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Last online
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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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One liner: What am I like?
Think of Rumpole of the Bailey crossed with Dr Sheldon Cooper PhD.
(and they'd both be jolly cross about being crossed with each other!)
I aspire to be Atticus Finch.

To all those poor people (who claim) that they don't own, and never watch tv - you can come round and watch mine. It's a special one that can only show BBC4 of course. No trashy viewing round my gaff.

The perfect first-date location - combines science, culture and smut!

Two new words for you today Prosopagnosia (face blindness), and Palilalia (whispered repetition).

Very recently sold my self-build chapel-conversion in Norfolk - and temporarily relocated to the centre of Colchester - final destination likely to be London.

Hiya. Eco-builder, quirky-home, green-tech type (oh & in pretty good shape as a consequence). More impressed by what you've made, than by what you've bought. Happy to do friendly chat with any and all.

Corporate life (sucking on Satan's corporate cock, as the late, great Bill Hicks puts it) and I had a parting of the ways. Now much more into ecology/ecobuilding and creating my own lifestyle. Into artsy stuff/education/culture, into architecture & design - love the company of people that want a life beyond corporate/consumer/convention. Well educated and well aware that wonderfully bright people come from every background.

Also on fetlife as Republic_of_Dom.
What I’m doing with my life
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I had been living on a building site (and telling people it was a fabulous chapel conversion in the making - though some of them questioned the lack of walls and the potentially lethal drops). But hey, now it's finished, and it's fabulous! (but - bored - wanna new project now!)

And then - this is awful - I had to get a *job* and start earning some money to recover what I'd spent on the project. Fortunately the 'job' nonsense is over, and I'm self-employed again.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making stuff and fixing stuff.

My obsessions are power tools, latex, eco-building, architectural heritage, bdsm, and working with wood (I spent some time learning traditional wooden boatbuilding - and will do more when time allows). I have a huge collection of powertools (and handcuffs). Oh and then I discovered classic handtools on ebay - a man has to have his own adze y'know.

I aspire to living in a shack deep in the forest.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I know. But you'll have to find out ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies - A matter of life and death (David Niven, 1946), Terry Gilliam's Brazil (1985), The Long Good Friday (Bob Hoskins, 1980 - his *only* good film - but he did gangster with a rawness that Hollywood can't.). I always struggle to make time for the cinema.

Books - Stieg Larsson (Dragon Tattoo - vastly better than the films), Maria Lewycka (about mixed East European/British family life) - quite a bit of biography, especially Tony Benn. Have been re-reading quite a few classics - Goerge Orwell (1984, Animal Farm), To Kill a Mockingbird, (next) Cold Comfort Farm. I read a bit of history, and will (eventually) make time for the great diarists.

Free book about the ANC's struggles -

Music - Siouxsie & the Banshees, Bjork, Bowie, Clash, Velvet Underground, Ian Dury, Roy Orbison, T. Rex, Fleet Foxes, Leonard Cohen, Gogol Bordello (but only live), Bonzo Dog Band/Neil Innes - but I wouldn't dream of inflicting my tastes on anyone else.

I'm a R4 listener, know all about Just a Minute (the current presenter is so good), ISIHAC, Mornington Crescent, "the lovely Samantha", and the Robert Mugabe tea-towels (I've just added 6 Music to my listening habits - I highly recommend a listen).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Laptop.
2. A large workshop filled with every quality tool ever invented.
3. A beaten-up old van (well maybe I've gone a bit too far with that one - replacement pending).
4. Ebay.
5. Herbal tea.
6. The ability to count.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well - what I *don't* think about - I have absolutely no idea who anyone "famous" (in the media sense) is, no idea what's happening in the soaps, no knowledge of reality tv, and no idea what's happening in sport.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
no different to the person I am at any other point in the week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ok - a serious bit here. I'm very strong on personal integrity. I think if you live with integrity in the easy times, then you're more likely to in difficult times. I feel that kindness is the greatest of all virtues, there's just not enough of it in the world.

And women dressed in black at funerals.
You should message me if
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You want to help me in my research for a second PhD in hugs.

Have you noticed there's no "what I'm looking for" section to fill in - just a few tick boxes?

So here's my own:
height unimportant
flexible about age
some kind of super-smart - doesn't have to be paper qualifications
unconventional - yes really - one that's not afraid to really live it
some passions and kinks of her own
fun and not too serious
artsy is nice
not credulous of mumbo-jumbo - religion, reiki, orbital mind-control laser conspiracy theories or operating thetans.
but open-minded nonetheless...

...and maybe some of the following apply:

You like the pics:
I've aroused your curiosity.
You live in London. I'm an ex-Londoner and love what the city has to offer.

PS Anyone fancy doing the Trans-Siberia Railroad?

PPS For when you're really cynical about OKC: