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50 San Jose, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Nov 8
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Latin (Poorly), Russian (Poorly), LISP (Okay)

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My self-summary
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So here's the pre-summary. I sometimes travel to mid-town NYC for a few days at a time, which was generally once a month, but is of decreased frequency for now. However, for another job, I'll soon be traveling to San Jose for a week at a time (maybe a couple times a month), so it would be great to make contacts there rather than just be alone in some nice hotel. My main profile (probably better maintained) is Lotus-Eater.

Let's see, stealing something from myself: Non-famous intellectual turned famous writer (about computer programs). All around good guy, leftie, kind to small animals, erudite... There's a nice saying about the cardinal virtues of programming being laziness, impatience, and hubris. I got them in spades.

I've had a few recent lives. A slightly fading recent life had me "mostly bored in a small town in New England"; then I became "mostly frenetic in a big city" (Los Angeles). After the frenetic, I worked on phronetic for the last half of 2007. And now since 2008, I've worked for an amazingly challenging, and intriguing contract that will put me at bicoastal between LA and NYC.

I reckon that I should mention that I have several non-exclusive and ongoing relationships. If your interest is (partially) of the dating/sex variety, I think that is great, and welcome the contact; just to let you know the context. Of course, if you might want to to do something purely as friends/activity partners, that would be equally groovy.

I am intellectual, observant, and accepting
What I’m doing with my life
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Oh, writing (about) computer programs, to get money (quite a bit of it, even). Writing about most everything else when I steal moments from the stuff that gets me money. I used to be a humanities academic; but after a decade I figured out people don't pay much for that. I'm still an "avocational academic" though. Volunteering for a bunch of do-gooder organizations, despite the fact I sound cynical if I try to explain reasons why I do so.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Ummm... quite a bit actually.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The funny words, arranged in complex syntactic forms, that seem to flow out of my fingers and lips.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Hobbies and Interests: Film, philosophy, theory, art, theatre, tattoos, law, body building, travel, leftist politics, geeky stuff

Favorite Books: Kapital, Blood and Guts in High School, Naked Lunch, Sublime Object of Ideology, The Birth of Heroin & The Demonization of the Dope Fiend, TAZ (Temporary Autonomous Zone)

Favorite Movies: Dead Man, High and Low, Children of Heaven, Dreams, City of Hope, Dogville, Storytelling, Existenz

Favorite Music: Gilian Welch, Iggy Pop, Wilco, Velvet Underground, Iris DeMent, New York Dolls, Disposable Heroes of Hiphopricy, Rancid, Bob Dylan, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, PJ Harvey, Pere Ubu, Alice Donut, Bright Eyes, Cake

Favorite TV Shows: guiltily: those ones where they use fancy machines to detect forensic clues to murders. Oh, and everything by Joss Whedon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. 128 kps or better; 2. overactive superego; 3. a wonderment at the beauty in the world; 4. a deep cynicism; 5. random digressions; 6. love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What can I know? What ought I do? What may I hope? ... oh yeah, and sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Thinking about epistemology, normativity, inspiration, and sex. Usually acting on the thoughts too. Sometimes worrying about the propriety of a Harvard comma.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Actually, anything at all. There's never been much anything about myself that I wouldn't happily confess to strangers. My life hasn't been all that bland, though I won't claim the stuff of epics or smutty stories either. But none of it is anything I feel shame about, even the stuff that a lot of folks say you should do so of; anything I've done is something I think is right to do.
You should message me if
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Just because. If you're bored. If you're interesting or interested. If you'd like to go see a good film, or a bad film; or especially a museum or theater. Or if you'd just like to hang out a bit, and are relatively nearby.

I am involved in several non-exclusive and ongoing relationships, what the young folks call polyamory. If your interest is (partially) of the romance/sex variety, I think that is great, and welcome the contact; I just want to let you know the context. Of course, if you might want to do something purely as friends/activity partners, that could be groovy as well.


What I would ideally like to find is pretty specific, although feels elusive. I would like a meaningful, caring, ongoing, and non-exclusive relationship with a woman who:

* is brilliant and intellectually engaged in some area(s) of thought;
* is beautiful and sexy;
* has graduate education, preferably a doctorate or other terminal degree;
* is politically and socially knowledgeable, and therefore leftist;
* has a very high sex drive (being a size queen also wouldn't hurt our compatibility);
* lives close enough to me frequently to spend time together.

This isn't to say, certainly, that folks not quite matching all the criteria shouldn't contact me. But I can still have a goal, no?