Hello!
Slight overall change to my profile.........

Thank you OKcupid! I joined Nov 15th and within 2hrs chatted with someone online and now I am in a almost 24/7 Mistress/Slave relationship.

I am not here to find a husband. I am here looking to find long term open minded safe sex partners. I do have children (in college and out of the house), I love both of them and would love the oppurtunity to love two "husbands"......lol....

About me :
I am a delightfully intense, curvaceous Fem Dom (40,34,37)
I enjoy both soft and more intense S/m play. I can be pleasantly strict, or a severe disciplinarian, depending on what a submissive one desires (or deserves). Regardless of severity, My discipline is always given in a kind, and loving manner.

I seek submissive boys and girls, for playtime with Me and/or playtime with my submissives and I. Also My loving and submissive boy will always be in attendance as he is My guardian when I am playing with a submissive one who is new to me.

Enjoyment of CBT is not a requirement for boy subs, but a definite plus. Among other things, I greatly enjoy tying boys up, and leading them around. I make sure that the tying does not cause pain. I will be giving any pain that is to be given should I desire to. If you tell Me that your nipples are not sensitive, I can sensitize them for you. It is a gift I love to give, so that you can enjoy having them touched, fondled and sucked on, well into the future, with minor tune ups on occasion.

I expect My toys to give Me back appropriate visual and auditory responses to My sensuousness, pain, and domination. Failure to do so during a first session will usually mean that it will also be the last session. If I am going make the effort to bestow the gift of My pain and sensory delights upon My playthings, I expect to be entertained with pleasing responses such as wincing, squirming, flinching and writhing. I also want to hear various, completely natural sounds of distress, from whimpering and soft sobs, to yelps and screams. I greatly enjoy a bottom who presents the body part that I am working over, as much as possible, regardless of the natural instinct to pull away. Pleading for mercy is always a good thing for a naughty (or an obedient), girl or boy to do. Intense submissiveness will always be rewarded with intense dominance. Come to Me with an attitude of respect, and a desire to obey Me (as is due a being such as Myself). If you do, you will reap the benefits that come to submissives who truly enjoy power exchange. Offer yourself up to Me as a gift to be used for My pleasure, and you will receive intense pleasure in return, (both painful and delectable), administered in a no nonsense, yet sweet, and caring manner.

An initial negotiation will always take place before any play will happen. I DO NOT PLAY on the first meet up or even the meet up following that, which you WILL be asked to attend a PUBLIC venue to watch me work over a sub. It is VERY possible that my idea of fun is NOT yours. Present to Me your list of desires and perceived needs, and your list of hard limits. Do not tell Me that you have no limits, everyone has a limit and I do NOT want to hear you say no when I come at you with a bowl of needles soaked in jalapeno juice!

I am not psychic/mind reader. Once W/we have negotiated, feel free to ask for what you want before or during a session, and you may get it. Play should be a mutually enjoyable activity. If you don’t tell Me what you want or need, I cannot decide whether I am pleased to give it to you. Not only that if you do not tell me what you want or need, you may be cheated out and soured on Dom relationships. NOT all Doms have a set scene they follow. We make up what we do according to how we feel and how our subs respond! In all playtime activities, SSC and practices will continuously be in effect.

Those who please Me, and who desire such, might be considered as candidates for penetrative pleasures with Me, or with O/others W/who may be playing with U/us. Realize that not everyone I choose to play with will be selected for this honor. My reasons for choosing one over another to participate will be My own, and not based on any parameters that will be explained.

To play with Me, good hygiene is essential. I expect any and all of my girls and boys to be clean, and smelling fresh before I proceed with fulfilling their desires. I don’t really know why I need to state this obvious point of good manners, save for the fact that I have had the hygienically challenged present themselves to Me before. Thus, I have instituted the concept of shower time before every session, unless previous arrangements have been made. I might shower with you. But if you present to Me smelling particularly foul, you will definitely be showering by yourself. If this is the case, expect to be examined to determine if you have done a good enough job. If you continue to present to Me in a state of substandard hygiene, expect that I will find it increasingly hard to consider you as a toy that I desire to play with.

I am also seeking a financial sub, one who will be happy to submit to me financially for the benefit of playtime.

My Ideal Person:
My ideal male would be 32-48. Well endowed and bi-sexual. Clean, neat and intelligent.

My ideal female would be blonde, very submissive and play an airhead well (not be one) large breasted, tall, pain sluts welcome.

Prefer servants to be: shaved, available for overnight, interested in public play (clubs & parties).

What type of scene activities are you active in or would you be interested in exploring?:
Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play), Biting, Body worship, Bondage, Branding, Breast/Nipple Torture, Chastity Devices, Collar & Lead/Leash, Confinement/Caging, Cross dressing, Depilation/Shaving, Electrotorture, Fisting, Foot/shoe worship, Genital torture, Hair pulling, Hot wax, Kidnapping, Knife play, Mummification, Needle play, Physical humiliation, Piercing, Power Exchange, Role Play, Sensory deprivation, Slapping the face, Spanking, Suspension, Urolagnia, Verbal humiliation, Whipping, Fire play. The term BDSM covers a lot of ground. What's your scene?

Now be a good little boy or girl and come kneel at my feet.....

Living an alternative (BDSM) lifestyle. Ok so perhaps it is a bit like Liver & Onions, not for everyone, but I like it ok.

Torturing boys........ and loving it........

Hanging with my OKcupid Buddies
DesertChicken, Chris4fun, drago1954 and DowntownFX

Give you 3 guesses and the first 2 don't count...

Dropping my motorcycle and not getting a scratch on it.
:) that really pisses off my friends.....

Coloring "outside" the lines........

My outgoing attitude and confidence. Or as one of my friends told me, My great sense of self awareness.....

It would be a shorter list to name the things I do not like

Books: Biographies, history
Music: Rap
Food: wasabi. I love sushi, hate wasabi.

Motorcycles
Ben & Jerry's Chunky Monkey
Boys
Music
Cameras
Things that go bump in the night

Why my match percentage is higher with "nerds" than "geeks"....

How is it that men think close ups of blood shot eyes or holding a beer makes for an attractive profile photo?

Why tall, gaming, computer nerd/geek skinny hippy types are consistantly better hung then "regular" men.

When is Blackberry going to get a Flash Player so I can watch porn?

Out somewhere .... just look for the pretty yellow bike being chased by the big black ZX14......

www.lairdesade.com

www.passivearts.com

I have had sex with a Wookie, and it was totally hot.....

I don't like sleeping alone.

I have never owned a brown dog.

I have a very cute freckle, and if you are lucky I will let you rest your chin on it.....

If you want to see "those" types of photos go to:
www.fetlife.com
ID: LB_Mistress

If you are a nice person who wants to play naughty games. A sweet submissive of either sex......

You are large, big, "husky" man with long hair .......
A VERY SHY, Traditional "hippy" type, very thin, lean, with long hair and hairy face.....
Or very tall, clean cut, lean cop/military type bald headed guys.....if you fit one of these, email me!

You are SINGLE or Poly amorous and wanting a long term relationship. Keyword "RELATIONSHIP" not a one night stand!
You think I am a "Star Wars" fan.
You have a Wookie costume, or look like one :).
You have fantasies about Princess Leia in a harem girl outfit.
You are over the age of 23 (Yes I like young guys)
You like to be bound, tied, gagged and cut with razors.
You are a geek, dweeb, nerd, hippy (hippie), pagan, pirate, gamer, smart, introverted and have long hair, submissive or are bald.
You want to model bondage gear for me to take pictures of!

Do not message me if you suffer from, Bi-polar, Borderline Personality Disorders, Schizophrenia, Paranoia thoughts of suicide or clinical depression. Or if you are medicated for those conditions and others such as heart disease, diabetes or ED issues. Use of a product such as myself, may cause serious complications resulting in heart loss, failure or stroke. Please advise your doctor of your possible concerns.......