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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 35-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 12:43pm
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), LISP (Somewhat), C++ (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
(Last Updated: August 6, 2014)

I am a bisexual, polyamorous, pagan (but skeptical) male looking for (preferably local) friends of any gender (and I do recognize the distinction between sex and gender, which is why I don't say "either" implying only two choices) for hanging out, dating, or whatever.

I have been married to the lovely and talented peachesnjasmin for 16 years, and she fully supports the possibility of my finding additional relationships, FWB, hook-ups, etc. This is not cheating; it is ethical non-monogamy. And, to be clear, I am looking for myself only. We are not on the hunt for a "hot bi babe to complete our family". If it happens that we find someone (guy or gal or other) interested in both of us, then that's what happens. But by no means is it expected.

Mainly, I'm just out to have fun and whatever happens, happens. I'm not looking for love, necessarily, but I'm not avoiding it either. I tend to take a very casual approach to relationships. I really enjoy just having friends to hang out with, talk to, that kind of thing -- and if an intimate relationship of some sort develops along the way as well, that's even better.

I'm something of a a massive geek, I admit. I'm a computer programmer, a science fiction fan, a tabletop gamer, and (along with my wife and her hetero-life-mate) co-owner of a GLBT-focused erotic romance micropublisher called Storm Moon Press. I enjoy renaissance faires, can name all the captains from Star Trek in chronological order, know the difference between a success and a critical hit, and can explain the significance of both the number 19 and the number 42.

Which is not to say that I require such of anyone I'm friends with, just that they are tolerant if I "geek out" once in a while if something triggers it while we're hanging out.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a computer programmer by trade; I've toyed with the idea that I'd like to teach night classes on programming and web design in the future, but for the moment, I'm working for a software company in Tampa.

In addition, as mentioned above, I co-own and run an independent publishing company specializing in GLBT-centric erotic romances, and have even published a couple of stories of my own through it. I also have ideas for longer pieces that may or may not ever see the light of day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Computer programming, mainly. But I also love role-playing, Scrabble, chess, cross-stitching, cryptic crosswords (also called British-style), and jigsaw puzzles. Oh, and any sort of math related puzzle like Sudoku and Kakuro.

And I am especially good at downplaying other things that people assure me I'm good at, like writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
It can take me a while to open up in a large social venue, but in private or in small groups, I am far more relaxed and outgoing. When I first meet a group of new people, I tend to stay pretty quiet unless I'm making a joke, or if the conversation turns to something that I'm incredibly passionate about.

Either that or my butt. I'm told I have quite a nice butt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(a) The Discworld series by Terry Prachett, the Nightside and Hawk and Fisher series by Simon Green, the Dresden Files and Codex Alera series by Jim Butcher, the Callahan series by Spider Robinson, the Hitchhiker's Guide series by Douglas Adams, the Dark Tower series by Stephen King, the Apprentice Adept series by Piers Anthony, the Sprawl Trilogy by William Gibson, the Ringworld series by Larry Niven, and hell, I'll even throw in the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling. I tend to prefer series novels, as you can tell, rather than standalones.

(b) Serenity!! Also, the Matrix trilogy, Children of Dune, Big Trouble in Little China, Rocky Horror Picture Show, Clue, Basic, The Replacements, Ladyhawke, The Princess Bride, Dead Again, TRON: Legacy, and Real Genius.

And since television shows aren't included in the question, I'll include them here:
On Air: Doctor Who, Mythbusters, Supernatural (well, until the past couple of seasons), True Blood (ditto), Castle, Haven, Top Gear, Continuum, Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D., and The Mentalist

Gone but not Forgotten: Firefly, Forever Knight, Fringe, Battlestar Galactica, Slings and Arrows, Heroes, Dollhouse, Caprica, Penn and Teller's Bullshit, Torchwood, and Red Dwarf

(c) I have very eclectic tastes, so it's too hard to pin down. I usually avoid rap, but even that's not a hard and fast rule. Here's a sample of my current playlist, though, to give you an idea... Lindsey Stirling, Evanescence, Kitaro, Vienna Teng, Ani DiFranco, Andreas Vollenweider, Kathy Mattea, Voltaire, Seether, Tom Lehrer, Slipknot, Beethoven, Daft Punk, Halestorm, Within Temptation, and Lacuna Coil.

And I also love musicals. My favorites there are probably Assassins, 1776, Into the Woods, Jekyll & Hyde, Next to Normal, and Les Miserables.

(d) Sushi pretty much tops the list. Other than that, there's very few things I don't like, and I'm always willing to try new things. Plus, my wife is an excellent cook, and there are several dishes that I adore, but only when she makes them, like chicken and dumplings, grape leaf rolls, chicken picatta, salmon in dill cream sauce, and (even though she hates making it) liver and onions.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Assuming all life-sustaining necessities are a given, it pretty much looks like this (in no particular order):

1. My wife. She's my rock, and in any conflict between her and another necessity, she wins.

2. Computer and internet. It's the introvert's lifeline. Not to mention, I sort of make my living that way.

3. Healthy sex life. You can only make friends with your right hand for so long.

4. Circus Peanuts. Those orange marshmallow-type things that are pretty much pure sugar and fat? Oh, yeah, those are my weakness.

5. The Serenity DVD. If I had to pick one movie to be the only one I could watch for the rest of my life, this would be the one.

6. Sonic screwdriver. Cause that thing can do ANYTHING. Oh, wait, it's not real? Damn. Never mind, then.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
polyamory, BDSM, science fiction, role-playing, ways to improve the randomness of the iTunes 'shuffle' function, and why 'slim chance' and 'fat chance' actually mean the same thing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dancing!! I have fallen in love with ballroom dancing, and spend pretty much every Friday night twirling beautiful women around the dance floor for hours.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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This one time... at band camp... umm, actually, I was never in the band. Chorus, yes; band, no.

Seriously, though, I'm not a very private person by nature. My life is very much an open book. I have no shame or modesty, so anything you want to know, I will tell you. Probably exhaustingly. In graphic detail. With diagrams if necessary.

Really. I have no TMI filter. You may find yourself saying "Okay, that's more than I needed to know!" from time to time.
You should message me if
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1. I sound interesting. There's not really any other way to put it. If I sound like someone that you'd like to talk to, then go for it. I am up for pretty much anything from email-pals to friends to lovers, so there's nothing to lose.

2. You are comfortable with non-monogamy. It's surprising how many people read this profile, send me a message, and then are stunned when I say my wife wants to meet them. What part of "open and honest" is confusing?

3. Actually, there isn't a number 3. I just don't like lists of only 2 items.

Oh, and if you act now, and I'll throw in a free handy-dandy, super deluxe, waterproof, shock-resistant, genuine imitation silver letter opener! (However, due to the recent postal hike, you must appear in person to collect the free gift. While supplies last, void where prohibited, your mileage may vary, results not typical, no refunds or substitutions.)