I might be cursed, I think blessed to have found two adoring and committed husbands in my lifetime. I lost the first after 22 years of marriage to cancer. The second was an Internet find through American Singles, so I know the system works. He died unexpectedly in a tragic motorcycle accident after only 5 years. I treasured both relationships, and value the closeness and unshakeable bond that is possible with a partner. Is it possible to discover that a third time?
And so I take time to ponder... what WAS it about me that caught Chuck's eye nearly 10 years ago? WHAT do I offer that made him tell me he was the luckiest man on earth? Maybe it was my sense of adventure- after two weeks of Internet banter and one date, I invited him to come along on a cruise to Mexico! I can't get any more spontaneous than that. Willingness to help? Maybe. I tiled his bathroom and replaced his kitchen. Sincere? Intelligent? Considerate? Funny? Responsible? Kind-hearted?Generous? Ethical? Independent? Hard Working? Honest? Creative? Crafty? I'd say all of that. I know close friends have often remarked that I am "solid" and the "strongest woman they know". Truly, my strength comes solely from the intensity of the relationships I have shared and the commitments I make. As I was packing up, I found one of Chuck's first emails, and he told me the attraction was that I was willing to give him space! I can't imagine smothering, expecting, monopolizing anyone's time. Freedom is paramount to a good partnership. I'm the kind of gal you would be proud to take home to meet Mom!
Life is about enjoying all the opportunities we have, experiencing the great wonders of the world. And it seems to be more enjoyable when shared. Travel- a drive to the coast or mountains. Longer adventures to Europe or the Caribbean. I'm referred to as "the Travel Queen" by family and friends. I'm known for getting really great deals to great places. When I get there, I can't just sit by the pool. There is a rental car involved. If I'm near water, there will be a catamaran adventure, snorkeling, parasailing or whale watching. I had a black marlin on the hook one time in Zihuatanejo. I circled Aruba on a Harley. I saw the sunrise from the top of Haleakala on Maui. I can't imagine doing any of that on my own.
FINALLY! I am able to call Port Hadlock my only home!! Still renovating, I'll be unpacking boxes for the next decade. But currently "retired", I have some spare time to get it done.
And so I press on... in search of that man of my dreams. I need someone with a sense of humor, to be able to laugh at me and himself. He will be educated, employed or financially stable. I appreciate a man that can speak English and write full sentences with punctuation and spelling (hopefully, this requirement leaves out foreign scammers looking for donations!). I NEED him to be tall- over 6'2"preferred. (That isn't optional- please don't respond if you are short!!) I jokingly told a friend the other day that I would alter my profile- no spitters! You must have manners. And you better not have any kids... even great kids can cause problems sooner or later. He has to be open and honest, and I'd be lying if I didn't mention that 'bad boy" twinkle in his eye... Is that you?
When I take a vacation, it is somewhere AWAY. I love to travel and favorite destinations include Mexico, the Caribbean, Europe.
The new place has only a third of an acre... I parted with my herd, so the stage name isn't quite accurate anymore! I still have quite a bit of renovating to complete- I'll be busy with my nail gun and tile saw for quite a while.
I treasure each opportunity I have to give back to the community. My favorite charity is the local Fire station- I look forward to dropping off garbage bags full of toys for the local kids each Christmas.
Finding a new long-term companion. Looking at profiles on line, and wondering why people post blurry, grainy, crooked or otherwise uncomplimentary photos of themselves. Looking at same photos and wishing I could give these people a haircut or shave...
Finding someone to snowbird with me in a warm winter climate.