Thicke to James Blake to Tchaikovsky to world music to all kinds of electronic music. I like very many kinds of music- my pandora list is too long.
E) anything using fresh and local ingredients
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
English language, hot showers, internet, creative compassionate friends, good sleep cycles, good eats and drinks (not in any particular order)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
human nature
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
spending time with friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was raised in a secular humanist environment (aka. no church), but I am theist as far as I can remember like age 5. also very interested in and open to buddhism. the buddha seemed like a pretty amazing guy. :) that is what my 'other' translates to under religion.
If I meet the right person to do it with, (and he wants to of course), I am open to adoption from another country or even fostering.
You should message me if
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you think we could have some meaningful connection whether it be as teacher, student, soulmate, or friend. :)