For those of you who are curious about my screen name, I called myself LloydDoblerAt40 because I absolutely love the movie 'Say Anything', and I've always been able to relate to the character played by John Cusack. Not because he's a kick-boxer - I've never kick-boxed in my life, and I definitely don't regard it as the 'sport of the future' - but because of his personality traits: his positive outlook ("How hard is it to decide to be in a good mood and be in a good mood once in a while?"), his integrity and nonmaterialism ("I don't want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career..."), his appreciation of unconventionality ("You used to be warped and twisted and hilarious - and I mean that in the best way.") and his dedication to relationships (best illustrated when he says to his girlfriend's father, "What I really want to do with my life - what I want to do for a living - is I want to be with your daughter. I'm good at it.")

These Dobleresque qualities are values that are very important to me and that I work hard to live by.

Talking, listening, telling the truth, being myself, accepting others, and making the most of every moment.

They might notice that I'm relatively tall, somewhat dark, and not entirely unhandsome (my eyes, ears, nose and mouth are all in roughly the right position on my head.) Mostly, I think, they notice my incessant smiling.

Books: The Catcher in the Rye, Geek Love, anything by Jon Krakauer, and David Lynch's book about meditation, 'Catching the Big Fish'.

Movies: Knowing how much I love movies, it would be very easy to get carried away and list dozens of films, but I'll limit myself to the first ten that come to mind: Something Wild, Being There, Into the Wild, A Room With a View, Hannah and Her Sisters, Amadeus, Revolutionary Road, The Celebration, Broadcast News and - of course - Say Anything.

Music: As a listener, I go through phases. At various times in my life, I've been a rabid Beatles fan, a slightly pretentious jazz aficionado and a classic rock devotee. There was even a period of time where I only listened to movie soundtracks. These days, I seem to be on a 70's music kick. You play some old school Stevie Wonder or The Band, and I'm a happy camper.

Food: Yes, please.

HBO, my running shoes, sunday afternoon naps, my incredible friendships, orange creamsicles and my undying belief in true love.

The steps I need to take to become more aware, creative, spontaneous, health-conscious, relaxed and giving.

Either watching artsy movies, playing Beatles: Rock Band (I'm a darn fine harmonizer, if I do say so my darn self), babysitting one of my gazillion cousins, nieces and nephews (which generally involves watching Finding Nemo or Barbie: Fairytopia for the gazillionth time), or filling out endless dating site questionnaires.

In 1983, my three favourite albums (or more accurately, audio cassettes) were 'Cuts Like a Knife', 'Can't Slow Down' and 'Sports'. If you know who recorded each of those records - and are brave enough to admit it - you get 10 bonus points and my undying respect.

Reading all this stuff about me has intrigued you, or made you smile, or reminded you of yourself.