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38 • Toronto, Ontario, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 25–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Apr 16
- 5′ 5″ (1.65m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Mostly anything
- When drinking
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from masters program
- Rather not say
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Has kids
- Has cats
- English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
Super busy, amicably separated, one awesome kid. Still living with the kid and the ex - turns out that we get along way better when we aren't trying to be a couple. Now it's like raising a kid with my sister, or a really invested roommate. Awesome for domestic effectiveness, doesn't leave a lot of time for getting out of the house.
Working seven days and three nights a week. Don't have time to put a lot of work into trying to find a date. I'd love to meet someone who is looking for a long-term but occasional relationship. I'll happily meet someone who wants a short-term occasional relationship. I'm never going to say no to someone who wants a one time, I'll call you later relationship.
Seriously, I'm all kinds of smart and funny. You'll just have to ask me out to see how great it is.
I'm also a big nerd. But I was a nerd before nerd was cool, which should count for something, other than creating some kind of nerd-hipster hybrid, which should probably never exist.
The rest of the time I'm rampaging around with the girls, or playing video games, or generally nerding it up with other nerds.
Also, spreadsheets. I program a mean spreadsheet.
Other stuff I can do: sew (with a machine and everything), negotiate contracts, plan (sometimes I suck at execution, though), hold my alcohol, run amok with my little girl, use "thats what she said" in regular conversation, adopt e-solutions....oh, and I give awesome backrubs.
My wry wit and good-natured awesomeness take far longer to catch on to. You'll just have to take my word that they exist.
Movies: I love movies that are slow and beautiful, or at least beautiful in their own way. Jim Jarmusch. Sofia Coppola. Wes Anderson. I love movies with long pauses, stretches where dialogue is unnecessary. Movies with appropriately awkward pauses, like Donnie Darko.
Also: stuff blowing up. That's always cool. I'm a sucker for cheesy action, cheesy horror, and anything with Jason Statham in it.
Music: I like listening to things that feel like drinking whisky. Leonard Cohen, Tom Waits, Afghan Whigs. I like things that have are joyously angry: Dreadnaughts, Gogol Bordello, Dropkick Murphys. I like things that are nerdy and proud of it: They Might Be Giants, Jonathan Coulton, Wordburgler.
Books: I've really started to notice books where the way in which they are written echoes the things they are written about. China Mieville is a master of it. Chuck Palahniuk can do it. There's a fantastic pacing to David Wong's John Dies At The End. There's a rough directness in old Dashiell Hammett and Raymond Chandler. There is a bottomless beauty in Oscar Wilde.
Podcasts: I can't read on the subway so this is now my source for literature. Welcome to Nightvale blows my mind. The Memory Palace and Love + Radio are amazing. I can't wait for season 2 of Invisibilia and Serial. I'm embarrassingly fond of Tell 'em Steve Dave and What Say You. And Savage Love. So so much Savage Love
Shows: There will always be Arrested Development. I am often awed by how well Twin Peaks holds up over time. Kids in the Hall makes me nostalgic. I blame Netflix.
Food: eating should be optional, so that meals could mean something more than just fuel for the machine. Oh, how I love food. All of the food.
2. the interwebs
4. my girls
5. did i mention coffee?
6. sarcasm. Sweet, sweet sarcasm.
Ok, seriously. Does EVERYONE spend time thinking about zombies in one way or another? Like, what is that supposed to say about our society? Do you think the zombies are thinking about you (well, ok, they probably are. Insofar as they want to eat your brains)
Every now and again, I'm out grabbing coffee or a drink. And occasionally I'm dancing it up at a trashy retro/goth club. Old habits and all that.
"Everyone needs a / Little book of Haiku on / Their coffee table"
"My milkshake brings all / the boys to the yard. My life / Is better than yours" (I can't take credit for noticing, but now I will never forget).
You live in a world where "hey, I hear you need some help with your taxes," counts as a pick-up line.
If you're looking for a nice guy who you can go out with every six weeks or so, I'm your man. A couple times a week? Not so much.
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